Asking and receiving Tutorial

Unlock your potential in 'Asking and Receiving'! Discover 3 transformative tips to help you cultivate assertiveness and confidence in making requests, from starting small to letting go. Whether you're seeking personal desires or professional advancements, this video empowers you to express what you truly want. Don't miss out on the chance to embrace your courage and explore effective communication!

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So you are ready to address the person in front of you and express your request.

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Not so fast,

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you might say it's not that simple.

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Here are 3 tips to help you take the plunge.

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The first tip

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is to make regular requests,

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even small ones.

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The second is to formulate positively your request,

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and the third is to let go.

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You want to dare to ask,

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but something is holding you back from taking the plunge.

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My tip one is to train yourself daily to make many demands.

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I deliberately put this key in the plural to emphasize the ripple effect.

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We were discouraged from asking during our childhood.

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We ended up being afraid to ask,

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or we simply forgot that we could ask for anything.

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It's time to build up our muscle again.

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You can strengthen your demand muscle

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little by little.

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Train it with light weights to regain muscle day after day.

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Train yourself to demand,

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to ask for small things,

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things that are easy to get,

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and things for which it will not be emotionally too difficult to get to know.

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Some examples

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at the restaurant.

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Ask for the sauce on the side.

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Ask for a lot of Nutella on your pancake.

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Ask for more fries.

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Ask to sit at another table.

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These demands require listening to oneself.

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I call it the sovereign's minute.

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What can I do or ask now that would make this moment more delightful?

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Well,

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I'm in a restaurant.

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What could make my experience any more enjoyable?

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Somebody clean my table,

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turn the music down,

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heat up my warm dish.

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OK,

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I'm asking.

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Ask because you want to treat yourself well

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because your desires deserve to be expressed.

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Some will say you're bitchy.

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No,

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you're just listening to yourself,

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and you don't force anyone to say yes.

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Others are free to answer you yes or no.

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In any case,

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if you do not have desires for yourself or if you do not express them,

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you might fulfill the desires of others or the mass consciousness.

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This is how many people change jobs in companies.

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They don't consciously choose their career path.

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They don't pick up and ask for their next job.

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They are waiting for HR or management to come and offer them their next position

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according to the wishes and needs of

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the company.

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The company chooses for them.

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Ask,

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ask what you want and start with small things.

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Not really because it's very important to get that,

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but simply to learn how to ask.

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In fact,

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with time,

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you will always get no's,

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but more and more often you will get yes.

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You will discover that many people like to please others,

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and by constantly asking for and receiving many refusals,

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you will welcome those no with lightness or even humor.

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Damn,

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I didn't get the discount I asked the salesman for.

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You will become the person who is comfortable

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asking for anything under any circumstance.

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How do you do that?

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Because you will have asked a stranger for the time or the way,

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because you will have asked to exchange seats on a plane,

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because you will have asked your colleague how she convinced the client.

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You will have created the neurological circuitry of the demand expert,

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and you will now feel ready to ask for

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a salary increase or for your career development.

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So

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you have decided to express your demands,

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but you don't know how to go about it,

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how to make your request.

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One test and learn.

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It's through experience that you will learn what tone to have.

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It is through experience that you will learn to look them

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in the eyes and smile when you make a demand.

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Since you'll no longer be afraid of a no,

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you'll be very relaxed.

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Don't be embarrassed.

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Be ready for a no.

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If you get a no,

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be ready to bounce back with a why not with a smile

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or bounce back with another request or another.

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2,

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be very clear and direct in your request.

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Don't beat around the bush.

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Maybe you are afraid to be direct,

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or maybe you have been taught to be more of a strategist

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and not to reveal your game or your question right away.

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It's up to you.

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To me,

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beating around the bush is manipulation,

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even if it's fear that's holding us back.

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For example,

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Paul asks Jinny,

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Are you doing anything on Saturday?

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No,

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answered Jinny.

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Paul returned.

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Do you still have your Volkswagen?

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Yes,

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answered Jinny,

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not very comfortable,

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because you would save me if you came to help me with your car for my move.

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This is an example of a manipulative request.

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Two questions to catch the other one.

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Are you doing something Saturday?

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Do you still have your Volkswagen?

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And at the end,

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not even one question,

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but

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you would save me if

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that puts a strong emotional strain on the other one.

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With two questions and an emotional hidden request,

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you would save me if

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Paul wants to avoid as much as possible Jinny refusing him the service.

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He's trying,

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perhaps unconsciously,

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who knows,

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to force her hand.

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I invite you to avoid this kind of power game and use an unambiguous request.

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Jinny,

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would you agree to come and help me with my move on Saturday if possible with your car?

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Another reason to make clear demands is to give life or the universe,

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if you prefer,

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a chance to respond favorably.

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If your request is clear,

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precise,

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you will be able to visualize its achievement.

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I am asking for more self-confidence,

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or I am asking for you to trust me more.

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They are not clear requests.

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They are not visualizable.

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They are abstract desires.

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What would the other person do if they trusted you?

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They would entrust you with the case.

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That is visualizable.

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You can ask for it.

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What would you do if you trusted yourself?

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I would dare to call my supplier concerning the beta product he sold me.

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This product has deteriorated very quickly.

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There it's clearer.

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You have transformed a vague request.

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I want to have self-confidence into a clear request.

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I request replacement of the beta product

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to give you a better chance.

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Getting what you want,

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I invite you to act as if your request has already been fulfilled,

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to walk,

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feel,

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vibrate as if you've already got it,

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or something even better.

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Vibrate at the frequency of what you wish to obtain.

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Do you want to be a manager?

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Dress as you would if you were a manager.

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Go to your job interview as if you were already a manager.

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Walk,

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talk,

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take responsibility as if you were already a manager.

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This will give your application a better chance of being successful.

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You made your request,

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but you are worried about the answer of your colleague.

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The final key of the request strategy is to let go.

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You've made your request.

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Good for you.

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You took action.

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I mean,

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you did your part.

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You contributed to make that request come true.

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Yeah,

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it's not about sitting in your chair and waiting.

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It's often about co-creating to make our wishes come true.

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Good,

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that's what it's all about.

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Your part being done,

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I advise you to let go

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or even forget your request.

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Don't stay focused on your demand,

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watching your phone or your email box to find out if you got the job.

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The only thing you can do is vibrate positively.

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Keep yourself busy with good energy to everything else,

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to the ongoing files.

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Forget about your request.

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Focus on something else.

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Let go.

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Synchronicity will come,

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and if it doesn't,

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it's either not the right time or something better will come.

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And sometimes the best thing that can happen to you is to get a no.

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Maybe the no calls you to ask again in a different way or to another person

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or to ask for something else,

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something more suitable,

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something that will make you happier than you had expected.

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All allow things to come to you in another way or in another form.

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Be certain that time is at your service.

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