The language of trust Tutorial

Discover how to cultivate self-confidence and assertiveness in "The Language of Trust." This video shares six transformative tips, including valuing yourself, giving yourself permissions, and reorienting your inner dialogue. Unveil the power of your words and learn to express yourself genuinely. Don't miss out on insights that can elevate your self-perception and interpersonal connections!

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our successes and our failures and nourish or empty our self-confidence.

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So what is the color of our language?

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How do we speak to ourselves?

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How do we address others?

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In this video,

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I offer 6 tips for developing the language of trust.

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Value yourself.

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Give yourself permissions.

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Reorient your inner dialogue.

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Transform the negative messages of the past.

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Stop lying to yourself,

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and finally develop a powerful language.

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My first piece of advice to develop a language of trust is to value yourself.

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Dare to compliment yourself and others too without competition.

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Comparing yourself to others often leads to devaluation.

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Don't state they are more than me,

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brighter,

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luckier,

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more efficient.

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In general,

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I would urge you to avoid comparisons even in your favor.

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I am brighter,

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more open,

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faster than

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the comparison leads to the comparison and the wheel turns.

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If you claim to be superior,

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you will inevitably experience moments when you feel inferior.

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In short,

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the ideal is to value yourself

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and the qualities of others equally.

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There are many ways to cultivate self-esteem.

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Repeating your talents and qualities,

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you can make a list of at least 50 qualities that you recognize in yourself.

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Then you put yourself in front of the mirror

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and you state them,

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not with the eye,

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but as if a friend were complimenting you by name.

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Liz,

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you are really bold.

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Liz,

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you are really dynamic.

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Liz,

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you are really attentive.

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Another tip value yourself by using your best friend's mirror.

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Imagining being your best friend,

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writing 10 lines portrait of yourself.

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Write it with fantasy and with kindness.

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Liz is an exceptional woman.

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Seriously,

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she is the only one to take such risks.

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She is creative and

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And carefully reread your description

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when you feel that your confidence is waning.

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The second tip for developing a language of trust

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is to give yourself permissions.

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Sometimes our lack of self-confidence,

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our self-censorship,

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is the result of programming,

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such as vows we have made or that that our family or ancestors have made for us.

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If this is the case for you,

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perhaps one of these permissions will be of great relief to you.

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I invite you to listen to my words

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and see those that resonate with you.

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Write them down immediately so that you can remember them.

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OK,

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breathe and listen.

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What permission

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do you need to give yourself?

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You have the right to live and exist.

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You have the right to be yourself.

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You have the right to become an independent adult.

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You have the right to succeed.

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You have the right to do complete that sentence to get into medical school,

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to become an actor,

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to drive a motorcycle.

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You have the right to be important.

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You have the right to be part of a family,

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part of a group.

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You have the right to be close to others.

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You have the right to share your feelings with your loved ones.

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You have the right to be healthy.

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You have the right to think of yourself first.

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You have the right to feel any emotion,

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anger,

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fear,

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or sadness.

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You have the right to behave as a child,

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to play,

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to laugh,

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be light.

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You have the right to make mistakes and even to make them over and over again.

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You have the right to express your point of view even if it's different.

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You have the right to say no.

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Repeat the words that make you feel good.

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Give yourself that permission that you probably lacked.

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My third tip for developing the language of trust

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is to reorient your inner dialogue.

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First,

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here are some questions to validate the trust quality of your inner dialogue.

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I invite you to note your stumbling blocks.

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You took the wrong road.

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What do you say to yourself?

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Someone pays you a compliment and thanks you.

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What do you say?

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Someone asks you for a service,

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you don't really want to answer yes,

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but you accept anyway.

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What do you say about yourself?

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You wake up late because your alarm clock didn't go off.

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What do you say about yourself?

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You're trying on a new dress or a jacket looking at yourself in the mirror.

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What do you tell yourself?

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A close friend forgets your birthday.

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What do you tell yourself?

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Your child or teenager talks back badly to you.

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What do you say about yourself?

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Is your inner dialogue positive or negative?

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At what times do you drift towards the negative and devaluing language?

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And now

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what inner dialogue do you choose to nurture?

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My 4th tip for developing a language of trust

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is to transform the negative messages of the past.

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Write down all the negative messages you have received,

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whether spoken or implied.

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Write them in a column on the left,

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simple words,

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subject,

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verb,

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compliment,

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such as,

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are you stupid or not?

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You don't have your sister's talent.

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Oh,

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I should have had an abortion.

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What are we gonna do with you?

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Then

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in the right column turn all the

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negative messages received into positive messages.

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You are a bright child.

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You and your sister have many talents.

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How lucky that you were born.

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You have everything you need to succeed.

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And

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reward yourself with these positive messages

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from the adult you are to the child that you were.

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You can imagine them sitting in the chair facing you,

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and the loving adult you are to the child from the past

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can tell them everything they needed to hear at that time.

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It is what is called healing words.

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They can have a powerful impact on your actual self-confidence.

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My 5th tip for developing a language of trust.

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Stop lying to yourself.

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A cat is a cat.

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If you are angry,

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don't pretend that everything is fine.

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If you are sad or worried,

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don't pretend everything is fine.

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If there is a problem with your boss,

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your co-worker,

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or a client,

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don't pretend everything is fine.

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How can you trust yourself if you lie to yourself,

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if you adopt postures and words that do not reflect

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what is going on in your body and your head?

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To trust yourself is to dare to express what you are experiencing,

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even if it shocks or annoys others.

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They don't have to listen to you,

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and you,

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you don't have to lie to yourself to make them feel better.

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It is certain

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that when people ask the question,

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how are you?

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they expect an answer.

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Yes,

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I'm fine,

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how about you?

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If you start to stop lying to them

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and therefore to yourself,

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it will shake up relationships,

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but do this for yourself.

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Don't answer.

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I'm fine automatically.

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Honor what you are going through

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fatigue,

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excitement,

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stress.

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How are you?

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How are you really doing?

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Stop for a second

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with the first person who asks you the

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question in the morning and listen to yourself.

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If you're not 100% fine,

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maybe there's something we can do right now to make you feel better.

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In fact,

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answering,

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I'm fine automatically to this question means not caring about yourself.

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Moreover,

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answering yes,

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I'm fine without reflecting about the question is a bit cowardly.

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Because it's easier to convince yourself that I am fine rather than to hear,

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no,

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actually it's not OK.

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I don't like my job,

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I don't want to get up in the morning.

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I'm exhausted.

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Let's at least stop lying to ourselves.

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How are you doing?

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My 6th piece of advice for developing a language

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of trust is to make your words more powerful.

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You know,

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all those words that are like barbed wire,

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those words that diminish us and close off potential.

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I apologize for bothering you and I'm sorry for apologizing.

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I'm gonna try a little bit to explain to you,

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but this is the first time I've done this,

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and I'm sorry if I'm not up to it.

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Let's look at the words that slow down

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confidence and the motor words to express instead.

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Yes,

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but no.

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What if

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try

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action verb.

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I will try to explain.

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No,

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I will explain.

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Small,

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a little bit,

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nothing.

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I would like to say a little word.

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No,

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I would like to say a word.

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You have a very small minute.

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No,

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you have one minute.

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Don't you think?

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No,

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I think that,

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or I suggest.

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Don't you think we should call the client?

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No,

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I suggest we call the client.

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I don't know if it's possible.

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No,

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I want.

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I don't know if it's possible to have an additional delay.

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No,

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I want an additional delay.

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I have a problem.

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No,

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I have a goal.

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It would be necessary to,

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no,

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I need,

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it would be necessary to get more information.

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No,

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I need more information.

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Because,

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so that,

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I need more budget because,

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no,

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I need more budget so that the quality of the rendering is guaranteed.

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Do you think that?

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No,

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I think I wish.

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How about you?

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I would like conditional mode.

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No,

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I want

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present mode.

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I would like to be in charge of this project.

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No,

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I want to be in charge of this project.

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I'm sorry to bother you,

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no.

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Are you available now?

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Learn how to develop clear,

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direct language.

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It certainly exposes you more,

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but it gives both you and the other person a fundamental message.

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That person,

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you,

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is confident and assertive,

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knows what he or she wants,

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and expresses it.

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It is the language of trust.

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