Breaking Free from failure Tutorial

Are you ready to redefine failure? In "Breaking Free From Failure," we shatter the stigma around setbacks and invite you to embrace them as stepping stones to success. Discover how a shift in perspective can turn failures into powerful learning moments. Join us for practical strategies that celebrate courage, risk-taking, and personal growth. Let go of the word 'failure' and unlock your potential today!

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We did something.

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The mind gets hold of it.

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It judges it.

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It compares it to what it wanted us to do,

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and woof,

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judged.

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This is a failure.

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You got fired.

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Was it a failure?

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Who knows?

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Certainly if you live it as a failure,

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it can lead to frustration and suffering in your life.

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But what if you looked at it differently?

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In this video,

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we're going to shake up the concept of failure until you like it,

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or laugh at failure,

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or just get that word out of your vocabulary.

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Failure,

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I forgot what that is.

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Can we like failures?

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Yes.

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I also wish you often to experience failure because

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it will be proof you have been alive,

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that you have tried,

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learned and grown.

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It's the experience that makes us become who we are,

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and failure is great experience.

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Those who do not experience failure are those who no longer learn anything,

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who no longer grow,

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who no longer get out of their comfort zone.

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And refusing to take risks for fear of failure is not only

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our death but the death of the companies that hire us.

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Innovation can only happen if people are not afraid of failing.

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Companies are therefore increasingly claiming the right to fail

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and the right to make mistakes.

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The slogan of Galleries Lafayette is Take risks,

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anticipate the future.

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Crystal Group notes that in its charter of

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values accept the risk of failure or error.

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Facebook encourages failure with humor.

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Fail harder by dint of daring and going through setbacks,

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you will no longer make it a drama.

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You will no longer be afraid of losing social validation because you failed.

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So I wish you the amount of failure you need to gain

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this freedom to dare to create and innovate without fear of failure.

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Not because you'll be so good that you won't fail,

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but because you'll be so strong that failure will no longer cause you to fall apart.

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You will bend your knees and start again.

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So instead of asking yourself how many

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successes can I congratulate myself on today,

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ask yourself how many failures can you claim.

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Take pride in your failures like the scars that children proudly hold up,

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for they are proof that they have been valiant stuntmen.

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Can we laugh at failure?

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Laugh at our failures.

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Yes,

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failure helps you.

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Can you love it?

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Allow yourself this week to have more failures than usual.

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For example,

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having more people tell you no is a sign that you will have dared to ask for more.

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Try your luck to request a discount in a store.

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Try your luck by making an innovation proposal to your hierarchy.

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Celebrate successes,

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of course,

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but above all,

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celebrate failures,

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for it is your courage that you will be celebrating.

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Your mind will take failures very seriously,

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very tragically.

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But you,

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you can celebrate and have fun.

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Do a show every night at home and in the office on your last slip.

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When were you completely off track in front of

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the director because you didn't understand their question?

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When a street vendor tricked you.

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The funniest comedians are those who tell their stories when they fail.

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Use self mockery to play down your mistakes and failures.

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Laugh it off.

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The best way to digest and bounce back from your failures

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isn't to sweep it under the carpet or even analyze it,

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it's to laugh at it.

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Could I laugh at having missed qualifying for the best

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business school and finding myself at a medium one?

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Of course,

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falling off a pedestal is one of the greatest comedy situations in existence.

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Failure certainly brings experience and wisdom,

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but if it brings humor,

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it's even better.

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Can we be free from failure?

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Yes.

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Want to get the word failure out of your vocabulary.

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Here are three unmatchable strategies.

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First,

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change your goals.

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Failure is most of the time a poorly formulated goal.

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If

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indeed we confuse objective and result,

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then yes,

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we will experience a lot of failure.

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If your goal is to get a salary increase.

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Thus this is what I call an expected result,

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you will put a lot of pressure on yourself,

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and you may get discouraged before you start.

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Your probability of failure is high even if not total.

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If your goal is to ask for a salary increase and not get a salary increase,

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that's another thing.

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Asking for a salary increase is a goal under control.

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Getting it is an expected result out of control.

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So

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if your goal is to ask for a salary increase,

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the pressure is already going down a notch.

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Whether your boss answers yes or no is not part of your goal.

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It's asking that matters.

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You have minimized the risk of failure.

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Yes,

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you can toast with champagne as soon as you ask for your salary increase.

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You will have succeeded.

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You will have taken up your challenge.

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Failure is therefore often a poorly set goal.

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Often we set goals that are not under our full control,

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such as getting a job.

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Indeed,

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everything does not depend on us.

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There are other people with their perceptions and their

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moods and their free will on the way,

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and you can't control them.

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So if you set goals,

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set goals that are up to you.

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Goals that are under your control and not results

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to minimize the risk of failure and take the pressure off yourself,

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you can also cut the elephant into pieces.

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If you want to ask for a salary increase.

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First objective write down your arguments on one page.

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Is it done?

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Celebrate.

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First success.

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The second objective

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rehearse your speech in front of a mirror or with a friend.

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Is it done?

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Celebrate.

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The 3rd objective,

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ask your boss for an interview.

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The 4th objective,

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go to the interview and talk.

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4 occasions to toast with champagne.

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By dint of celebrating each little

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victory and regularly giving yourself applause,

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you will build a nervous system that will be

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used to send you regular messages of pride.

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You will no longer fear failure.

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And remember too

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that success is more linked to your energy and beliefs.

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If you are doing everything right and it doesn't work,

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check out with what energy you do it,

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with what energies and what beliefs.

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My second tip for removing failure from your life is

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to cultivate the belief that it's better this way.

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Being convinced that this failure is a

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blocked road because something better awaits us.

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What if failure is the most beautiful thing we have ever received?

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You got fired,

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but you've been wanting to change jobs for years.

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Your partner left you,

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but you weren't happy together any more,

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were you?

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Your boss didn't give you this project,

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but what if it was to have more time for you or an even better project?

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Your startup didn't make profit.

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But anyway,

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the foundations were wobbly,

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and we had to review the concept.

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It's a philosophy of life,

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knowing that everything we experience serves us.

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What is the wisdom behind what my mind perceives as a failure?

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Can I trust myself and trust in life that this failure,

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this blocked road,

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is there to serve me?

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Maybe my project will not start until I find a business partner who suits me better.

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Maybe I punctured my bike to avoid an accident at the next crossroads.

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Maybe my burnout is an opportunity to decide what I really want.

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Maybe this domineering colleague is there to.

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assert myself completely

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and learn how to set my limits.

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When you go through a failure,

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I invite you to nurture the conviction of

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this failure is there to serve me,

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it's for something bigger.

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Then let the wisdom come to you naturally.

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It will tell you how this failure is there to serve you,

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and that this wisdom will show you what this failure has in store for you.

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You just have to allow this inner wisdom to come and talk to you,

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and since we are talking about our inner wisdom,

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let's take a step forward.

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When wisdom comes into play,

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the whole notion of purpose disappears.

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The wise man or wise woman has desires and preferences,

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but no goals that they force themselves to achieve.

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And without goals to achieve,

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failure no longer exists.

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The wise man tastes life in whatever form it takes.

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The path,

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the experience is what they appreciate.

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They don't care about the weather,

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the train station,

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as long as they make their path a happy one.

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They have no destination,

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no expected outcome.

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They learned to define what is with a positive outlook,

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to love what is.

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Going beyond the mind,

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they can see the benefit of everything.

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The path seems closed on.

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The right,

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isn't that a sign that I would have a better adventure on the left path?

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For the wise there is no failure,

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just experience,

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and any experience is sensual and vibrant,

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even the ones that seem the most difficult,

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and every experience brings its nectar of wisdom

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until such time as their wisdom is such that they rejoice in everything.

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Because they know that they created all

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their experiences for the sake of themselves,

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and they congratulate themselves for having created that.

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They congratulate themselves for having created their past,

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their present,

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and their future.

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Everything contributes to the benefit of the one who trusts themselves.

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