Getting back to the essentials Tutorial

In "Getting Back to the Essentials," dive into the art of prioritizing what truly matters in your life. This engaging video explores how to reduce overwhelming tasks and embrace the present moment, highlighting insights from palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware’s wisdom. Discover the secrets to living authentically and joyfully—your essentials await!

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it is necessary to reduce our daily to do list and focus on the essentials.

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But what is essential?

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All the aspects of us have a say in this and are contradicting each other.

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You need to get some rest.

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No,

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you have to help your child with his homework,

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and who do you think is supposed to make dinner?

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In this video we will discover what will help us get back to our essentials,

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to judge what is important,

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to live in the moment and follow the wisdom of the elders.

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Time does not exist by itself.

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What we call.

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Time is a mere representation as universal as it might be.

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Time is the form of the inner sense,

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Hegel wrote.

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Nothing is more personal than the perception of time,

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and nothing is more personal than time management.

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Establishing relative importance is the first step

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that brings us back to our essential.

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Taking a step back to make our choices

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and not those that our environment imposes on us.

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If we listen to our boss.

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Colleagues,

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a teacher of our children,

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our nutritionists,

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our sports coach,

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it's a safe bet

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that we'll find ourselves with a daily to do list

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of mandatory tasks occupying 24 hours of the day.

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It's impossible to arrange everything.

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All of these tasks might be important.

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But are they vital?

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This is how we can reduce our to do list.

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What is imperative.

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If I don't do this,

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what's going to happen?

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Are there things that are a matter of life and death?

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Play with all the points on your list.

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Have fun looking at how your fears that might make you run from left to right

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are magnified in your mind.

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If you don't help your child with their homework,

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are you afraid that he'll end up homeless?

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If you don't spend Christmas with your family this year,

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are you afraid that the relationship will definitely be broken?

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If you tell your boss that the file will not be finished Tuesday,

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but Friday,

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are you afraid that you will be stuck in your career?

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I have coaches who stopped spending 1.5 hours a day

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tracking information on their cell phones and on the news.

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They realized that they still succeeded in guessing the important information

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on what was happening in the world from their entourage.

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They were less knowledgeable on current affairs,

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but they gained precious time

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for the sake of their essentials.

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Putting into perspective the need to know everything,

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to be informed about everything,

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this is quite a challenge in this era of information overload.

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Therefore,

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establishing the relative importance is first of

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all getting rid of a heavy pressure.

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It's not the end of the world if I don't do this,

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if I don't know this,

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and it's often this heavy pressure,

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whether it's coming from society,

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from our education,

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or from our past fears

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that prevents us from making the right decisions

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and the right choices.

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So make a list.

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Of your imperative tasks,

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your matters of life and death,

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it will be short,

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even empty,

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and then start to breathe.

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Then you can peacefully make a list of what's important to you

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and not for the others,

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your essentials at the moment.

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Why not make this list every day.

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Time management tools and methods are very useful,

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but they do not serve as a reflection on the meaning of your life.

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Analyzing your use of time can lead to questioning your expectations,

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and it's a risk to be taken.

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The second piece of advice to get back to the essentials,

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to live in the moment.

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It sounds simple,

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but the mind is rarely in the present.

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It's either in the past or in the future.

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It analyzes the past and plans the future

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towards the goals it has set

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like an almighty master.

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It is not experiencing the current moment.

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To live in the present is to return to the five senses,

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to experience the moment like a child playing,

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absorbed and happy.

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It doesn't care neither about the past nor the future.

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The mind is delighted when it arrives to the destination it set for itself.

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Whereas the senses are delighted along the way

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during the journey as long as it is beautiful and invigorating.

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Imagine that you have 100 kilometers to go.

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The mind will be delighted to get to the destination,

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but if the travel along those 100 kilometers is a hassle,

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devoid of any pleasure,

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is it worth it?

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The mind will tell you,

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yes,

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it's the ego's satisfaction that prevails.

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This is what I have done,

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this is what I have achieved,

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so I am a really good person.

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The experience of the current moment will have been sacrificed,

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but it doesn't matter to the mind.

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It will demand

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infinite efforts from us and will convince us that it was worth it.

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It knows how to manipulate us very well

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by giving us its to do list.

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Careful,

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I'm not saying it's not good to have ambitious and rewarding goals.

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However,

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if the path to get there is not joyful,

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it's better to reconsider your action strategy.

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We can reconcile joyful path and ambitious destination.

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There is no point sacrificing the present

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to build the future.

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The last part of this video

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is the secret of the five essential things.

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What your mind believes to be essential at a given moment is not essential.

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In hindsight,

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with the wisdom of experience,

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we realize it.

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Have you heard of Bronnie Ware's a palliative care nurse,

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her best selling book

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Top Five Regrets of the Dying?

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Live Your Life,

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not the life of others.

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Work less,

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express your feelings.

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Keep in touch with friends,

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and allow yourself to be happier.

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This is the wisdom of our elders transmitting to us what

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ultimately at the end of their life seemed essential to them.

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Live your own life,

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not that of others.

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Work less,

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express your feelings.

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Keep in touch with friends.

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Allow yourself to be happier.

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Is there a point among these five essential points that you can put at

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the top of your list and would agree to spend more time doing?

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I'll give you a moment to choose.

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Good.

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In fact,

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this acceleration of time is providential.

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It forces us to grow in consciousness,

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to be more and more awake

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and responsible for our choices.

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It's not about suffering from lack of time or managing your time,

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but more about choosing your life.

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What do you choose to experience now?

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What do you choose to live now?

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Choose the life you want to live,

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refocus on your essentials,

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breathe,

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and magically time will come to serve you in that sense.

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