Daring to let go Tutorial

Are you ready to embrace the power of letting go? In 'Daring to Let Go,' explore how true assertiveness and courage lie in accepting our limitations and the differences in others. Discover profound insights on navigating conflict, moving beyond stress, and finding peace in acceptance. Transform your challenges into opportunities for growth by watching now!

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to oneself and to others,

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but what is there to let go of?

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Letting go of our desire to change the other person,

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the environment,

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or ourselves.

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Letting go even of our desires for a stress-free and conflict-free life.

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Letting go is accepting to be human among other humans,

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each with our talents and vulnerabilities.

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It is to stop being at war over everything that displeases us.

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Because we have the wisdom to choose the right fights and the wisdom to accept what

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we have no power over and what is just waiting to be loved by us,

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psychologist John Goman

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has observed couples for years,

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even in their conflicts.

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He explains that couples who last are not the ones with the least amount of conflict,

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but the ones who know how to get.

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Over it than most quickly regain positive energy as

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well as a loving look at each other.

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In short,

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those who let go of their certainties and struggles,

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they have the wisdom to stop the verbal ping pong which consists of

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proving to the other person that I am right and they are wrong,

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and that therefore they must change their opinion or their way of doing things.

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There is a saying that being an adult

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is having the wisdom to discern what we can change,

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changing what we can change and accepting what we cannot change.

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Accepting what we cannot change is called letting go.

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Letting go is to stop repeating over and over again.

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It must change or it should be different.

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It is this certainty

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that feeds our stress.

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If you have really tried

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everything

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with a positive,

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compassionate,

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emotional state,

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now is the time to let go of your convictions and struggles

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and forge a path outside the battlefield by changing

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perception or changing position or partner or region.

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If there is no solution,

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then there is no problem.

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Difficulties are part of our lives,

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and it's OK to regularly have things that challenge us.

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That's human.

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Some conflicts are insoluble

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because you will never be able to change the other person

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or change them even if you tell them they must change.

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Some problems cannot be solved because you will never be able to change,

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polishing yourself and making yourself pure and perfect just like you dreamed.

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The main thing is not to lock oneself into fighting and stress,

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especially when no solution is on the horizon.

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Specialists say that our conflicts are based on the same two or three concerns that

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go round and round in a loop in our family or our professional life.

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These concerns,

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as we perceive them,

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would be intractable and endless

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as long as our perception remains the same.

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The problem is insoluble.

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We struggle for years to change ourselves or the others or the environment,

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sometimes to no avail.

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Your colleague Anna is too talkative.

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She can control herself to please you,

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but she will undoubtedly remain talkative all her life.

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It's up to you to find strategies to deal with it better,

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to accept having to always interrupt her or to change offices.

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Your boss Paul is demanding.

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He will be able to control himself a little,

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but he will undoubtedly always remain a demanding being.

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It's up to you

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to find strategies to deal with it better.

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It's up to you to say no or to change jobs.

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Your team member Andrew is disorganized.

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He will be able to make some effort,

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but he will probably remain disorganized all his life.

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It's up to you to find strategies to deal with it better,

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to help him with his organization,

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to transfer him elsewhere,

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or yourself to change positions.

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The rough sides of each other are likely to rub our sensitive sides.

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You are susceptible,

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and you have to deal with somebody who is critical.

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Maybe this is a chance to cure your susceptibility.

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You have polished communication,

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but you work in an environment

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where everyone expresses their disagreement bluntly.

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Perhaps this is an opportunity to put

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your certainties about communication into perspective.

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You are a go-getter.

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Your colleague is slow.

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Maybe this is a gift to better adjust your speed.

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Most of the time differences in perception and ways of

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doing things irritate us without being able to change them,

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and so much the better.

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It's up to us to see if it's worth it.

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You are free either to continue the collaboration

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with these people by making an opportunity of it

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to let go or to choose to bow out and collaborate with others who are more like you

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instead of trying to change the other person or yourself

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or to fight against the other one or yourself.

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Letting go is a choice.

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It is not a resignation.

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It is the fruit of a real step back,

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of an acceptance of the world and of yourself.

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This is wisdom.

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Humans will always have their moments of irritation and conflict their dramas.

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Kathami Lal Singh said,

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You have no problems.

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You create them because you are bored.

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Through wisdom and letting go,

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you will observe that new conflicts that emerge fall away very quickly.

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So much that you can laugh about it within minutes of their explosion.

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You are angry with yourself,

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with the other person,

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with the environment.

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You let out your cry.

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It had to come out.

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Woof,

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it's done.

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Now you can let go

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instead of striving to change the other person,

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yourself,

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or the environment,

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sometimes it helps,

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sometimes it doesn't.

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With letting go,

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we can laugh at having fought so hard against the windmills in the wisdom.

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Letting go,

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we can applaud ourselves for having played a

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moment with the other person or the environment,

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a scene of drama.

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It was not a drama.

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It was an experience

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which can be distilled in wisdom if we embrace it,

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if we let it go.

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