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So you are ready to address the person in front of you and express your request.
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you might say it's not that simple.
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Here are 3 tips to help you take the plunge.
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is to make regular requests,
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even small ones.
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The second is to formulate positively your request,
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and the third is to let go.
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You want to dare to ask,
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but something is holding you back from taking the plunge.
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My tip one is to train yourself daily to make many demands.
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I deliberately put this key in the plural to emphasize the ripple effect.
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We were discouraged from asking during our childhood.
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We ended up being afraid to ask,
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or we simply forgot that we could ask for anything.
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It's time to build up our muscle again.
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You can strengthen your demand muscle
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little by little.
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Train it with light weights to regain muscle day after day.
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Train yourself to demand,
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to ask for small things,
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things that are easy to get,
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and things for which it will not be emotionally too difficult to get to know.
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at the restaurant.
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Ask for the sauce on the side.
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Ask for a lot of Nutella on your pancake.
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Ask for more fries.
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Ask to sit at another table.
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These demands require listening to oneself.
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I call it the sovereign's minute.
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What can I do or ask now that would make this moment more delightful?
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I'm in a restaurant.
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What could make my experience any more enjoyable?
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Somebody clean my table,
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turn the music down,
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heat up my warm dish.
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Ask because you want to treat yourself well
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because your desires deserve to be expressed.
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Some will say you're bitchy.
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you're just listening to yourself,
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and you don't force anyone to say yes.
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Others are free to answer you yes or no.
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if you do not have desires for yourself or if you do not express them,
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you might fulfill the desires of others or the mass consciousness.
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This is how many people change jobs in companies.
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They don't consciously choose their career path.
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They don't pick up and ask for their next job.
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They are waiting for HR or management to come and offer them their next position
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according to the wishes and needs of
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The company chooses for them.
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ask what you want and start with small things.
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Not really because it's very important to get that,
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but simply to learn how to ask.
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you will always get no's,
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but more and more often you will get yes.
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You will discover that many people like to please others,
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and by constantly asking for and receiving many refusals,
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you will welcome those no with lightness or even humor.
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I didn't get the discount I asked the salesman for.
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You will become the person who is comfortable
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asking for anything under any circumstance.
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How do you do that?
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Because you will have asked a stranger for the time or the way,
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because you will have asked to exchange seats on a plane,
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because you will have asked your colleague how she convinced the client.
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You will have created the neurological circuitry of the demand expert,
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and you will now feel ready to ask for
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a salary increase or for your career development.
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you have decided to express your demands,
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but you don't know how to go about it,
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how to make your request.
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One test and learn.
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It's through experience that you will learn what tone to have.
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It is through experience that you will learn to look them
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in the eyes and smile when you make a demand.
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Since you'll no longer be afraid of a no,
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you'll be very relaxed.
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Don't be embarrassed.
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Be ready for a no.
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If you get a no,
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be ready to bounce back with a why not with a smile
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or bounce back with another request or another.
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be very clear and direct in your request.
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Don't beat around the bush.
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Maybe you are afraid to be direct,
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or maybe you have been taught to be more of a strategist
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and not to reveal your game or your question right away.
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beating around the bush is manipulation,
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even if it's fear that's holding us back.
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Paul asks Jinny,
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Are you doing anything on Saturday?
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Do you still have your Volkswagen?
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not very comfortable,
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because you would save me if you came to help me with your car for my move.
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This is an example of a manipulative request.
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Two questions to catch the other one.
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Are you doing something Saturday?
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Do you still have your Volkswagen?
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not even one question,
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you would save me if
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that puts a strong emotional strain on the other one.
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With two questions and an emotional hidden request,
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you would save me if
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Paul wants to avoid as much as possible Jinny refusing him the service.
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perhaps unconsciously,
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to force her hand.
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I invite you to avoid this kind of power game and use an unambiguous request.
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would you agree to come and help me with my move on Saturday if possible with your car?
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Another reason to make clear demands is to give life or the universe,
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a chance to respond favorably.
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If your request is clear,
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you will be able to visualize its achievement.
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I am asking for more self-confidence,
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or I am asking for you to trust me more.
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They are not clear requests.
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They are not visualizable.
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They are abstract desires.
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What would the other person do if they trusted you?
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They would entrust you with the case.
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That is visualizable.
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You can ask for it.
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What would you do if you trusted yourself?
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I would dare to call my supplier concerning the beta product he sold me.
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This product has deteriorated very quickly.
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There it's clearer.
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You have transformed a vague request.
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I want to have self-confidence into a clear request.
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I request replacement of the beta product
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to give you a better chance.
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Getting what you want,
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I invite you to act as if your request has already been fulfilled,
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vibrate as if you've already got it,
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or something even better.
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Vibrate at the frequency of what you wish to obtain.
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Do you want to be a manager?
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Dress as you would if you were a manager.
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Go to your job interview as if you were already a manager.
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take responsibility as if you were already a manager.
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This will give your application a better chance of being successful.
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You made your request,
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but you are worried about the answer of your colleague.
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The final key of the request strategy is to let go.
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You've made your request.
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You took action.
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you did your part.
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You contributed to make that request come true.
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it's not about sitting in your chair and waiting.
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It's often about co-creating to make our wishes come true.
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that's what it's all about.
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Your part being done,
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I advise you to let go
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or even forget your request.
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Don't stay focused on your demand,
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watching your phone or your email box to find out if you got the job.
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The only thing you can do is vibrate positively.
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Keep yourself busy with good energy to everything else,
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to the ongoing files.
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Forget about your request.
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Focus on something else.
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Synchronicity will come,
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and if it doesn't,
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it's either not the right time or something better will come.
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And sometimes the best thing that can happen to you is to get a no.
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Maybe the no calls you to ask again in a different way or to another person
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or to ask for something else,
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something more suitable,
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something that will make you happier than you had expected.
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All allow things to come to you in another way or in another form.
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Be certain that time is at your service.
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