Bouncing forward from failure Tutorial

Failure is often viewed negatively, but in 'Bouncing Forward From Failure', we explore how to transform setbacks into stepping stones for growth. This video delves into reshaping our perspectives on past mistakes and embracing agility and change. Learn how to view failures as valuable lessons and discover actionable steps to cultivate resilience. Don't let fear hold you back—watch now and reclaim your journey toward success!

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We have all been hurt by failure at one time or another.

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I wanted to win this match.

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I wanted to have this job.

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I didn't want a divorce.

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We didn't achieve our goals,

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and it's terribly frustrating,

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hurtful.

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Failures pave our way.

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What do we do with them?

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Do our failures make us want to go further,

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to try differently,

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or do they censor our desires and dreams because we

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now fear that we will not be up to them?

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In this video we will see how to change our outlook on our past,

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how to play down the fear of failure and make any failure an opportunity to grow.

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How can you change your outlook on your past?

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Loving yourself with your past is the first step

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in reconciling with what we call our mistakes,

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our failures.

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How do I look at my past?

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Are there things that I regret having done or having said?

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Ah,

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regrets.

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Do I think I was tough on my parents?

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Do I think I was not a good father?

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Do I blame myself for not having done the right studies?

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Do I see it as a failure to have had no career progression for five years?

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Do I regret not having started my business?

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Do I see it as a failure to have gone bankrupt?

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The more we look at our past with bitterness and intransigence,

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not forgiving ourselves for our failures,

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the more we will be in fear of experiencing new failures.

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When I was young,

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I organized a party with some friends.

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I got into it a bit late to send out the invitations.

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Only a few were available and could come,

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a big failure.

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It took me years to dare to organize a new party.

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I have a friend who first skied at 40.

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She found herself so bad on the first few tries that she said,

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No,

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not for me,

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thank you.

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I have met former managers who had failed in managing difficult employees

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to the point where it all ended up in the industrial tribunal,

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a failure too hard to digest.

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They refused to be a manager again,

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making peace with our past,

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healing the trauma of failures.

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The future is only possibly positive

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if we have healed our past if we stop judging ourselves harshly.

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Yes,

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I was not perfect.

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I had hiccups and pain.

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Yes,

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there are a lot of things that I will do differently today,

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and that's OK,

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even though I have been unemployed for 3 years,

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I choose to love and accept myself as I am.

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I stopped judging myself,

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putting myself down for it.

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Having lived through an ordeal like 3 years of unemployment and having survived,

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you should rather be proud of yourself

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than blame yourself.

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Living long-term unemployment,

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what a difficult experience in a world where our identity,

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our social status,

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and our financial security need

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force most to have a job.

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Loving yourself with your past is looking at it with compassion,

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ceasing to point out failures and to look for the ones to blame.

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Loving yourself with your past also means changing the direction of your gaze.

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If you look to the past,

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can you focus on all the beautiful moments of the past that you have lived?

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On all your successes,

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on all your talents,

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yes,

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store and update past successes in your recent memory to gain confidence.

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How to play down the fear of failure.

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Here is an excerpt from the theory of the stool by Joel Berger.

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An original solution in 7 steps to play down the fear of failure.

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When your attention is overly held by fear of a situation you dread,

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one,

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consider the worst.

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Make a disaster movie,

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for example,

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your boss gets seriously mad because of the poor quality of your work on a file,

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or the recruiter kicks you out,

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saying,

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You are terrible.

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You wasted my time.

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How dare you apply for this job?

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Or

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the business you started collapses and you have huge debts.

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If envisioning the disaster scenario scares you so much,

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breathe.

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Take the time to find your anchors.

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Remember that no man died.

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Imagine this disaster scenario happened to a very good friend and not to you,

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a friend who always knows how to bounce back.

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Take the time to look at the consequences that this terrible situation would bring.

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3,

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clearly define what you would do in this dramatic situation,

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or what you would advise your friend to do.

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list what could lead you to this disaster situation.

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Define what could make this happen.

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Why would your business collapse?

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Why would your boss fire you?

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5.

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Define a plan of action to prevent these reasons,

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the causes of your tragedy from happening.

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Set up a precise action plan,

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taking into account everything you understand about the situation

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and its possible causes.

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6,

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define the possible slip up points of this very precise plan.

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7.

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Define what you will do or what your friend can do if these slippages occur.

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Here

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you are ready to take risks.

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You are ready to face failure without making a big

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deal out of it and without cutting your wings.

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So now it's your turn to play.

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What actions are you reluctant to take for fear of failure?

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Are you afraid to assert yourself in front of your client,

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screen your fear of failure through the seven steps?

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How can we turn our failures into gifts?

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How do we learn from our failures?

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We should change the word failure.

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It is so steeped in negative emotion,

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regret,

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bitterness,

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guilt.

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What happened to bring about such a fear of failure?

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The child fell hundreds of times before he was able to walk.

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No one said the word failure as he fell.

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No one told him to stop trying and trying again.

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Each failure has brought him relentlessly closer to

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his ultimate goal of walking without falling.

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What made this young child turn into an adult who cannot handle any failure,

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who is afraid of failure?

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Classroom grading,

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the judgment of adults?

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Many of my coachches believe that their value

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is based on the success of their actions.

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They think

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I am what I do.

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So

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when they go through failure,

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that is,

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when they haven't achieved the goal they set for themselves,

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goals sometimes beyond their control,

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then

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they fall apart.

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I'm bad.

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I'm worth nothing.

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Why?

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Because you lost your tennis match,

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because your boss reframed you,

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because the client broke his contract,

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we can choose to look at our failures as ratings of our worth.

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8 out of 20,

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you can do better,

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or we can choose to view them as learning experience.

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Replace the word failure with learning stage

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and see how these steps have led us,

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if we have not given up along the way,

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to great victories.

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Edison made 10,000 attempts

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before creating the light bulb.

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Walt Disney was fired for lack of creativity.

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Abraham Lincoln was defeated 8 times in

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an election and experienced 2 financial bankruptcies.

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The corporate world itself is trying to shake off this crippling fear of failure.

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Bablaka's motto Fail,

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learn,

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succeed.

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One of Perno Ricard's slogans We recognize risk

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taking and the right to make mistakes.

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Whenever you experience failure,

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ask yourself the three questions.

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What did I learn?

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What would I do in a similar way,

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and especially what would I do otherwise?

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OK,

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failure was painful,

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but that's no reason to lose your vision,

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your passion.

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Luckily you didn't say at 14 months,

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No,

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too much of a failure.

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I fell too much.

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I surrender.

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I will keep on walking on all fours.

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I decided that standing was not a position for me.

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Of course your mind will want to convince you to give

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up your risky plans not to start over after failure.

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Your friends will certainly too.

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They fear to see you in pain again.

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Don't let fear and the fearful decide for you.

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Hold on to your vision.

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You have failed.

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What did you understand?

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What did you learn from it?

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Where did you want to go now?

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The mind believes that if it went wrong once,

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it will go wrong a second time.

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It believes the walls are still in the same place.

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If we don't capitalize on failure,

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if we don't learn of failure,

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yes,

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chances are we'll repeat the same mistakes over and over again,

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which will lead us into the same ruts.

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Of course there are people who have set up their

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business multiple times and failed over and over again.

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Should they stop believing that they can start a business?

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No,

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they should learn from their failure so as not to reproduce

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again the inappropriate certainties and actions that led them to failure.

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Mandela said,

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I never fail.

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Either I am successful or I learn.

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Don't judge me by my successes.

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Judge me by how many times I've fallen

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and got up again.

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