Stress and confidence Tutorial

Feeling overwhelmed by stress? This video, "Stress and Confidence", dives deep into the balance between managing stress and boosting self-confidence. Discover the mechanics of fear and the power of action in overcoming it. Learn how trust in yourself can transform stressful experiences into opportunities for growth. Don't let fear hold you back—watch now to embrace your resilience and courage!

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or in other words,

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how to manage everything that occurs and that

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worries us or makes us feel uncomfortable.

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How to be happy

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in a world that at first glance does not

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seem to correspond to what our mind would want.

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It's all about trust,

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trusting ourselves and trusting life and others.

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In this video we will first zoom in on the mechanics of fear and self-confidence,

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then on the control mechanisms of the mind.

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Let's first discuss the link between fear and self-confidence.

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Fear is perceived as a break,

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a handicap,

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which prevents us from trusting ourselves or others.

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That's why fear,

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if it directs our lives,

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becomes the antithesis of trust.

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If I do that,

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if I say that,

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there's a big risk.

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I'll be rejected,

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I will be judged,

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my image will be tainted.

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I will have less pleasure.

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I risk losing money.

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Fear perceives that the risk of doing this or saying this is too high.

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If we don't follow these fear signals but act in spite of them,

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we'll feel high tension and a very fragile confidence,

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so fragile that we will do it badly or maybe even fail,

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and fear will tell us.

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I was right to be afraid,

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you see,

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it was too risky.

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Sometimes fear collapses a strong desire.

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Two parties confront each other.

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Was fear right to prevent us going through this or that experience?

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Perhaps we were not ready.

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This did not mean that the experience was to be avoided.

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It was only that our body and mind were not ready for the experience.

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What if fear only has this role to hold us back

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sometimes through hormone secretion not to tell us don't go,

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but rather to tell us don't go now.

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We're not ready yet.

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To tame fear is to make it something normal.

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It is normal for humans to be apprehensive about the unknown.

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It is normal that they are afraid to go out of their

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comfort zone or to places where they have suffered in the past.

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But who is going to win,

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the desire to explore or the fear to go?

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Fear gives us a warning message.

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Our master part,

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our inner being,

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is strong enough and wise enough to deal with that warning message.

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First,

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is the warning message of fear?

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Don't go.

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It's really dangerous.

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It won't be good for you.

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Probably appropriate advice to follow.

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Is the message don't go now because you're not ready.

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Get ready and we'll talk about it later.

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Probably appropriate advice to follow.

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Is the message?

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Oh my God,

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what's going to happen?

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I'd rather not go.

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I'm afraid because I can't control it.

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Too much unknown for me or too many bad memories.

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In this third case,

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it is time to reconnect with the desire to go.

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It's time to take by the hand the little boy or girl who is afraid in us and to go.

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It is not my childish fear that will have the last word.

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It is my desire to experience.

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Our reptilian and limbic brains sometimes paralyse us as if there was real danger,

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as if our survival were at stake.

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As if a sabre toothed tiger would pounce on us

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in public speaking situations,

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for example,

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we are in these archaic reflexes of reptilian and mammalian

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brains that we have in common with the animal world.

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In fact,

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if you are an animal alone facing a group of

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animals in a circle around you looking at you,

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you're going to die soon.

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They will attack you.

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They will eat you.

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All those pairs of red eyes looking at you silently.

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This is your death warrant.

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But in public speaking,

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your physical survival is not threatened,

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even if your archaic brain believes it.

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For those who are stressed by public speaking,

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your body is so alarmed that you will try to run away,

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or worse,

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you will be paralysed,

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unable to find your words.

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Those words that are in your neocortex brain which you cannot access in fear.

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Our reptilian brain takes over thinking that public

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speaking is a threat to our survival.

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When we breathe and step back,

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when we understand that this reptilian fear of being alone

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in front of an audience is somehow normal and logical,

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then we contain this fear.

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Remember

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that this is a distorted perception of reality that no one is going to eat us or kill us

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and choose trust,

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confidence in ourselves,

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confidence in this environment that we thought was hostile,

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and finally act

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because the best way to tame fear is to act.

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Confidence is to have the courage to act without knowing the result.

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It is to leave one's comfort zone to try something new.

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We often want to have confidence before acting.

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It's possible.

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It's OK,

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but you risk getting into a routine if you

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always wait until you are confident before acting.

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In the case of experimenting with the new,

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trust will not be the prerequisite,

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but the consequence,

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the consequence of the action.

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The action,

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in spite of the fear,

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is what generates trust.

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And the more you dare to act,

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even with the knot in your stomach,

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the more your confidence will grow.

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One day your confidence will be such

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that you will no longer feel the knot in your stomach,

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even when you go outside your comfort zone,

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even when you encounter failure.

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You will keep your confidence in yourself and in life.

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You will turn failure into a learning opportunity.

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Now let's talk about the control mechanism of the mind.

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Our mind likes to control,

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decide,

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and plan for the future.

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It hates not knowing what tomorrow will look like.

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It does not like uncertainty or change.

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When it cannot master or control,

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it sets the alarm

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with a lot of unpleasant emotions,

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especially fear,

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that it creates from scratch to avoid taking new paths too risky.

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It strives to prove to us that our dreams are unfeasible,

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that it will never work.

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It keeps us in the known.

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Indeed,

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our mind is not made to manage the unknown,

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but it excels at managing the known

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and creating successful and endlessly repetitive programmes and processes.

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The mind tells its own stories about the past and the future.

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It reminds us that terrible things have happened

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and that terrible things can happen again.

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It is manipulated by perceptions,

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a mental imagery that sees with a dark philtre past and future disasters.

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It does not differentiate between past,

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present,

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future,

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imagined or real.

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Trust requires going beyond that mind in any case,

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not to let it.

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whole life and take all our decisions.

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Otherwise your life will be very boring,

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a life with zero risk,

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a life where everything is under control.

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To have confidence is to dare to go beyond the known,

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the mastered.

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It's believing that you have everything to gain by going outside your comfort zone.

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So stress or confidence,

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which do you choose?

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Stress and confidence.

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Stress is OK if trust is sovereign.

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Trust in you in life,

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trust in our resilience,

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our ability to always bounce back to the best.

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Moments of intense stress

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are moments of chaos

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that are often profitable if we embrace their meaning and their benefits.

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Crisis is the germ of a new beginning for those who

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do not cling to the past and resist what happens.

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If you think you have tried everything

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to resolve a very difficult and stressful situation

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and everything seems to be slipping away from you.

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It may be you need to open your hands and stop holding back.

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Choose to trust in what is happening to you

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that you can't control or no longer control.

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Separation,

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dismissal.

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Do not hold back the overflowing river by feverishly

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adding bags of sand to plug it up.

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Trust that the flood will bring a new fresh start,

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new plantings in a soil that needed cleaning.

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Ultimately,

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therefore,

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trust yourself

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even in the midst of stress,

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breathe,

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take care of yourself,

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let the answers come and dare to discover new paths.

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We have more resources in us than we think.

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All is well.

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