Conditional and unconditional self-trust Tutorial

Unlock the power of 'conditional and unconditional self-trust' in this insightful video! Discover how to build confidence rooted in experiences and success, while also embracing an innate trust that transcends facts. Explore transformative strategies to foster assertiveness and resilience, and learn to navigate life's challenges with unwavering belief in yourself. Join us on this journey towards greater self-discovery and empowerment!

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I still don't trust myself,

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but what do you mean by self-confidence,

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a feeling of omnipotence,

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having no fear and no doubt.

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It is unreachable,

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or you would no longer be human.

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On the other hand,

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yes,

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self-confidence can be nourished and grow.

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How?

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By accumulating experience and success it is conditional confidence,

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or choosing to trust yourself regardless of the indicators,

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it is unconditional trust.

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Both are gifts.

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What is conditional self-confidence?

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Conditional self-confidence is based on facts,

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concrete successes.

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I have confidence in myself

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because I succeeded in this task.

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I have confidence in myself because I got good grades.

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I have confidence in myself because I scored a goal.

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I have confidence in myself because I have made a career.

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I trust myself because I have the answers to questions.

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I trust myself because

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conditional self-confidence is based on concrete evidence.

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There is a factual and verifiable tangible because

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the mind has in its database the elements to support its assertion of confidence.

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I have confidence in myself,

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in my ability to be creative,

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because 10 people have told me

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that I am creative.

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This too is a fact

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that goes into the database of the mind,

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even if it is only a subjective perception of others.

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This self-confidence is nourished by external facts.

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It is conditioned by an external environment.

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It grows normally with age and life experiences.

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This conditional self-confidence is built over time,

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depending on your experiences.

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You just have to act to work,

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to train,

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repeat tennis lessons until you play well.

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Study a foreign language until you feel confident enough to speak in public.

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Learn to drive a car until you are relaxed at the wheel.

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After 5 job interviews,

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we are better.

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We arrive more confident.

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First attempts are the most difficult.

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There is no previous experience to follow.

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There are no engrams,

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no neural paths.

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Afterwards,

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you just have to go back to the initial path,

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modify it slightly if necessary,

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and widen it.

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The brain learns from these repeated actions until the day it declares,

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OK,

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you can do it,

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or even,

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OK,

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you are really good.

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Confidence is installed.

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The more we dare to experiment,

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the more our confidence will naturally grow like a tree.

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So

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I invite you to develop this conditional trust,

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to dare

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to experiment again and again to create a database of trust

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that grows larger over the years.

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The more you experience outside of your comfort zone,

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the more you go into the new as a pioneer,

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the more likely you are to be confident in yourself.

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You will be asked how did you develop this beautiful self-confidence?

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You will answer,

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it's simple.

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I have experienced and celebrated every little step,

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every learning,

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every little success.

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What is unconditional self-confidence?

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Unconditional self-confidence is not rational.

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It is not tied to facts,

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experience,

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achievements.

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In a way,

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it can't be explained.

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There is no because it's not I have confidence in myself because

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I had good grades in school.

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It's not I have confidence in myself because I succeeded in this project.

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Unconditional self-confidence is I trust myself,

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period.

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Whatever happened to me in the past,

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whatever people think or say about me,

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whatever obstacles are in my path,

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I have the confidence that will know how to manage,

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that I will know how to bounce back,

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that I will be able to keep going

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even if I fall.

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That I will find my way back even if I get lost for a while.

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That's what is trust in man or in a soul,

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a trust which cannot be explained,

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which cannot be earned,

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which cannot be rationalized.

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And this self-confidence inevitably comes with confidence in life itself.

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It's not a naive,

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everything's going to be OK type of confidence.

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I'm going to get the job and my spouse is going to love

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me all my life and my kids are going to be successful,

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and I will never be sick and I will never be wrong.

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This is unconsciousness.

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No,

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it is a deeper,

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more spiritual trust,

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I dare say.

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I will know how to bounce back.

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I will know how to get the best of what I am going through.

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I will create life experiences that will lead me towards my realization.

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Because life cannot lead us elsewhere,

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even if we sometimes follow roundabout paths.

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With this unconditional confidence we can face anything,

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and that confidence in yourself and in life,

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that unconditional confidence is a choice.

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I choose to trust.

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I choose to trust myself.

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I choose to trust what I create.

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I take full responsibility for what I am going through.

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No need to have proof.

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So

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conditional trust is the result of successful experiences and learning.

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Unconditional trust is a premise that precedes experience itself,

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and this assumption will influence my experiences.

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With this unconditional confidence,

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I will attract more success.

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With this unconditional confidence,

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I will have the resilience to bounce back and go higher after my failures.

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We all have within us this space of trust,

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this safe space

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in which we find the master or the sage that we are

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deep within us.

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The one who knows that all is well,

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that everything is useful to us.

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This unconditional confidence is felt,

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sensed.

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It doesn't think of itself.

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It manifests as a sensation,

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and we can cultivate this feeling,

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this physical feeling,

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sensation of peace,

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of inner power and relaxation all at the same time.

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To cultivate and develop this unconditional confidence,

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I therefore recommend that you first regularly choose trust.

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I choose confidence in this professional project.

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I choose the confidence in front of my son in school failure.

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I choose confidence while my body is sick.

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And

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because mental affirmations don't have much of an impact

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when they stay in the virtual,

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build confidence in your body,

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let it become a sensation.

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To feel,

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to sense within yourself that you are safe in a safe place.

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Stretch the muscles contracted by tensions.

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Straighten your posture,

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cultivate deep breathing.

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Safe space is born there in the pit of one's stomach by quiet breathing.

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Safe space doesn't really come from up there from your brain.

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Confidence has to take hold in the body.

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All is well.

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Breathe

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in your safe space and let conditional trust and unconditional trust serve you.

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