Question and change your perceptions Tutorial

Are your beliefs holding you back? Discover how changing your perceptions can alleviate stress and transform conflicts into opportunities for growth. In "Question and Change Your Perceptions," we explore Byron Katie's powerful questioning technique to challenge limiting beliefs and reshape your mindset. Dive in to unearth the freedom that comes from changing your outlook and unlock a happier, more fulfilling life!

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and on each other.

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In other words,

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a change in our limiting beliefs.

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There is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.

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To me it is a prism.

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We are victims of the narrowness of our judgment on the world,

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wrote William Shakespeare.

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Our thoughts.

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And beliefs are most of the time generating our negative emotions.

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In short,

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our suffering and our conflicts,

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we feel bad

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because of our judgment of what is

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rather than because of what is.

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We feel bad

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when the other person is lying to us or insulting us,

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not because they are lying to us or.

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I repeat,

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we feel bad when the other person lies or insults us,

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not because they are lying to us and insulting us,

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but because we feel that lying and insulting is wrong.

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And this judgment,

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what the other person is doing is wrong,

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arouses unpleasant emotions in us.

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Yes,

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emotions do not precede judgment,

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they follow them.

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We sometimes believe that emotions precede judgment

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because we are not even aware of our judgments of our beliefs.

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So we think

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what the other person is doing is wrong,

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and we deduce that the solution is for them to change.

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All we think what I am doing is wrong,

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and we think we need to change.

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We feel bad when our boss blames us,

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not because he blames us.

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I repeat,

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we feel bad when our boss blames us,

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not because he blames us.

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We feel bad because we feel he shouldn't blame us

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or because we feel guilty that we haven't done well.

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In short,

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because we judge others or we judge ourselves.

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It's all a question of perception or belief.

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It is in our mind that the spiral of stress and conflict is created.

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Conflict often arises from our judgment of what is.

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We believe that.

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It is not normal.

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We believe that it should be otherwise.

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We state,

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I'm not enough intelligent,

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assertive,

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or listen to enough.

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At work we feel that my boss is too demanding or unfair,

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or we blame our colleague.

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Our man should never have done that.

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Intelligent questioning can help us break out of our limiting beliefs that create

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or fuel

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stress and conflict.

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Byron Katie in her book Loving What Is

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invites us to investigate all the thoughts that keep us under stress.

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For this purpose,

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she offers us 4 questions

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and a turnaround.

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Take the belief

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Linda doesn't respect me.

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Question one,

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is it true?

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Question 2.

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Can you be absolutely certain that this is true?

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Can you be sure that it is true that Linda?

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Doesn't respect me.

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This repeated question must shake a little our black and white certainty.

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We realize that this is only an opinion,

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a perception,

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and not the truth.

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Question 3.

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How do you react?

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What happens when you believe this thought?

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What does it create in me?

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Behavior,

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emotion,

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thoughts when I am convinced that it is true,

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when I am convinced without any doubt that Linda doesn't respect me.

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That moment we realize that our perception of which we are a little less sure

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generates in us a lot of negative emotion,

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reactions like stress and anger,

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reactions like pulling a long face at Linda,

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criticizing her with colleagues.

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Question 4.

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Who would you be without this sort?

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Who will I be?

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And how would my life be

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if I never ever believe that it is true,

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if I don't cultivate the certainty that Linda doesn't respect me at this stage,

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you realize that if you stop thinking Linda doesn't respect me,

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you will have much more positive.

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Emotions and behavior

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which shouldn't prevent you from being assertive in front of Linda.

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In short,

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these four questions

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are about stirring the mind and its certainties and showing it

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how this kind of thinking makes life very difficult and stressful.

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The last step of this technique is to turn round the belief

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with similar but reversed sentences.

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We can have fun turning thoughts around by arguing in their favor.

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If we take the belief Linda doesn't respect me,

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here are interesting turnarounds like I disrespected Linda.

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My boss disrespected Linda,

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or Linda doesn't respect herself even,

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or even I do not respect my.

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Self argue in the favor of each of these turnarounds.

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It will help shift your perspectives and open up new paths.

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This questioning of limiting beliefs can be done on any

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thoughts that keep stress and conflict in your life.

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For example,

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my supplier is dishonest,

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my colleague is lazy,

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my boss shouldn't ask me so much.

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For fundamental beliefs,

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professional help is sometimes necessary.

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In most of my coaching,

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especially for very cerebral people who think they are right to fight.

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I use questioning beliefs.

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There are conflicts that cannot be managed without lifting

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the certainties in which the mind often clings to,

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certain that it is right.

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Our mind unfortunately prefers to be right rather than see us happy,

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and you,

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would you rather be right when you can never be

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sure you are 100% right rather than being happy.

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Would you rather be right

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rather than resolve the conflict?

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Do you prefer

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to keep your certainties

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even if they make you stressed and fuel conflict with those around you?

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Byron Katty calls this questioning

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the work.

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sifting through our beliefs that generate stress and conflict in

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us and around us is indeed a real work,

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whether we do or not with these four questions,

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but which can bring so much liberation,

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I suggest you take your certainties that generate stress or conflict and sift them

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through the wonderful work questioning.

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Patricia disrespected me.

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Is that true?

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And what does it create in me when I think about it?

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We are undergoing so much change.

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Is this true?

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And who will I be if I stop repeating that thought?

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There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.

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To me it is a prison,

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and we are victims of the narrowness of our judgment on the world,

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wrote William Shakespeare.

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Shake up some of your certainties.

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Let go of the ballast.

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You will be the first beneficiary.

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Come on,

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one last limiting belief.

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I am not the right person for this new position.

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Is it true?

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And what would I do if I stopped thinking that way?

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