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by the scoring system in school and sports activities.
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although it still has great influence in the corporate world,
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the culture of competition is increasingly undermined.
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We will see in this video
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how to get the best out of competition.
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The attitude to adopt in front of a competitor
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and finally how to move from a culture of competition
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to a culture of collaboration.
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How to get the most out of competition in the professional and personal sphere.
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Competition has some advantages,
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especially in the construction of a child's identity.
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This is a normal,
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healthy passage for most children.
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Competition often arises naturally between children of the same family.
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Competition with others is a stimulus to grow.
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Children define themselves by comparing themselves.
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I'm good at soccer.
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I don't know how to sing.
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I'm bad at spelling.
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I'm good at maths.
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I'm better at running.
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I have better clothes.
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seeks to surpass themselves in certain areas by surpassing others,
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their point of comparison.
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Competition in school and athletic competition
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are spurs of progress for most children who
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build self-esteem under the gaze of others.
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Without going too far into psychology,
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I would say that competition flatters and kills the ego at the same time.
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It flatters it as soon as there is victory and superiority over the opponent.
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It kills it as soon as there is defeat and superiority of the other one.
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It is a school of life among other schools of life.
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If when you lose or when you are less good than others,
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you feel dejected,
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it is a sign of low self-esteem.
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The fragile ego has taken a hit.
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Two options are available to you.
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Either you tell yourself that you are really not cut out for competition,
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and you stop all competition and comparison,
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or you tell yourself that competition is.
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Perfect for teaching you how to overcome
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the egotistical wound of defeat.
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When I was a child,
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my mother signed me up for tennis competitions.
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it was a tragedy for me.
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I shouted that I was bad and I would never want to play again.
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I would rather say an unbalanced child's ego in search of success and recognition.
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I could have stopped the competition.
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or at least my mum chose,
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that I continue.
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I learned to continue to feel good,
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to believe in my worth,
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even when I was losing.
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The competition had fulfilled its role.
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There are people who have passed into adulthood and continue to compete.
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They continue to be competitors either because as a child it's
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stimulated them joyfully and they won more often than they lost.
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So they want to continue.
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or the opposite because they have revenge to take,
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or simply because they see competition as the only way to live.
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They have cultivated a vision of if you are not the strongest,
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you will get done over.
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You will get eaten.
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Competition is their mode of survival.
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Whatever their reasons for remaining competitive into adulthood,
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these people will seek environments or professions which cultivate competition.
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companies that are or aim to become number one,
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or a commercial job electrified by the desire to achieve the best results.
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Without competition,
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the motivation of some salespeople would quickly dissolve it.
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and then let's be honest,
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we are all still a bit competitive
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because only a few enlightened beings cease to compare themselves to others
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to define and evaluate themselves in relation to others.
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The paradox is that even though it is stressful,
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competition still stimulates many people to work more or work better.
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You are the best.
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you are the last mortifies us.
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The carrot and the stick.
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still have an effect on a lot of people
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when our country wins the football World Cup
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or that the last Nobel is awarded to a scientist from our own country,
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many derive a sense of pleasure or even pride.
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The competition will therefore be relevant as long as we remain human.
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To enhance this competition,
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to be vigilant about the competitive spirit.
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Use it as a stimulus towards a shared goal
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without turning it into an unhealthy game of rivalry.
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Here's a terrible example of a manager.
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Telling two of her coworkers,
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I'm leaving at the end of the year,
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and one of you will have to take my post.
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You have 6 months to convince us you are the most suitable for the job.
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To be in competition
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against the one with whom I collaborate regularly like
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my colleague in the office is to be avoided
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unless you are dealing with two competitors who need this.
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Competition can for some generate demotivation,
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especially for those who measure their value by
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their success and or who lack confidence.
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To add to the dissatisfaction,
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some competitors will damage the self-confidence of those with whom they compete.
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They will need to put the other person down
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to denigrate them and bring everything back to themselves.
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It has been proven
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that teams perform less well when there is
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internal competition between employees of the same company.
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I invite you not to separate the competition from the game.
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Staying in a playful atmosphere
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will help ensure a positive state of mind.
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No need to win to have a good time.
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Having participated in the game will be satisfying in itself.
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victory will be just the icing on the cake.
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What attitude to adopt in front of a competitor,
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because we must admit
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that competitive people are often admired or hated.
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It's time to put some balance in the judgment against them.
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If you tend to despise the competitive type,
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I invite you to open up before you condemn them,
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for the competitor,
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surpassing oneself is an engine,
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and this engine runs on the fuel of comparison.
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I surpass myself because I'm better than you or because I'm in the top 10
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instead of judging the competitive ones,
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that only someone who is not confident in their
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intrinsic worth seeks to compare themselves to others,
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to compare their results to others,
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to be recognized for their achievement.
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If they try to put you down,
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it is for fear that you will surpass them.
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So accept without judgment
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that competition is their driving force.
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Make a game with them
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so that humor and lightness remain and let no one clench their teeth or bite.
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play with the competitors.
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Put them on team challenges,
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and thus their desire to win will be mingled with cooperation.
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And greet the competitive one with compassion if defeat
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or failure has brought them to their knees.
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If they feel they are worthy of attention and recognition,
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even when they lose,
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they will more easily end their lonely run to the podium.
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If you are in the competitor's fan club,
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lower them from the pedestal from which you are holding them.
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that their successes do not make them more exceptional or lovable in your eyes.
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That you are not in awe of their victories
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and that you continue to hold them in esteem no matter their failures,
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they will feel more secure.
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Their self-esteem and their relationships with others will improve.
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chasing the carrot.
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They will no longer need to prove their worth to everyone.
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Your benevolent neutrality will have vaccinated them
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from their race to the podium.
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They will be able to develop simplicity and cooperation
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and to accept to be normal and unique.
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Usually in their 50s,
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competitive people have gained wisdom
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and no longer seek to be the best.
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The conclusions of the chapter
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to admire the competitors or to despise them are two
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attitudes which won't serve you and won't serve them.
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with self-defined rules of the game.
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Adopt a benevolent neutrality towards them,
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and stimulate their spirit of cooperation.
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How to move from competition to cooperation.
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bet on group competition.
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Group competition is a first step towards cooperation.
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If you want to boost your teams through competition,
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compete together as a team.
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Give the competitive person team missions,
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and they will stimulate everyone to move forward,
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drawn by their desire to win at all costs.
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Competing with my volleyball team against the opposing team,
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fighting with my company against the rival company.
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Research has shown
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that results are best when cooperation takes precedence in teams.
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It found that better results were obtained
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in schools when cooperative learning was promoted.
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In view of the many cross-functional projects in a company,
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we realize how inefficient the competition between the departments is,
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often the mirror of competition between the managers of these departments.
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It is not in the best interests of the company
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that the quality service and the technical service compete.
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The more mature an organization,
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the more cooperative it is.
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Competition is based on the win-lose principle,
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Large companies have understood the value of cooperation,
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even with their competitors.
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Samsung manufactures Apple touch screens.
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Volkswagen and Ford cooperate on the electric car.
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Diversify the drivers of engagement.
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Can the competitive person lose their motivation if they can no longer compete?
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For the majority of employees,
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cooperation is far more effective than competition.
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of the competitive engine completely,
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I invite you to expand the motivation levers for the whole team recognition,
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or a new mission.
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Tip 3 foster emotional maturity.
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I get up in the morning,
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not to be the best and win.
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I get up to surpass myself.
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We no longer compare ourselves to others,
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but to ourselves,
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to an ideal to which we aspire.
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And then the final step,
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I'm going to work in the morning,
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neither to be better.
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Or even to surpass myself,
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but just for the pleasure of experimenting,
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no need for carrots or sticks,
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just surf the natural urge of mature humans,
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their urge to learn,
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to get out of their comfort zone.
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competition is not bad in itself.
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It can be productive,
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especially when you use it in a fun way with shared rules.
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If you want to keep a competitive atmosphere,
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Validate that competition does not create undue stress
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and that it does not create unhealthy power games between people.
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At the same time,
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maintain a strong spirit of cooperation and mutual aid.
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Cooperation is ideal if you know how to maintain it with a good dose of motivation,
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and why not a dose of competition.
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