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it all stems from our perception of the world,
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the perception of the world that we've inherited from our DNA
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relationships to time are contagious,
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and the one that we maintain in a logical and linear relationship with time.
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But this conditioning to be overwhelmed with tasks is totally reversible.
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Soon you will be able to stop feeling
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guilty or proud for being an overwhelmed person.
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Let's start with the compelling messages from the past
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that condition our time management.
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Doctor Tybe Kalla identified 5 compelling messages,
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5 drivers in transactional analysis.
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hurry up and be perfect.
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if you're big on pleasing others,
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you'll certainly have trouble saying no to everybody's solicitations.
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bending over backwards for the sake of others and filling
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your time with menial favors or attention towards others.
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You risk losing sight of your own goals,
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making detours so that your actions don't bother or harm anyone.
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Am I bothering you?
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Are you sure you're OK?
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You're afraid of hurting,
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of disappointing.
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Here's my suggestion,
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replace pleasing others with putting myself first.
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If you're big on trying hard,
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you must think that you need to sweat,
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even suffer to get somewhere.
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You'll tend to choose difficult tasks,
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make them even more complicated than they initially were.
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You'll spend time doing some actions which
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will prove your perseverance and skills,
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but are absolutely unnecessary.
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You want to show that you don't spare yourself from struggle,
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so you don't always take the shortest,
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easiest or happiest path to reach a goal.
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Here's my suggestion,
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replace the try harder with how to do it the easy way.
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If you're big on be strong,
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you tend to say yes to prove your worth.
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You like to show that you can do it all on
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your own without complaining and especially not showing your weakness.
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You rely very rarely on the group.
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You believe that you don't.
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Need help or delegation,
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you can overload yourself with work without showing a single sign
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up until your emotions or your body
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sounds the alarm.
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Here's my suggestion,
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replace be strong with let's play collectively.
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If you're big on be perfect,
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you tend to spend a lot of time polishing your work until it's perfect.
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When you do this,
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you delay the completion of any project,
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even if nobody other than you can see the difference.
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And if this perfection has no real added value on the projects,
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this irresistible need to be in control will make you waste time.
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Too much attention to tidiness,
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too much attention to detail,
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and sometimes difficulty making decisions because
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how can you be sure
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it's the right one.
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Here's my suggestion,
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replace be perfect with
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If you're big on hurry up.
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maybe without admitting it to yourself,
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acting under pressure,
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sometimes hastily.
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Feeling like you're doing lots of things with efficiency,
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You think responsiveness is a guarantee of performing,
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but sometimes it makes you take bad decisions or turn in a poorly finished job.
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The hurry up kind of people are usually hyperactive.
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They may sometimes switch from one task to another without taking the time
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to get deep enough to add their full value to the project.
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They go as far as giving themselves last minute tasks to
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make sure they run all the way to the end.
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Here's my suggestion,
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replace hurry up with
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settle down and breathe.
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These 5 compelling messages,
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also called the 5 drivers,
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are tackled from another angle in the delegating or taking up
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it's very hard to delegate when we're driven by one of them.
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I would now like to ask the question,
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why am I overwhelmed from another angle?
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Why am I overwhelmed?
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Because what I want to do needs more time
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than I can afford.
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So I am under the impression that I lack time when I see the mountain I have to climb.
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I then have the choice between two paths.
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Either I change my to do list,
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sorting through it and prioritizing,
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and or I delegate and negotiate with other people.
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an important question will help you sort through things.
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Do I want to put myself,
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the children to bed,
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or do I just want them to be in their bed?
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Do I want to organize a meeting,
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or do I want this meeting to be organized by someone?
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There's a difference between the actions that I want
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to do myself and those that I want done.
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Maybe someone else can get it done.
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That's when you negotiate and delegate.
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The other path I can suggest is changing my
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perception of the time needed to perform a task.
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I think I need 4 hours to finish up this project.
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Why not 3 hours?
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I think this meeting should last an hour.
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why not 30 minutes?
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Parkinson's law states that all work ends up occupying the time allotted to it.
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If you set yourself a day to finish a job,
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it will be finished in a day.
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If you set yourself a week,
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it will take a week.
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Time boxing adepts have retained this law by defining
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in advance a tight allocated time for each task.
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I give myself an hour to finish this file.
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Setting deadlines,
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a timing you can't exceed can be extremely efficient.
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We often notice that the last moments are the most productive,
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especially in the creativity and decision making phase.
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We are limited by a very linear and repetitive perception of time.
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It's hard for our brain to imagine that we can perform certain tasks faster
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when we're used to performing them on a specific timing.
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I've experienced that.
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I divided the writing time for my videos by 4.
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My brain would have sworn it was impossible,
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and yet I did it.
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Time is meant to serve us.
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It can be elastic,
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magical even if we don't imprison it within our certainties.
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Certainties like I need 5 hours to rewrite my CV,
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or we need 3 meetings to decide what our new logo will be.
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Be flexible with time and give yourself challenges from time to time
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outside of logic and linearity.
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I give myself 15 minutes to make this call with my client
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to deal with such or such an issue
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and let your intelligence and your clients bring
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you the solution on a silver platter.
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