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We did something.
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The mind gets hold of it.
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It compares it to what it wanted us to do,
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This is a failure.
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Was it a failure?
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Certainly if you live it as a failure,
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it can lead to frustration and suffering in your life.
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But what if you looked at it differently?
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we're going to shake up the concept of failure until you like it,
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or laugh at failure,
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or just get that word out of your vocabulary.
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I forgot what that is.
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Can we like failures?
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I also wish you often to experience failure because
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it will be proof you have been alive,
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that you have tried,
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learned and grown.
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It's the experience that makes us become who we are,
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and failure is great experience.
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Those who do not experience failure are those who no longer learn anything,
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who no longer grow,
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who no longer get out of their comfort zone.
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And refusing to take risks for fear of failure is not only
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our death but the death of the companies that hire us.
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Innovation can only happen if people are not afraid of failing.
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Companies are therefore increasingly claiming the right to fail
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and the right to make mistakes.
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The slogan of Galleries Lafayette is Take risks,
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anticipate the future.
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Crystal Group notes that in its charter of
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values accept the risk of failure or error.
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Facebook encourages failure with humor.
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Fail harder by dint of daring and going through setbacks,
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you will no longer make it a drama.
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You will no longer be afraid of losing social validation because you failed.
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So I wish you the amount of failure you need to gain
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this freedom to dare to create and innovate without fear of failure.
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Not because you'll be so good that you won't fail,
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but because you'll be so strong that failure will no longer cause you to fall apart.
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You will bend your knees and start again.
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So instead of asking yourself how many
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successes can I congratulate myself on today,
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ask yourself how many failures can you claim.
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Take pride in your failures like the scars that children proudly hold up,
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for they are proof that they have been valiant stuntmen.
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Can we laugh at failure?
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Laugh at our failures.
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failure helps you.
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Can you love it?
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Allow yourself this week to have more failures than usual.
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having more people tell you no is a sign that you will have dared to ask for more.
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Try your luck to request a discount in a store.
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Try your luck by making an innovation proposal to your hierarchy.
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Celebrate successes,
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celebrate failures,
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for it is your courage that you will be celebrating.
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Your mind will take failures very seriously,
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very tragically.
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you can celebrate and have fun.
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Do a show every night at home and in the office on your last slip.
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When were you completely off track in front of
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the director because you didn't understand their question?
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When a street vendor tricked you.
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The funniest comedians are those who tell their stories when they fail.
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Use self mockery to play down your mistakes and failures.
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The best way to digest and bounce back from your failures
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isn't to sweep it under the carpet or even analyze it,
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it's to laugh at it.
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Could I laugh at having missed qualifying for the best
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business school and finding myself at a medium one?
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falling off a pedestal is one of the greatest comedy situations in existence.
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Failure certainly brings experience and wisdom,
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but if it brings humor,
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it's even better.
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Can we be free from failure?
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Want to get the word failure out of your vocabulary.
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Here are three unmatchable strategies.
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change your goals.
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Failure is most of the time a poorly formulated goal.
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indeed we confuse objective and result,
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we will experience a lot of failure.
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If your goal is to get a salary increase.
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Thus this is what I call an expected result,
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you will put a lot of pressure on yourself,
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and you may get discouraged before you start.
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Your probability of failure is high even if not total.
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If your goal is to ask for a salary increase and not get a salary increase,
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that's another thing.
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Asking for a salary increase is a goal under control.
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Getting it is an expected result out of control.
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if your goal is to ask for a salary increase,
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the pressure is already going down a notch.
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Whether your boss answers yes or no is not part of your goal.
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It's asking that matters.
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You have minimized the risk of failure.
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you can toast with champagne as soon as you ask for your salary increase.
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You will have succeeded.
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You will have taken up your challenge.
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Failure is therefore often a poorly set goal.
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Often we set goals that are not under our full control,
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such as getting a job.
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everything does not depend on us.
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There are other people with their perceptions and their
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moods and their free will on the way,
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and you can't control them.
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So if you set goals,
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set goals that are up to you.
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Goals that are under your control and not results
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to minimize the risk of failure and take the pressure off yourself,
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you can also cut the elephant into pieces.
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If you want to ask for a salary increase.
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First objective write down your arguments on one page.
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The second objective
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rehearse your speech in front of a mirror or with a friend.
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The 3rd objective,
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ask your boss for an interview.
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The 4th objective,
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go to the interview and talk.
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4 occasions to toast with champagne.
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By dint of celebrating each little
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victory and regularly giving yourself applause,
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you will build a nervous system that will be
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used to send you regular messages of pride.
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You will no longer fear failure.
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And remember too
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that success is more linked to your energy and beliefs.
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If you are doing everything right and it doesn't work,
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check out with what energy you do it,
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with what energies and what beliefs.
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My second tip for removing failure from your life is
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to cultivate the belief that it's better this way.
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Being convinced that this failure is a
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blocked road because something better awaits us.
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What if failure is the most beautiful thing we have ever received?
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but you've been wanting to change jobs for years.
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Your partner left you,
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but you weren't happy together any more,
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Your boss didn't give you this project,
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but what if it was to have more time for you or an even better project?
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Your startup didn't make profit.
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the foundations were wobbly,
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and we had to review the concept.
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It's a philosophy of life,
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knowing that everything we experience serves us.
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What is the wisdom behind what my mind perceives as a failure?
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Can I trust myself and trust in life that this failure,
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this blocked road,
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is there to serve me?
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Maybe my project will not start until I find a business partner who suits me better.
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Maybe I punctured my bike to avoid an accident at the next crossroads.
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Maybe my burnout is an opportunity to decide what I really want.
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Maybe this domineering colleague is there to.
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assert myself completely
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and learn how to set my limits.
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When you go through a failure,
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I invite you to nurture the conviction of
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this failure is there to serve me,
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it's for something bigger.
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Then let the wisdom come to you naturally.
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It will tell you how this failure is there to serve you,
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and that this wisdom will show you what this failure has in store for you.
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You just have to allow this inner wisdom to come and talk to you,
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and since we are talking about our inner wisdom,
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let's take a step forward.
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When wisdom comes into play,
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the whole notion of purpose disappears.
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The wise man or wise woman has desires and preferences,
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but no goals that they force themselves to achieve.
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And without goals to achieve,
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failure no longer exists.
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The wise man tastes life in whatever form it takes.
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the experience is what they appreciate.
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They don't care about the weather,
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the train station,
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as long as they make their path a happy one.
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They have no destination,
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no expected outcome.
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They learned to define what is with a positive outlook,
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to love what is.
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Going beyond the mind,
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they can see the benefit of everything.
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The path seems closed on.
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isn't that a sign that I would have a better adventure on the left path?
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For the wise there is no failure,
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just experience,
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and any experience is sensual and vibrant,
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even the ones that seem the most difficult,
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and every experience brings its nectar of wisdom
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until such time as their wisdom is such that they rejoice in everything.
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Because they know that they created all
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their experiences for the sake of themselves,
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and they congratulate themselves for having created that.
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They congratulate themselves for having created their past,
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and their future.
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Everything contributes to the benefit of the one who trusts themselves.
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