The Trap of Parent-Child Interactions Tutorial

Discover how breaking the cycle of parent-child interactions can revolutionize workplace dynamics! This insightful video explores the pitfalls of disempowering communication. Learn to cultivate adult-to-adult relationships that enhance mutual respect and accountability. Elevate your professional interactions and embrace agility and change in your team!

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managers and employees often adopt parent-child interactions

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instead of engaging in adult-adult relationships.

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To illustrate the urgency of moving away from

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the parent-child dynamic in the professional environment,

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it's essential to recognize the thoughts,

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words,

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and behaviors that reinforce this unbalanced relationship.

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Here are some examples of thoughts and words from

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a manager in a disempowering normative parent posture.

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My employee must do what I ask.

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Let's not waste time discussing.

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That's not how things are done here.

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Let me show you.

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I'm disappointed with your results.

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You can do better than this.

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If you had listened to my instructions,

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you wouldn't have made this mistake.

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Another mistake on their part.

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I'll have to closely monitor my employee.

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You should know this at your career stage.

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I won't repeat it.

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Here are some examples of thoughts and words from a manager in a disempowering,

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nurturing parent posture.

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I won't worry my employees with these new challenges.

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It's up to me to carry them.

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Let me do it.

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I'll fix things for you.

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You seem stressed.

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Take a day off.

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I'll handle your tasks.

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You don't need to take care of that difficult presentation.

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I'll do it for you.

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I don't want to talk about budget with my employees.

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I prefer to protect them from the stress of finances.

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Here are some examples of thoughts and words from an employee in an imbalanced,

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rebellious child posture.

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Why should I listen to what he says?

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He doesn't have my experience.

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I want to be autonomous.

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I no longer want to do regular reporting on my work.

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I'll do it my way,

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no matter what he thinks.

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I don't need your advice.

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I know what I'm doing.

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Here are some examples of thoughts and words from an employee in an imbalanced,

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submissive child posture.

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I prefer to ask for my boss's approval for every decision.

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It's safer.

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I prefer not to contradict my boss.

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I'm afraid of the consequences.

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Tell me exactly what to do.

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I don't want to make a mistake.

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I prefer you to check my work before I submit it to the higher ups.

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I won't give feedback to my boss.

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It's not my place.

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If he's my manager,

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he must be more competent and intelligent than me.

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It is crucial to identify and transform these parent-child communication

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models to establish an adult to adult manager employee relationship

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based on mutual respect and co-responsibility.

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