Cultivating a positive outlook Tutorial

Are you ready to shift your perspective and cultivate a positive outlook? In "Cultivating a Positive Outlook," discover how filters of selection, distortion, and generalization shape your view of reality. Learn powerful techniques to enhance your daily life and unleash the power of positivity that can transform challenges into opportunities. Don't miss this enlightening exploration into the dynamics of your perception!

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be positive,

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look on the bright side of things,

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the magazines say.

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What are you seeing,

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the glass half full or half empty?

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Studies prove that seeing and contemplating the best

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could give us a more fulfilling life.

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In this video,

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we will understand how our view of the

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world is always based by three filters selection,

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distortion,

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and generalization.

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But can we regain control over these three filters in order

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to cultivate a more positive outlook and improve our daily life?

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A few years ago,

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Christine Lewicki launched a blog called I Quit Complaining.

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Every day she assessed her day in a video of her successes and failures,

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her failures when she had complained.

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Her site went viral,

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and she then wrote a book on the subject more than 100,000 copies sold.

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Laughter and positive thinking are proven to be the greatest antidotes to stress.

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Humans are laughing less and less,

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even if there's no better medicine for the body and the soul.

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There are now laughter yoga classes and corporate clown training classes.

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Not feeling well,

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we can always choose to watch comedy movies and choose

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to focus on the positive in what happens to you.

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Paul Pirhonet,

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LNP coach,

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said that when a depressed person needs coaching,

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he agrees to coach them on the condition that they write

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a list of 50 things they like about their life today.

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The answer is invariably,

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but I am depressed.

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You understand that I can't see the positive,

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to which he responded that it was the initial requirement to start the coaching.

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Do you have hot water at home?

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Yes,

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answered the future client.

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Perfect.

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You just have to find 49 other subjects of satisfaction.

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Are you skeptical about the idea of cultivating a positive outlook by telling

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yourself that it is not real and that you are lying to yourself?

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I'll let you in on a secret.

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What you think is real is not.

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It's just a distorted view of reality.

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Our perceptions are permanently distorted by three filters selection,

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distortion,

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and generalization.

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The first filter is selection.

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What we perceive is only a very small part of the reality we have selected.

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We do not see everything.

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We do not hear everything.

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We keep only a small glimpse of it.

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We select information according to our focus and state of mind.

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In a stressful situation,

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for example,

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we select all the reasons to worry.

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We rarely see that we have 2 or 3 options.

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It is only afterwards that we realized that we had other options.

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If you are tired and stressed,

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you will remember more easily the reproaches that were made to you,

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the lack of smiles,

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the mistakes,

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than all the positive things that are also there.

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If you're in a bad mood on vacation,

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you will see more greasy papers lying on the beach and noisy children

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than the sea at 27 degrees,

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the blue sky,

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and the light breeze.

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Through the filter of selection,

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we only see a very small part of reality.

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The second filter is distortion.

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To better understand the new situation,

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we will capture part of the information and associate it with what we already know.

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If I tell you about my seaside vacations,

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you will understand me right away

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because you already have references on what seaside vacations look like.

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By doing so,

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you distort,

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you interpret the information,

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and sometimes the distortion,

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the interpretation of reality can take us very far away from each other.

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When I,

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someone from the north,

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tell you about my seaside vacation,

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I mean a grayish sea,

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some pebbles,

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and huge beaches of wet sand with sailboats and mussel fishing.

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Perhaps you were picturing a turquoise blue sea and palm trees.

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Besides,

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if your seaside references are positive,

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you will get excited at my proposal of a team building by the sea.

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If these references are not so good,

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you will decline my suggestion.

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You made your decision by adapting the information I'm

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giving you to the one you already know.

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Same thing if I suggest that you register for a public speaking training,

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you will imagine,

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according to your references,

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what the training will be like

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before you say yes or no.

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Finally,

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the third filter of perception is generalization.

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To save time,

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when we learn something,

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we tend to generalize it to other situations.

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What once existed is always true.

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On an emotional level,

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what was strongly experienced once or experienced several times

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will be generalized.

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So we maintain that yes,

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we can trust this client or we can't ask Philippe for anything.

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Or we will generalize based on our latest experience.

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Paul never says hello.

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This restaurant is delicious.

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This friend has a great sense of humor.

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Here is an example of a sequence of the three filters selection.

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You notice that your employee Alan did not turn in a file on time.

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At that moment you do not select the fact that a client called you about him

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to tell you that he was satisfied.

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No,

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you select the delay of the file

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first filter,

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distortion interpretation.

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According to your references,

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you will interpret this delay.

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You can tell yourself,

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for example,

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that Alan ran out of time or that he is not interested in

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his task or that he has personal problems that prevent him from focusing.

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Second filter.

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Generalization,

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if you have interpreted that he has run out of time,

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you can generalize as follows Alan is overwhelmed.

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If you have interpreted that he is not interested in his task,

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you can generalize as follows he is demotivated.

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If you have interpreted that he has

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personal problems that prevent him from focusing,

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you will deduce that his personal life is polluting his work.

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So third filter,

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generalization.

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We put on 3 pairs of glasses that transform reality and make us act.

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Of course the behavior following these three automatic filters will be different

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if we use the example of Alan,

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who did not turn in the file on time.

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If you have come to the point of Alan is overwhelmed,

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you could invite him to talk about his organization and time management.

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If you have come to the point where he is demotivated,

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you could give him more motivating files or refocus him.

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And if you have come to the point where he has personal problems,

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you will look beyond your dissatisfaction with the delay,

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or you will ask him about his private life.

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Yes,

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the reality that we made up in our heads is not reality.

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We automatically put on three pairs of glasses

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that are selection,

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distortion,

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and generalization and believe that we're perceiving reality.

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Which pair of glasses do we choose to put on?

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Do they make us see the world in gray or pink?

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Often our three filters make us fall into a negative spiral of control and stress.

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Learning to cultivate a positive outlook is not hiding the reality,

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this reality that we perceive with so much limitation.

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It simply means to be more in control of our automatic filters.

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What do I select?

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The glass half full,

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the glass half empty?

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Can I have a more complete picture of

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reality without forgetting everything that is going well?

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How I interpret what I have selected too quickly,

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negatively,

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could I go back to the facts and avoid distorting them without any perspective?

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And how do I generalize whether it will never work and I have no choice anyway,

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or rather towards a generalization as to every problem there is a solution.

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