Understanding procrastination Tutorial

Ever wonder why you keep putting things off? In 'Understanding Procrastination,' we delve deep into the reasons behind this common behavior and how it impacts your life. Discover the internal struggle we all face and learn to identify the true causes of your procrastination. Explore strategies to overcome these obstacles and empower your decision-making. Don't let procrastination control you—take charge today!

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then to the next day and the next.

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This is called procrastination.

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Is it a calamity?

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Is it a disease?

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Is it reversible?

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In this video,

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we will see the importance of understanding why

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we procrastinate such and such a task.

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Then we will observe how procrastination is a war of aspect and clans within us.

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May the strongest win.

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Let's start with the main question to

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ask yourself when you catch yourself procrastinating.

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Why am I procrastinating this task?

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Because there's procrastination and procrastination.

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Putting all your eggs in the same basket by establishing the

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same strategy for any procrastinated task is the most common error.

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You're putting off a phone call with a client.

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Why?

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Because you're afraid they'll criticise you,

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because you don't know what to say,

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because you don't know how to solve the issue they talk to you about,

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because this client bores you,

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because you don't see the point in calling them,

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because you hate talking on the phone,

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because you're tired.

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Make a list of everything you're procrastinating

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and identify the real reasons why you're putting

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off this task of calling the client.

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If it's fear,

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you can work on your fear.

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If it's the fact you don't know what to say,

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work on your speech.

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If it's because you don't know how to solve the problem,

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you can at least think of a few options.

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If it's because they bore you,

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then you'll have to refer to my second video about procrastination.

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But please

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do not write.

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I am procrastinating my client's call because I don't have time.

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You had enough time to do many things that day.

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OECD members spend an average of 1 hour 42 minutes a day on the phone,

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according to a study published in 2018.

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On average,

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they spend 600 hours a year on social networks.

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You found something else to do,

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that's for sure,

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which means that the lack of time is not the real problem.

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Why didn't you have the time for this task,

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for instance,

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tidying up your office?

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This task you've been delaying for days.

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Don't tell me either because I'm lazy or because I lack the courage.

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There is no room for guilt here.

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No one is in the dock.

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Let's get out of this binary vision saying.

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That it's wrong to procrastinate.

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Free yourself from guilt before finishing this video.

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Guilt is not welcome here.

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You are a human being with infinite worth and good reasons to procrastinate.

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That's why we are asking ourselves why.

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Why am I procrastinating this task or another?

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We usually procrastinate tasks because they're unpleasant to us,

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because they're boring,

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because they're not motivating enough,

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because they're not very interesting,

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or because they seem difficult,

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or we don't know how to handle them or where to start.

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The strategy to get out of procrastination will not

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always be the same for all these reasons.

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That is why the first step

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is to genuinely ask yourself,

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why am I procrastinating this task.

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To go on with this necessary step of introspection,

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there are two more questions.

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The next question,

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what do I get if this doesn't get done?

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What do I get if this file is not finished?

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What do I get if I don't call my mother?

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What do I get if I don't ask for that raise?

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Dig deeper to find answers,

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even if they seem far fetched.

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Always be free of guilt.

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Maybe you'll discover false reasons that will make you smile

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and other very good reasons,

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and you'll tell yourself you did well to procrastinate.

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Because it wasn't the right time to act

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or that it wasn't the right thing to do

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or there is something else to do before.

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Question 3.

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What do I have to lose

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if this task that I've been procrastinating for days is performed.

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Yes,

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because it may be that you're postponing a

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task because you unconsciously fear its outcome.

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What am I risking if I start to be coached?

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I'm risking my life getting turned upside down.

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Better to delay it,

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right?

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What am I risking if I send my CV having to change jobs?

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What am I risking if I launch a business,

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failing?

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By understanding the risk,

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you'll understand why a part of you has been keeping you in procrastination.

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And now that you can see more clearly

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what fear prevented you from acting,

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are you ready to face this risk,

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and what can you do to minimise it?

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After answering

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these three key questions,

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why am I procrastinating this task?

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What do I get if it doesn't get done?

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What do I risk by getting it done?

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your to do list will change.

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Procrastination is a war between some aspects within us.

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This war

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is likely to be endless if you don't put the spotlight

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on what's behind the scenes to see the main actors.

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Sometimes there are only two actors.

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An aspect of us is saying you have to call this client.

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Another,

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no,

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I don't want to.

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Without the master in you,

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the stronger of these two will win.

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Sometimes there are many more aspects at stake

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which makes the untangling much more complicated.

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These aspects form clans.

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In the pro clan

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there are 3 aspects,

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3 discourses.

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You have to call your client.

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My boss will be all over me if I don't.

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I can get a raise if I call the client.

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In the against clan there are 5 aspects and 5 discourses.

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I do not want to call the client.

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I do not know how to tackle this delicate subject.

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I don't see any point in calling the client.

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I have other calls to make.

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Oh,

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and what if I went for a coffee?

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Which clan will win,

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the pro cla or the against clan?

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If you're clear on the aspects at stake

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and what they whisper in your ear,

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you will not let yourself be manipulated by them,

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and you will gain clarity.

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Look into your corps for the master within you,

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the one who makes the decisions,

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the captain of the ship,

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the one who says I choose.

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So what does the master choose?

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When you are in your mastery,

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your sovereignty,

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what will you decide?

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Do you think your procrastination was in order after all,

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and do you decide not to make that call to your client?

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The master in you

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will perhaps delegate or postpone the call.

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Send them an email,

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meet them in person,

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or break the contract.

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Decide

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and then own it and trust yourself.

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On the contrary.

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Did the master in you choose to call the client and therefore will

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look for the right strategies to overcome

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the hindrances of the procrastinator's clan.

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We will talk about these strategies in another video.

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The master within you does not know the procrastination label.

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He makes choices every day and owns them.

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The choice of doing or not doing.

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He doesn't do anything he doesn't want to do now.

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He does what is important to himself or he makes someone else do it,

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period.

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