Taming your impatience Tutorial

Feeling overwhelmed by impatience in today's fast-paced world? In "Taming Your Impatience," we dive into how to transform this emotion into a powerful driving force. Uncover vital techniques like releasing pressure, overcoming perfectionism, and embracing gratitude. Discover the secrets to thriving amidst change with insights vital for personal growth. Watch now to reclaim your peace!

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said Confucius.

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Many wise men and philosophers argue that impatience

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is not only painful but more importantly,

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unproductive.

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How do we tame it so that it becomes a real driving force instead of harming us?

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I will approach the subject in 4 points.

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1,

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the impatience crisis.

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2,

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releasing the pressure.

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3,

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letting go of perfectionism,

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and 4,

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trying the antidote to impatience,

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gratitude.

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Yes,

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we are witnessing a crisis of impatience.

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We want things to go fast just like technology goes fast.

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We can get so much in a few clicks that it

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seems like an eternity when our desires are not immediately fulfilled.

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Our mind determines our desires in a few seconds.

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The virtual offers most things in a few seconds.

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We have speed dating to find love quickly,

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fast food and speedy pizzas to eat quickly,

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speed coaching to solve our problems in a few hours,

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speed delivery to be delivered by Amazon in 1 day instead of 2.

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Our impatience can sometimes cost us lots of money and not only money.

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This desire to go faster is based on the premise that tomorrow will be a better day.

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When I get my promotion,

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when I receive my new smartphone,

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when I find love,

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there is something happening or that could happen

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that I imagine as better than my current daily life.

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We imagine ourselves in a more or less near future which looks better.

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And from desire to desire,

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from impatience to impatience,

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we forget to take full advantage of the current moment.

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The right thing to do would be to take advantage of the present moment while looking

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forward for a tomorrow that would also be

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a beautiful moment with new surprises and experiences,

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happily alternating between the satisfaction of the now

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and the mental expectation of the after.

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Otherwise

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impatience becomes painful.

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If we're waiting for what's to come without loving what we are going through,

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that is what I call hell.

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It's as if we were donkeys running desperately after an unreasonable carrot.

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Yes,

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there is joyful impatience and painful impatience.

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If impatience turns into waiting,

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pain pops up.

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My first advice will therefore be to release the pressure.

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Waiting is tensing.

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The mind pressures.

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I can't wait for the contract to be signed.

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I can't wait for the traffic jam to be over.

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I can't wait for the customer to call me back.

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I can't wait for my retirement.

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I can't wait to get a job.

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I can't wait to get pregnant.

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The mind is hyperfocalized.

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There is nothing but its expectation,

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its desire filling your whole present,

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and the body tightens.

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The stress engraves in the muscles,

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the digestive system,

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the breathing.

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Some go as far as to live in constant anguish.

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I prompt you to never again undergo waiting times.

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Your mind wants something

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perfect.

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How can you keep your body and mind busy

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with something else so that this weight does not turn into stress?

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Even in the middle of a traffic jam,

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you can breathe,

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meditate,

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listen to music,

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sing.

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Imagine an ideal life in 5 years planned for your next vacation.

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Are you waiting impatiently for a call?

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Keep yourself busy,

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go for a walk or play sports,

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release toxins,

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re-oxygenate your body,

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cook,

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do something fun.

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The call won't come any faster if you are focusing on the weight,

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waiting is tensing.

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Be smarter than your mind.

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Create distraction and take the opportunity to release the pressure

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and enjoy the here and now.

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Of course

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there are things that you desire which require action and commitment on your part,

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like having a job.

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Then you have a good reason to occupy yourself in order to overcome the wait.

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When the wait is painful,

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it's mostly due to desires over which we have no control,

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like waiting for the rain to stop,

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to get out,

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waiting for retirement.

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Waiting for our colleague to become competent,

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waiting for our boss to congratulate us.

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These things are not within our power.

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So fill your present with great experiences that are within your power.

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You will relieve the pressure that you inflict on yourself

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and sometimes on others.

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My second piece of advice is freeing yourself from the need for perfection.

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This quest to always be the best,

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always better

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to be more competent,

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more fit,

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to have a child who is top of his class,

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to have more money.

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I'm not saying that it is wrong

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to want better and more,

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but

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if this desire turns into an obligation and generates painful impatience,

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then yes,

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it's time to let go.

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Impatience is often a consequence of dissatisfaction.

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I want this to change.

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I want more of this because what I have or what

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I am or what the others are doesn't suit me.

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A popular proverb says the best is the enemy of the good.

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To no longer suffer from impatience.

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Some people decided to banish any desire from their lives

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and to minimize their life to its purest simplicity.

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This is an option,

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a little extreme,

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certainly,

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but if it makes them happy,

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it's their choice.

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This is not the only option.

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To have desires,

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to want something new is characteristic of humans.

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When humans go beyond the basic need for survival and security,

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they are ready for change,

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for new experiences.

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A conscious human prefers not to relive the same routine every day.

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Have wishes,

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desires,

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and they will try to achieve them with

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a constructive energy without fears or frustrations.

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This enlightened human no longer says,

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My life is unsatisfactory and I can't wait for it to change.

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They argue,

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I have a desire for something new,

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and I will work positively to achieve it.

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But what about the desires which are not within our power,

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you may ask.

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Desire

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and

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let go.

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There is only this way.

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Desire and let go.

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I want my child to graduate and I let it go.

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I won't make it a big deal if they don't graduate,

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thinking that their future is jeopardized.

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I wish I could get this job and I let it go.

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My life won't be ruined if I don't get it.

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I want to get home as soon as possible and I let it go.

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I won't make myself upset because there's a traffic jam again.

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The adepts of the law of attraction and visualization will tell you,

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imagine what you want,

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whether it's a new job or a healthier body.

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Feel the energy and the happiness as if you are living it now

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and do something else.

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Many say that their life has been transformed

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by these positive visualization techniques.

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Imagine,

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feel,

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and let it go.

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My last piece of advice to free yourself

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from painful impatience is the royal antidote,

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a genius mix of trust and gratitude

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to be able to say

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a very large part of what I'm living now is good.

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Entering into a feeling of wealth,

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of richness,

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of gratitude for what we have

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and what we are today,

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being aware of all the beautiful things

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that are already present in our relationships,

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in the nature around us,

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in our body and in our health,

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to be able to marvel and be grateful of how far we've got

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for all the beautiful things achieved by our beloved ones or by ourselves,

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celebrating success.

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Gratitude is tricky.

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We tend to look at the glass as half empty more than half full.

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We are more likely to complain and demand than to highlight the beautiful things,

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and it's also good to know how to say stop

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enough to what does not suit us

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while being of course responsible for the change that will ensue.

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When we are grateful,

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when we also pay attention to what is going well,

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we develop well-being,

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happiness,

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and optimism.

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We then develop a much more constructive attitude and above all,

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more confidence about our future.

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When something disturbs you,

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I invite you to work for its change.

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But if you are doing it

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while nagging,

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sighing,

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cursing,

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forgetting,

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anything that's going well in your life,

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I promise you that the change you are expecting is going to be difficult to fulfill.

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It's much harder to change things when we are at rock bottom.

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They say it's easier to find a job when you already have one.

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It's true.

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And finding an ideal position when we are already

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happy in our current position is even easier.

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Your state of mind attracts the good or the bad.

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Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed

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or full of gratitude?

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In this state of gratitude and trust,

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you will be amazed at the positive changes in your life.

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You will be convinced that even if your desire does not come true,

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then something better will happen to you.

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Impatience will disappear from your life thanks

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to the antidote of gratitude and trust.

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You may know the story of Lao Tu,

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the old man and his horse.

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The horse runs away and everyone is upset.

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The old man is not worried and says,

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Who knows if it's good luck or bad luck?

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Who knows what will happen?

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Then the horse came back with many wild horses,

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which the old man's son began training.

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This caused him to be crippled,

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and the old man said again,

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Who knows if it's good luck or bad luck?

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Who knows what will happen?

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War broke out,

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and the young man,

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because of his crippled leg,

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did not get drafted.

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Trust and gratitude.

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May I get the strength to bear what cannot be changed,

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the courage to change what can be changed,

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but also the wisdom to distinguish one from the other,

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said Marc Aurel.

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Impatience positively pushes us to take actions.

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It is perfect.

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When our action cannot speed up the process of change,

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then the ultimate wisdom is to live

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while letting things go

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with gratitude and trust and not impatience.

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