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99.999% of humans will tell you,
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and they'll list their faults or those of their peers,
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I am perfect is like saying I am God,
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and that is not acceptable.
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is shaken by terrible.
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How could we dare say that humanity is perfect
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and even a handful of humans are
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human imperfection being prescribed here is a
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goal for everyone striving for perfection,
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Words that sound good to the ear
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but which sometimes convey so much demand and lack of love.
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Each has their own definition of perfection or rather each has their
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ideal of what they should be or even what humanity should be.
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The belief of imperfection has created many quests.
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It sets us all in motion.
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perfection will be a quest for physical beauty or a quest not to lose that beauty.
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Stars get their faces done so much that we don't recognize them any more.
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the quest will be to move up the hierarchical ladder or
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just go one step or to have a good career.
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For still others,
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the quest will be a moral quest.
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The more determined will then choose a social vocation or education or religion.
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Moral values sharing,
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pave the way for an individual quest to perfection.
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that those around us reflect our values,
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that they share our quest,
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But what is freedom,
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The difference in interpretation of values often gives rise to fighting.
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The quest to live
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and make others live our values takes on the face of the quest for perfection.
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Because of course my values are perfect
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and my way of defining them is perfect.
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If you have the belief that others are not up to par,
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you will direct your quest for perfection to wanting to change them.
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If you have the belief that you are inadequate,
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you will focus your attention on changing yourself.
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Two sides of the same coin.
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The best friend of perfection is not love,
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it is discipline and duty.
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I'm going for a jog,
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and I push my friend to do the same.
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Then I'm going to eat my Weight Watcher meal,
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and I'm going to put my husband on a diet.
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Then I will work at overtime to finish and reread this file for the 3rd time.
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Then I will go and demonstrate against the wall,
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and then I will help my children with their
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homework and demand that my wife listens more.
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As soon as we cultivate a quest for perfection,
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we are sure to spend our lives
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There will always be a difference between our ideal of perfection and reality.
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Perfection has no ceiling.
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It is an endless elevator.
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We can always go higher further.
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If you need a quest to get active and in motion.
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That's pretty good.
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There will always be an even more or an even less,
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With such lifelong programs we have launched our satellite for an eternity.
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I want to be more zen.
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I'm looking for more success.
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I'm looking for more love.
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have a nice trip.
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Send me a text when you get there.
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Seen from this aspect,
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we have created a grueling race for ourselves.
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Those who have fuller values and who are the most determined will embark on
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an endless quest and will encounter many setbacks on their road to perfection.
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They will be disappointed and hurt by other humans.
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I did everything to help him get his baccalaureate,
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but he refused to work,
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I have done everything to be zen,
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but I still have temper tantrums.
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I made my two colleagues manage to talk to each other,
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but it seems they still prefer to be in conflict.
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It seems that life brings us situations time and time again
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to prove to us that our ideal is unattainable.
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We fail to change others to align with our priorities,
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our aspirations.
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we fail to even embrace our perfection.
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I've been working on my self-confidence for years,
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and I still don't trust myself.
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But what do you mean by self-confidence?
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A feeling of omnipotence,
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having no fear and no doubt.
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This is yet another unattainable goal for the humans that we are.
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And one day perhaps you will be disillusioned
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when you see that neither the world
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nor yourself meet your ideal of perfection,
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you will have three alternatives.
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Either you will choose more violence,
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change the world,
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or yourself in intransigence and lack of love with a scalpel.
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It's for my own good that I discipline myself.
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It's for your own good that I'm sculpting you.
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Either to become bitter,
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the world is bad,
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and I'm no better than most.
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What's the point of struggling
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stop chasing an idealistic,
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and moral idea of perfection
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to embrace your imperfection,
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and by embracing your imperfection,
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you learn to embrace that of others.
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Some coachches have told me,
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but if I love myself even in my imperfection,
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I won't make any effort any more.
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I will let myself go.
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that's a risk when we operate above all with the quest to succeed,
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the quest for perfection as the main engine,
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what is left after?
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You will need to find other engines.
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You say I am perfect the way I am.
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I don't need to change to progress to surpass myself.
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You'll want to go and settle in the sun lounger,
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And there your mind will come at a gallop.
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If you let go of your quest for more and better,
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you will stop getting up in the morning,
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or the mind will say you will be unviable.
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Imagine you'll stop making efforts to live communally.
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The mind pulls the alarms because it's dangerous to embrace your imperfection.
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It's dangerous to have no more.
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to no longer have I must,
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There will be no more control.
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There will be no more road,
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no more barriers,
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and no more prohibitions.
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Imagine that tomorrow
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you no longer care about professional success.
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The success value has disappeared.
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You no longer need to be recognized through a job.
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The recognition value has evaporated.
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You no longer worry about supporting your loved
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ones and children by earning money at work.
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The value of offering the best to others has vanished.
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You won't be working anymore,
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that's for sure,
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unless you really passionately like your work.
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here's another driving force,
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If all our values are gone,
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there are no more perfection criteria to be met.
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no more I have to.
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I promise you that your mind will rush to take back
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control and put perfection back on the agenda right away.
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How are you going to eat tomorrow if you stop working because you don't want to?
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Do you want to lie down on your deck chair and just live in freedom?
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What if everyone did that?
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our mind has plenty of good reasons to remind us of our imperfections
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and those of the world to make us walk with a stick.
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Are you watching this video because you think you are too much of a perfectionist?
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as long as we make our values as principles to be achieved
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and not just as preferences to be freely followed.
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So we often wait for that moment of climax,
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the moment of rupture,
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which will finally make us abandon one of our quests for perfection.
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That moment of breakdown
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it costs me too much.
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and I set up my own business.
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I drop my ambitious race to the top.
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I love my body the way it is,
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and I stop dieting.
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I choose to be a balanced and happy father rather
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than a perfect father in the service of his children.
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The elders in their wisdom,
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learned to let go of some criteria of perfection,
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to put into perspective certain.
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News which they held on to so much in their youth.
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Who am I to say what's right and wrong?
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I trust my grandson,
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even though his parents were at war with him because he dropped out of college.
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When a deadline wasn't tenable,
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I didn't spend 3 days working day and night to meet the deadline.
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The wisdom of experience
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makes us drop some of the stars of perfection.
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The judgment is made less severe on what is good or bad.
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If you let go of perfection with this wisdom,
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your life will take on a whole new dimension,
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freer and more joyful.
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Only conscious people who have distilled wisdom from their past experiences
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are ready to embrace their imperfection.
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The others still need their quest to be more or
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better to be the driving force behind their action.
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They will feel lost without rules to follow about what is right and wrong.
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only conscious people who have distilled wisdom from their
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past experiences are ready to embrace their imperfection.
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And it can happen to you quickly
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if you allow every day the wisdom of every experience to come in
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and choose to let go of your own quest for perfection.
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do you decide to let go?
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What do you decide to loosen your grip on?
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embracing our imperfection.
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No more need to change who we are.
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Lifting the foot to enjoy the present moment to love what is as it is.
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