Dealing with your stressors Tutorial

Feeling overwhelmed by stressors? Discover effective strategies to regain control in 'Dealing with Your Stressors'. In this insightful video, we explore key self-development questions that can transform your stress from a negative force into proactive management. Learn about the 7 major stressors identified by expert Georg Kohlreiser and actionable steps to address them. Don't let stress rule your life—take the first step towards change today!

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and what are your stressors?

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Do you have leverage on them?

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In this video we'll describe your stressors from a self-development perspective.

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Then we'll cover the right questions to ask yourself about your stressors,

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questions that will help you move from a dynamic where we are the subject to stress

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to a proactive dynamic where we manage it.

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The German stress consultant Georges Kohlreiser listed 7 stressors.

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You can get out of the infernal cycle

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of these seven stressors by working on yourself.

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1 loss,

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loss of a loved one,

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divorce,

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departure of your children,

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moving houses professionally.

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We will talk about transfer or worse loss of employment.

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Loss is the most stressful factor of all when it

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comes to someone or something that is important to us.

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Are you experiencing or have you recently experienced a stressful loss?

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Or are you so afraid of losing something important to you,

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your job,

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for example,

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that your stress of losing is permanent?

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The stress of loss seems like a dead end,

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a bottomless pit.

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If you look at what you have lost,

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you are fueling anger and sadness.

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If you look to the unknown future,

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you harbor anxiety.

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Looking at the past hurts.

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Looking to the future is scary.

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A step by step strategy in the present is

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the only way to avoid being overwhelmed by stress.

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Second stressor,

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according to Koreiser,

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any inconsistency or contradiction with our objectives and values.

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When our values are fulfilled,

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we feel good.

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As soon as our values are trampled,

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it creates stress.

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If you have a strong equity value and people around you do not share it,

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you are going to be stressed out every time your ideal of equity is broken.

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Ask yourself,

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what are your values?

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Are they compatible with the culture of your company?

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Are they shared by your manager,

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your colleagues?

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If not,

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this contradiction will inevitably cause stress.

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Three alternatives are then available to you

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staying in this painful situation

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while criticizing or being silent,

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softening your value system,

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or finding a new environment more compatible with your goals and values.

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Third stressor,

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difficult relationships,

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loneliness,

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or lack of relationships.

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How do you get along with your colleagues,

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your team members,

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your hierarchy?

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Are you close enough to your family and friends to find balance and fulfillment?

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Difficult relationships are both a cause and a consequence of stress.

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Stress takes social life into a vicious cycle that

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can at worst lead to conflict and or isolation.

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Working on communication and or conflict management

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can help you eliminate relationship stress.

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Fourth stressor,

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small everyday nuisances,

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traffic jams,

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parking difficulties,

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delays,

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meetings that do not move forward,

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criticism.

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These nuisances carry little stress,

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but repetition can cause a lot of stress and at a disproportionate reaction.

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Either you take action to put an end to these annoyances,

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either you cease to endure them by distancing yourself from their source,

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or you change your outlook on these nuisances which were slowly eating you up.

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For example,

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you stop taking criticism personally.

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Fifth stressor,

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the speed and accelerated pace of life.

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By dint of running between the metro work,

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meetings,

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nursery,

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urgent requests,

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last minutes,

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the body no longer rests,

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no longer breathes,

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and accumulates tension.

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Analyze your organization of life.

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What time of day do you run?

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Do you take breaks or micro breaks?

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We invite you to follow our videos on time

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management so that you won't suffer time any longer,

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but you'll rather be the master of time.

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6th stressor,

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the external environment,

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noise,

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cold,

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heat,

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lack of air,

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ugliness,

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grayness,

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bad smells,

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open space are all sources of stress to be taken into consideration.

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We will see how you can improve your vacog,

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sensory environment,

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visual,

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auditory,

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kinesthetic,

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olfactory,

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and gustative

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to compensate for these negative stimuli.

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7th stressor deep fears,

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fear of failure,

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fear in the face of uncertainty,

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fear of being rejected,

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judged,

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invaded.

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If these fundamental fears often anchored in past events lead your life,

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they will feed daily and deep stress.

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If this is the case,

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I invite you to find support from a professional.

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Here are 8 golden questions that will help

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you deal with stressors you have recognized.

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One,

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what is stressing me out so much?

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Be specific to find your own trigger.

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It is not necessarily my colleague who stresses me.

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It is their errors in handling cases or their

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lack of politeness or their lack of autonomy,

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or

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2,

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how does stress manifest in me?

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Anger,

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worry,

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stomach aches,

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tears,

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need to talk to everyone,

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want to run away?

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How does stress manifest in me?

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3,

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why does it stress me this much?

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We can always find other people who are much less

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stressed than us when faced with the same challenge.

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It means that the situation resonates stronger with me,

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touches me more personally.

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Why is this stressing me so much?

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Question 4,

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how can I change my perception of the situation?

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Have a less negative or less serious reading of the situation?

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How can I tell another story from a different perspective with a calmer,

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wiser side of me?

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Question 5.

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How can I act?

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What is my leeway to reduce stress in me and around me?

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Question 6.

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What requests and suggestions can I make and to whom?

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Question 7.

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Can I let go?

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An important question,

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especially if I don't have a grip on the stressor,

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for example,

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delays in public transport.

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Can I let go?

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Final question,

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question 8.

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How do I take care of myself in the midst of stress,

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for example,

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setting up recovery times,

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taking care of my body,

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pleasing myself.

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Those were the 8 golden questions to cope with your stressors.

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