Creating an alliance with your boss Tutorial

Unlock the secrets to a powerful partnership with your boss! In "Creating an Alliance with Your Boss", discover four key strategies to enhance your relationship, from clearly communicating your needs to understanding your superior’s expectations. Perfect for those looking to assert themselves and elevate their workplace dynamics. Dive in and transform your professional interactions today!

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How can you improve your relationship?

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In this video,

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we will analyse 4 ways to improve your relationship with your superior,

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finding your place,

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understanding their needs.

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Making your needs known and adjusting communication.

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Finding one's place is not only a challenge for you,

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but also for your boss.

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If they were involved and listened to in the recruitment process,

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then the foundations will be sound.

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If this has not been the case,

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I invite you to break the ice.

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Tony,

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I understand that I wasn't your first choice for this position,

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and I'm sorry for that.

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Keep quiet for a moment if they would like to react

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and then continue.

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I'm really interested in this position,

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and I will put all my energy into leading the group's strategy effectively.

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To do this,

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our ability to work together will be a unifying element for us and the teams.

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How do you want us to work together?

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Finding one's place means being able to share on

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one's jobs description sheet with the greatest transparency.

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Conflicts between people are often caused by

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unclear and unshared perimeters and roles.

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If you have a detailed job description,

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take some time to share it.

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Complete it in agreement with your boss.

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If you don't have one,

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write your job description yourself and share it with your boss.

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You must know who does what,

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where your responsibilities end,

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and where do theirs begin.

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That is to say,

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what do you decide alone?

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What do you decide with their opinion,

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what they decide alone,

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and what you decide in consultation.

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Tip two,

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understand the needs of your superior.

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Understanding the needs of your superior means broadening your

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vision to their entire perimeter and not just yours.

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Put yourself in your boss's shoes and imagine an ideal employee.

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They are competent and motivated.

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They don't come asking for help all the time or confirmation.

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They can offer support and ideas too.

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They come to ask you,

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their boss,

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what do you need?

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How can I help you?

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What is your vision,

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and how can I apply it in my area of responsibility?

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I have some suggestions for the department.

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Would you like to hear them?

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A good manager is an exemplary team member.

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Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself what is an ideal employee for me.

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You will then have some new clues to help you work with your boss.

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What do you need,

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boss?

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Ask them the question.

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Your manager,

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like any human and any professional,

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has explicit and implicit needs.

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Explicit means they are normally expressed by the manager.

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They need the team to contribute to the vision that they

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communicate and which has been partly set by the hierarchy.

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They have two priorities.

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Do you know what they are?

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They expect results.

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Do you contribute?

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They need reporting.

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Do you know on what,

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with what level of detail and within what time frame?

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Have you drawn up value-added reporting tables together?

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Your boss also has implicit needs that they don't talk about spontaneously.

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These implicit needs are linked to their personality.

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Do you have a boss who needs reassurance?

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Do you have a boss who needs to be valued?

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Do you have a boss who needs to know everything?

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Do you have a boss who needs to prepare for their upcoming promotion?

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Do you have a boss who wants to avoid conflict at all costs and who values consensus?

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Do you have a boss who only wants to be bothered in case of an emergency?

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When you are clear about these implicit needs,

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ask yourself the question

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which of your boss's implicit needs can you meet and which of them do you want to meet?

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The adult to adult relationship is about understanding each other's implicit and

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explicit needs and trying to meet them in an adjusted way.

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If you feel that it is your boss's responsibility to meet your.

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Needs and not the other way round,

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chances are you're in a parent-child relationship,

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but it's never too late to readjust the

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relationship to build an adult to adult relationship.

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Tip 3,

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make your needs known.

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Yes,

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it's up to you to make your needs known to your supervisor.

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Don't go thinking that your boss has to anticipate your needs.

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This is a child's illusion of omnipotence who believes

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that their parents should guess their needs and desires.

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Simply express yourself as an adult.

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Indeed,

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clearly saying what your needs are is your full responsibility.

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What needs do you have that you haven't yet expressed to your

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boss because you haven't dared or because you think they know them?

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Depending on your position and your personality,

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you may need someone with whom you can talk about vision and innovation.

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Perhaps you will need their intervention on a decision on a file,

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or you may be someone who needs feedback and encouragement.

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Some will need autonomy.

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Others will need a boss who's very available.

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Depending on your experience and maturity in the position,

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your needs will evolve.

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Let your boss know it's up to you to tell them

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that you wish to be autonomous on a particular project,

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to tell them that you are interested in a particular cross-functional mission.

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To let them know that you wish to take part in a particular meeting,

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don't be afraid to express your needs under the

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pretext that your boss will certainly say no.

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First of all,

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perhaps this will be an opportunity for you

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to understand why your boss cannot meet them.

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And secondly,

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you don't know how things might evolve tomorrow.

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Finally,

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a boss who says no to one need

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may respond to another need to keep you motivated in a different way.

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Tip 4,

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adjust your communication.

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Being authentic in your relationship with your boss is possible

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even if you don't share the same vision,

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even if your way of managing is different.

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The art of communication is at its peak when

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you are facing someone you have little chemistry with.

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Even in this case,

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you can still share several ambitions with your superior.

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At least 3

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to carry and enrich the vision of the management

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to guarantee the results and the satisfaction of the team.

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Focus on these points in common when communicating with your boss.

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Choose the right time to communicate with them,

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the time when they will be really available.

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John,

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I would like to see you.

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Is this the right time?

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If you wish to explain a problem to them,

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always come with proposals for solutions.

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Speaking truthfully also means daring to say,

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I don't share this point of view,

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and bringing your vision and your proposals.

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Speaking truthfully also means daring to say I made a mistake or

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I don't know how to do it or I need help.

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It's daring to say I see things differently.

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You can say no to your boss if what is asked

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of you seems to go against the company's visions and values,

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if what your boss is asking of you seems to jeopardise your department

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too much or not even serve the objectives you are committed to.

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If communication is impossible and you think you have done your best to improve it,

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involve your HR,

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your hierarchy,

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or your staff representatives to facilitate mediation.

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I will end this sequence on the alliance with your boss by reminding

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you that an alliance with your boss is maintained through regular meetings.

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Don't cut yourself off from the top of the pyramid by not seeing your boss.

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Don't let a month go by without having taken the time to share in a real 1 to 1 interview

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the progress of your department and the exchange of your visions.

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