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Many wise men and philosophers argue that impatience
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is not only painful but more importantly,
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How do we tame it so that it becomes a real driving force instead of harming us?
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I will approach the subject in 4 points.
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the impatience crisis.
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releasing the pressure.
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letting go of perfectionism,
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trying the antidote to impatience,
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we are witnessing a crisis of impatience.
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We want things to go fast just like technology goes fast.
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We can get so much in a few clicks that it
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seems like an eternity when our desires are not immediately fulfilled.
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Our mind determines our desires in a few seconds.
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The virtual offers most things in a few seconds.
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We have speed dating to find love quickly,
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fast food and speedy pizzas to eat quickly,
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speed coaching to solve our problems in a few hours,
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speed delivery to be delivered by Amazon in 1 day instead of 2.
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Our impatience can sometimes cost us lots of money and not only money.
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This desire to go faster is based on the premise that tomorrow will be a better day.
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When I get my promotion,
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when I receive my new smartphone,
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when I find love,
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there is something happening or that could happen
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that I imagine as better than my current daily life.
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We imagine ourselves in a more or less near future which looks better.
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And from desire to desire,
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from impatience to impatience,
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we forget to take full advantage of the current moment.
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The right thing to do would be to take advantage of the present moment while looking
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forward for a tomorrow that would also be
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a beautiful moment with new surprises and experiences,
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happily alternating between the satisfaction of the now
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and the mental expectation of the after.
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impatience becomes painful.
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If we're waiting for what's to come without loving what we are going through,
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that is what I call hell.
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It's as if we were donkeys running desperately after an unreasonable carrot.
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there is joyful impatience and painful impatience.
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If impatience turns into waiting,
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My first advice will therefore be to release the pressure.
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Waiting is tensing.
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The mind pressures.
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I can't wait for the contract to be signed.
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I can't wait for the traffic jam to be over.
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I can't wait for the customer to call me back.
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I can't wait for my retirement.
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I can't wait to get a job.
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I can't wait to get pregnant.
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The mind is hyperfocalized.
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There is nothing but its expectation,
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its desire filling your whole present,
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and the body tightens.
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The stress engraves in the muscles,
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the digestive system,
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Some go as far as to live in constant anguish.
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I prompt you to never again undergo waiting times.
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Your mind wants something
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How can you keep your body and mind busy
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with something else so that this weight does not turn into stress?
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Even in the middle of a traffic jam,
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you can breathe,
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listen to music,
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Imagine an ideal life in 5 years planned for your next vacation.
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Are you waiting impatiently for a call?
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Keep yourself busy,
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go for a walk or play sports,
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re-oxygenate your body,
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do something fun.
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The call won't come any faster if you are focusing on the weight,
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waiting is tensing.
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Be smarter than your mind.
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Create distraction and take the opportunity to release the pressure
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and enjoy the here and now.
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there are things that you desire which require action and commitment on your part,
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like having a job.
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Then you have a good reason to occupy yourself in order to overcome the wait.
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When the wait is painful,
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it's mostly due to desires over which we have no control,
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like waiting for the rain to stop,
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waiting for retirement.
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Waiting for our colleague to become competent,
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waiting for our boss to congratulate us.
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These things are not within our power.
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So fill your present with great experiences that are within your power.
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You will relieve the pressure that you inflict on yourself
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and sometimes on others.
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My second piece of advice is freeing yourself from the need for perfection.
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This quest to always be the best,
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to be more competent,
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to have a child who is top of his class,
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to have more money.
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I'm not saying that it is wrong
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to want better and more,
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if this desire turns into an obligation and generates painful impatience,
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it's time to let go.
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Impatience is often a consequence of dissatisfaction.
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I want this to change.
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I want more of this because what I have or what
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I am or what the others are doesn't suit me.
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A popular proverb says the best is the enemy of the good.
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To no longer suffer from impatience.
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Some people decided to banish any desire from their lives
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and to minimize their life to its purest simplicity.
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This is an option,
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a little extreme,
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but if it makes them happy,
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it's their choice.
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This is not the only option.
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To have desires,
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to want something new is characteristic of humans.
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When humans go beyond the basic need for survival and security,
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they are ready for change,
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for new experiences.
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A conscious human prefers not to relive the same routine every day.
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and they will try to achieve them with
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a constructive energy without fears or frustrations.
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This enlightened human no longer says,
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My life is unsatisfactory and I can't wait for it to change.
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I have a desire for something new,
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and I will work positively to achieve it.
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But what about the desires which are not within our power,
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There is only this way.
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Desire and let go.
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I want my child to graduate and I let it go.
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I won't make it a big deal if they don't graduate,
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thinking that their future is jeopardized.
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I wish I could get this job and I let it go.
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My life won't be ruined if I don't get it.
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I want to get home as soon as possible and I let it go.
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I won't make myself upset because there's a traffic jam again.
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The adepts of the law of attraction and visualization will tell you,
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imagine what you want,
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whether it's a new job or a healthier body.
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Feel the energy and the happiness as if you are living it now
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and do something else.
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Many say that their life has been transformed
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by these positive visualization techniques.
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My last piece of advice to free yourself
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from painful impatience is the royal antidote,
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a genius mix of trust and gratitude
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to be able to say
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a very large part of what I'm living now is good.
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Entering into a feeling of wealth,
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of gratitude for what we have
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and what we are today,
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being aware of all the beautiful things
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that are already present in our relationships,
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in the nature around us,
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in our body and in our health,
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to be able to marvel and be grateful of how far we've got
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for all the beautiful things achieved by our beloved ones or by ourselves,
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celebrating success.
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Gratitude is tricky.
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We tend to look at the glass as half empty more than half full.
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We are more likely to complain and demand than to highlight the beautiful things,
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and it's also good to know how to say stop
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enough to what does not suit us
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while being of course responsible for the change that will ensue.
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When we are grateful,
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when we also pay attention to what is going well,
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we develop well-being,
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We then develop a much more constructive attitude and above all,
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more confidence about our future.
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When something disturbs you,
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I invite you to work for its change.
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But if you are doing it
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anything that's going well in your life,
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I promise you that the change you are expecting is going to be difficult to fulfill.
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It's much harder to change things when we are at rock bottom.
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They say it's easier to find a job when you already have one.
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And finding an ideal position when we are already
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happy in our current position is even easier.
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Your state of mind attracts the good or the bad.
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Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed
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or full of gratitude?
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In this state of gratitude and trust,
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you will be amazed at the positive changes in your life.
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You will be convinced that even if your desire does not come true,
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then something better will happen to you.
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Impatience will disappear from your life thanks
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to the antidote of gratitude and trust.
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You may know the story of Lao Tu,
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the old man and his horse.
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The horse runs away and everyone is upset.
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The old man is not worried and says,
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Who knows if it's good luck or bad luck?
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Who knows what will happen?
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Then the horse came back with many wild horses,
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which the old man's son began training.
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This caused him to be crippled,
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and the old man said again,
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Who knows if it's good luck or bad luck?
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Who knows what will happen?
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and the young man,
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because of his crippled leg,
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did not get drafted.
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Trust and gratitude.
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May I get the strength to bear what cannot be changed,
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the courage to change what can be changed,
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but also the wisdom to distinguish one from the other,
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said Marc Aurel.
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Impatience positively pushes us to take actions.
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When our action cannot speed up the process of change,
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then the ultimate wisdom is to live
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while letting things go
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with gratitude and trust and not impatience.
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