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How can you improve your relationship?
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we will analyse 4 ways to improve your relationship with your superior,
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finding your place,
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understanding their needs.
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Making your needs known and adjusting communication.
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Finding one's place is not only a challenge for you,
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but also for your boss.
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If they were involved and listened to in the recruitment process,
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then the foundations will be sound.
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If this has not been the case,
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I invite you to break the ice.
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I understand that I wasn't your first choice for this position,
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and I'm sorry for that.
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Keep quiet for a moment if they would like to react
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and then continue.
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I'm really interested in this position,
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and I will put all my energy into leading the group's strategy effectively.
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our ability to work together will be a unifying element for us and the teams.
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How do you want us to work together?
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Finding one's place means being able to share on
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one's jobs description sheet with the greatest transparency.
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Conflicts between people are often caused by
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unclear and unshared perimeters and roles.
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If you have a detailed job description,
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take some time to share it.
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Complete it in agreement with your boss.
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If you don't have one,
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write your job description yourself and share it with your boss.
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You must know who does what,
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where your responsibilities end,
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and where do theirs begin.
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what do you decide alone?
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What do you decide with their opinion,
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what they decide alone,
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and what you decide in consultation.
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understand the needs of your superior.
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Understanding the needs of your superior means broadening your
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vision to their entire perimeter and not just yours.
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Put yourself in your boss's shoes and imagine an ideal employee.
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They are competent and motivated.
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They don't come asking for help all the time or confirmation.
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They can offer support and ideas too.
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They come to ask you,
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what do you need?
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How can I help you?
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What is your vision,
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and how can I apply it in my area of responsibility?
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I have some suggestions for the department.
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Would you like to hear them?
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A good manager is an exemplary team member.
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Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself what is an ideal employee for me.
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You will then have some new clues to help you work with your boss.
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What do you need,
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Ask them the question.
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like any human and any professional,
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has explicit and implicit needs.
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Explicit means they are normally expressed by the manager.
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They need the team to contribute to the vision that they
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communicate and which has been partly set by the hierarchy.
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They have two priorities.
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Do you know what they are?
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They expect results.
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Do you contribute?
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They need reporting.
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Do you know on what,
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with what level of detail and within what time frame?
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Have you drawn up value-added reporting tables together?
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Your boss also has implicit needs that they don't talk about spontaneously.
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These implicit needs are linked to their personality.
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Do you have a boss who needs reassurance?
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Do you have a boss who needs to be valued?
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Do you have a boss who needs to know everything?
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Do you have a boss who needs to prepare for their upcoming promotion?
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Do you have a boss who wants to avoid conflict at all costs and who values consensus?
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Do you have a boss who only wants to be bothered in case of an emergency?
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When you are clear about these implicit needs,
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ask yourself the question
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which of your boss's implicit needs can you meet and which of them do you want to meet?
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The adult to adult relationship is about understanding each other's implicit and
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explicit needs and trying to meet them in an adjusted way.
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If you feel that it is your boss's responsibility to meet your.
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Needs and not the other way round,
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chances are you're in a parent-child relationship,
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but it's never too late to readjust the
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relationship to build an adult to adult relationship.
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make your needs known.
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it's up to you to make your needs known to your supervisor.
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Don't go thinking that your boss has to anticipate your needs.
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This is a child's illusion of omnipotence who believes
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that their parents should guess their needs and desires.
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Simply express yourself as an adult.
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clearly saying what your needs are is your full responsibility.
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What needs do you have that you haven't yet expressed to your
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boss because you haven't dared or because you think they know them?
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Depending on your position and your personality,
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you may need someone with whom you can talk about vision and innovation.
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Perhaps you will need their intervention on a decision on a file,
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or you may be someone who needs feedback and encouragement.
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Some will need autonomy.
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Others will need a boss who's very available.
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Depending on your experience and maturity in the position,
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your needs will evolve.
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Let your boss know it's up to you to tell them
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that you wish to be autonomous on a particular project,
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to tell them that you are interested in a particular cross-functional mission.
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To let them know that you wish to take part in a particular meeting,
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don't be afraid to express your needs under the
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pretext that your boss will certainly say no.
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perhaps this will be an opportunity for you
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to understand why your boss cannot meet them.
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you don't know how things might evolve tomorrow.
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a boss who says no to one need
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may respond to another need to keep you motivated in a different way.
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adjust your communication.
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Being authentic in your relationship with your boss is possible
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even if you don't share the same vision,
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even if your way of managing is different.
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The art of communication is at its peak when
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you are facing someone you have little chemistry with.
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Even in this case,
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you can still share several ambitions with your superior.
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to carry and enrich the vision of the management
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to guarantee the results and the satisfaction of the team.
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Focus on these points in common when communicating with your boss.
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Choose the right time to communicate with them,
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the time when they will be really available.
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I would like to see you.
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Is this the right time?
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If you wish to explain a problem to them,
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always come with proposals for solutions.
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Speaking truthfully also means daring to say,
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I don't share this point of view,
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and bringing your vision and your proposals.
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Speaking truthfully also means daring to say I made a mistake or
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I don't know how to do it or I need help.
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It's daring to say I see things differently.
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You can say no to your boss if what is asked
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of you seems to go against the company's visions and values,
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if what your boss is asking of you seems to jeopardise your department
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too much or not even serve the objectives you are committed to.
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If communication is impossible and you think you have done your best to improve it,
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involve your HR,
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or your staff representatives to facilitate mediation.
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I will end this sequence on the alliance with your boss by reminding
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you that an alliance with your boss is maintained through regular meetings.
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Don't cut yourself off from the top of the pyramid by not seeing your boss.
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Don't let a month go by without having taken the time to share in a real 1 to 1 interview
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the progress of your department and the exchange of your visions.
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