Competition or cooperation Tutorial

Explore the dynamic interplay of competition and cooperation in our lives in 'Competition or Cooperation.' Discover how competition shapes identity, motivates growth, and can either uplift or undermine us. This video offers strategies to harness competition positively, fostering teamwork over rivalry and promoting emotional maturity. Dive in to transform your perspective on how we interact in personal and professional spheres!

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by the scoring system in school and sports activities.

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However,

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although it still has great influence in the corporate world,

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the culture of competition is increasingly undermined.

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We will see in this video

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how to get the best out of competition.

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The attitude to adopt in front of a competitor

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and finally how to move from a culture of competition

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to a culture of collaboration.

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How to get the most out of competition in the professional and personal sphere.

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Competition has some advantages,

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especially in the construction of a child's identity.

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This is a normal,

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I dare to say,

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healthy passage for most children.

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Competition often arises naturally between children of the same family.

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Competition with others is a stimulus to grow.

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Children define themselves by comparing themselves.

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I'm good at soccer.

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I don't know how to sing.

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I'm bad at spelling.

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I'm good at maths.

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I'm better at running.

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I have better clothes.

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The child

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seeks to surpass themselves in certain areas by surpassing others,

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their point of comparison.

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Competition in school and athletic competition

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are spurs of progress for most children who

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build self-esteem under the gaze of others.

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Without going too far into psychology,

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I would say that competition flatters and kills the ego at the same time.

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It flatters it as soon as there is victory and superiority over the opponent.

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It kills it as soon as there is defeat and superiority of the other one.

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It is a school of life among other schools of life.

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If when you lose or when you are less good than others,

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you feel dejected,

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it is a sign of low self-esteem.

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The fragile ego has taken a hit.

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In these cases.

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Two options are available to you.

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Either you tell yourself that you are really not cut out for competition,

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and you stop all competition and comparison,

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or you tell yourself that competition is.

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Perfect for teaching you how to overcome

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the egotistical wound of defeat.

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When I was a child,

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my mother signed me up for tennis competitions.

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When I lost,

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it was a tragedy for me.

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I was angry.

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I cried.

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I shouted that I was bad and I would never want to play again.

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Too much pride,

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I would rather say an unbalanced child's ego in search of success and recognition.

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I could have stopped the competition.

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I chose,

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or at least my mum chose,

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that I continue.

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I learned to continue to feel good,

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to believe in my worth,

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even when I was losing.

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The competition had fulfilled its role.

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There are people who have passed into adulthood and continue to compete.

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They continue to be competitors either because as a child it's

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stimulated them joyfully and they won more often than they lost.

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So they want to continue.

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It feeds them,

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or the opposite because they have revenge to take,

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or simply because they see competition as the only way to live.

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They have cultivated a vision of if you are not the strongest,

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you will get done over.

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You will get eaten.

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Competition is their mode of survival.

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Whatever their reasons for remaining competitive into adulthood,

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these people will seek environments or professions which cultivate competition.

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For example,

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companies that are or aim to become number one,

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or a commercial job electrified by the desire to achieve the best results.

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Without competition,

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the motivation of some salespeople would quickly dissolve it.

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Is their fuel

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and then let's be honest,

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we are all still a bit competitive

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because only a few enlightened beings cease to compare themselves to others

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to define and evaluate themselves in relation to others.

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The paradox is that even though it is stressful,

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competition still stimulates many people to work more or work better.

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Well done.

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You are the best.

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Cheerrish us.

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er,

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you are the last mortifies us.

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The carrot and the stick.

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Of competition

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still have an effect on a lot of people

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when our country wins the football World Cup

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or that the last Nobel is awarded to a scientist from our own country,

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many derive a sense of pleasure or even pride.

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It's OK.

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It's human.

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The competition will therefore be relevant as long as we remain human.

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To enhance this competition,

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I invite

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first

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to be vigilant about the competitive spirit.

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Use it as a stimulus towards a shared goal

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without turning it into an unhealthy game of rivalry.

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Here's a terrible example of a manager.

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Telling two of her coworkers,

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I'm leaving at the end of the year,

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and one of you will have to take my post.

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You have 6 months to convince us you are the most suitable for the job.

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To be in competition

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against the one with whom I collaborate regularly like

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my colleague in the office is to be avoided

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unless you are dealing with two competitors who need this.

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The second tip.

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Competition can for some generate demotivation,

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devaluation,

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blocking,

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especially for those who measure their value by

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their success and or who lack confidence.

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To add to the dissatisfaction,

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some competitors will damage the self-confidence of those with whom they compete.

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They will need to put the other person down

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to denigrate them and bring everything back to themselves.

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It has been proven

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that teams perform less well when there is

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internal competition between employees of the same company.

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Finally,

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the third tip.

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I invite you not to separate the competition from the game.

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Staying in a playful atmosphere

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will help ensure a positive state of mind.

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No need to win to have a good time.

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Having participated in the game will be satisfying in itself.

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If it's a gain,

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victory will be just the icing on the cake.

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What attitude to adopt in front of a competitor,

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because we must admit

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that competitive people are often admired or hated.

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It's time to put some balance in the judgment against them.

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If you tend to despise the competitive type,

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I invite you to open up before you condemn them,

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for the competitor,

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surpassing oneself is an engine,

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and this engine runs on the fuel of comparison.

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I surpass myself because I'm better than you or because I'm in the top 10

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instead of judging the competitive ones,

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remember

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that only someone who is not confident in their

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intrinsic worth seeks to compare themselves to others,

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to compare their results to others,

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to be recognized for their achievement.

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If they try to put you down,

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it is for fear that you will surpass them.

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So accept without judgment

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that competition is their driving force.

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Make a game with them

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so that humor and lightness remain and let no one clench their teeth or bite.

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Yes,

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play with the competitors.

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Put them on team challenges,

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and thus their desire to win will be mingled with cooperation.

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And greet the competitive one with compassion if defeat

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or failure has brought them to their knees.

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If they feel they are worthy of attention and recognition,

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even when they lose,

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they will more easily end their lonely run to the podium.

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If you are in the competitor's fan club,

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lower them from the pedestal from which you are holding them.

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When they see

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that their successes do not make them more exceptional or lovable in your eyes.

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That you are not in awe of their victories

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and that you continue to hold them in esteem no matter their failures,

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they will feel more secure.

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Their self-esteem and their relationships with others will improve.

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They will stop

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chasing the carrot.

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They will no longer need to prove their worth to everyone.

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Your benevolent neutrality will have vaccinated them

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from their race to the podium.

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They will be able to develop simplicity and cooperation

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and to accept to be normal and unique.

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Usually in their 50s,

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competitive people have gained wisdom

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and no longer seek to be the best.

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The conclusions of the chapter

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to admire the competitors or to despise them are two

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attitudes which won't serve you and won't serve them.

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Play with them

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with self-defined rules of the game.

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Adopt a benevolent neutrality towards them,

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and stimulate their spirit of cooperation.

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How to move from competition to cooperation.

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Tip one,

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bet on group competition.

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Group competition is a first step towards cooperation.

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If you want to boost your teams through competition,

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compete together as a team.

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Give the competitive person team missions,

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and they will stimulate everyone to move forward,

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drawn by their desire to win at all costs.

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Competing with my volleyball team against the opposing team,

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fighting with my company against the rival company.

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Research has shown

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that results are best when cooperation takes precedence in teams.

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It found that better results were obtained

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in schools when cooperative learning was promoted.

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In view of the many cross-functional projects in a company,

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we realize how inefficient the competition between the departments is,

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often the mirror of competition between the managers of these departments.

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It is not in the best interests of the company

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that the quality service and the technical service compete.

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The more mature an organization,

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the more cooperative it is.

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Competition is based on the win-lose principle,

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while.

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Seeks win-win.

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Large companies have understood the value of cooperation,

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even with their competitors.

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Samsung manufactures Apple touch screens.

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Volkswagen and Ford cooperate on the electric car.

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Tip 2.

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Diversify the drivers of engagement.

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Can the competitive person lose their motivation if they can no longer compete?

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Yes,

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that's a risk.

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For the majority of employees,

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cooperation is far more effective than competition.

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It's proven.

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However,

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if you let go

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of the competitive engine completely,

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be vigilant.

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I invite you to expand the motivation levers for the whole team recognition,

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autonomy,

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teleworking,

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or a new mission.

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Tip 3 foster emotional maturity.

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I get up in the morning,

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not to be the best and win.

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I get up to surpass myself.

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We no longer compare ourselves to others,

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but to ourselves,

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to an ideal to which we aspire.

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And then the final step,

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I'm going to work in the morning,

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neither to be better.

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Or even to surpass myself,

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but just for the pleasure of experimenting,

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exploring,

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creating,

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no need for carrots or sticks,

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just surf the natural urge of mature humans,

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their urge to learn,

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to explore,

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to get out of their comfort zone.

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To conclude,

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competition is not bad in itself.

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It can be productive,

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especially when you use it in a fun way with shared rules.

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If you want to keep a competitive atmosphere,

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make it a game.

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Validate that competition does not create undue stress

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and that it does not create unhealthy power games between people.

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At the same time,

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maintain a strong spirit of cooperation and mutual aid.

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Cooperation is ideal if you know how to maintain it with a good dose of motivation,

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and why not a dose of competition.

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