Defining our internal state, our emotions Tutorial

Feeling stressed? This video, "Defining Our Internal State, Our Emotions," invites you to explore your true emotional state beneath the surface of stress. Discover how to accurately name your feelings through nonviolent communication, and learn why this clarity is essential for well-being. Ready to take control of your emotions and enhance your positive energy? Tune in now!

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is a common expression behind which numerous feelings are hidden.

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Here is an invitation.

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The next time you feel stressed,

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to choose the right word to describe

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what you're feeling inside your emotional state.

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An invitation to be aware of what you are going through inside

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and the signal that this feeling is sending you.

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We will explore in this video 1,

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the emotions behind the stress,

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2,

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how to name the emotions in nonviolent communication,

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and 3,

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the case of stress without the presence of emotions.

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The emotions behind stress.

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Let's start by simply defining what an internal state is,

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a word borrowed from personal development

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and more particularly from NLP,

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neurolinguistic programming.

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This is the state,

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the inner feeling

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that you are in at any given time.

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What is your internal state as you watch this video?

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Are you focused,

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confident,

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anxious,

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impatient,

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tired,

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cautious,

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admiring,

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motivated?

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I invite you,

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when you feel stressed,

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to take the time to put the right word on your internal

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state to be more aware of what you are going through.

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The word stressed is a common word that hides dozens of internal states behind.

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You are stressed.

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Are you rather irritated,

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worried,

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disappointed,

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guilty,

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annoyed,

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anguished,

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unsettled,

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overwhelmed,

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discouraged,

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skeptical,

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tense,

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confused,

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frustrated,

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agitated,

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dejected,

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torn,

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exhausted?

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What do you feel exactly?

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Your internal states are signals,

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irritation stress and anxiety stress do not carry the same message

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and require a different take in hand from yourself and from those around you.

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The word stress seems to be one.

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The few words accepted in business to speak of negative emotions and malaise,

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it is necessary to open the box of your stress

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and know in what color and what form it manifests itself

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rather than being left in the confusion of an all-purpose word.

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Are you saying you're stressed out?

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What is your internal state?

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What is your emotion behind

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the mask of stress?

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emotions and nonviolent communication.

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One of the five pillars of nonviolent communication

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is how to express one's internal states.

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I'm irritated.

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I'm exhausted.

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I'm determined.

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I'm drained.

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Negative internal states are due to unmet needs.

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Once you put into words your negative emotion,

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you can express it in a dispassionate way.

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I am disappointed.

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I am intimidated.

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I am discouraged.

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You have become your observer,

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the observer of the part of you

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that is tired,

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irritated,

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worried.

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To name our emotion is therefore to connect with a part of us that is larger,

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unaffected by emotion.

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So

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connected to the master,

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to the self heart,

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to the higher self,

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some would say,

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and clear with your emotions,

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then

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you can express your needs.

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Express the need behind the emotion.

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Naming the emotion is therefore the first step

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before discerning the need and finding the solution.

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Warning

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in this stage of awareness and nominalization of emotion,

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there are pitfalls.

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Beware of masked judgments and interpretations that can

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hide behind poorly chosen words of emotions.

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If you say I feel cheated or humiliated or neglected or betrayed or accused,

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you are not expressing an emotion.

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You are expressing an interpretation,

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even a judgment

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about someone who has cheated or humiliated you

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or neglected or betrayed or accused you.

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It doesn't sound like much,

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but these so-called emotions are not emotions.

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Your unemotional inner being would never offer these words.

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Your mind that seeks to defend itself and find the culprits,

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yes,

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and that's OK.

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However,

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don't stop there

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because by focusing on these so-called emotions you will be

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at a dead end in the next stages of resolution.

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Because

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you are positioning yourself as a helpless victim,

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if you say you feel cheated,

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the solution is for the other person to change,

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to stop.

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If you say that you feel humiliated,

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the solution is for the other person to change,

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to stop.

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Same fight if you say you feel neglected or betrayed or accused.

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I am not saying that changing the other person is not desirable.

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However,

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I invite you to go and find the real emotions you are experiencing and express them,

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emotions for which you take full responsibility.

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No one is inside your body to generate your tears or a rush of adrenaline or cortisol.

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Your emotions belong to you.

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You are 100% responsible for them.

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Naming real emotions rather than feelings entangled

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with judgment will one,

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help find the real need.

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2,

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be understandable by the person with whom the relationship is a source of tension.

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You will be able to do nonviolent communication.

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And 3,

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facilitate the search for solutions.

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Third point of the video

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being stressed without emotions,

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is it possible

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if you think you are stressed without experience any emotion,

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it is simply that you no longer have access

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to the emotional feeling that is very present.

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Being aware of what you are going through inside

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will be a huge step towards managing your stress.

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If you are perplexed by the word emotion.

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If you no longer hear any emotional signals,

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it is only because experiences,

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education,

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or culture have censored them.

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This can be called emotional repression.

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No right to be afraid or to get angry or to be sad.

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Successful emotional repression

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makes people impervious to emotions,

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their own and those of others.

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Sometimes the emotions will end up resurfacing excessively

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because their intensity can no longer be controlled.

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You will have in front of you a person who is never angry,

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who represses their anger,

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and who will suddenly express their rage.

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You will have a being who is never sad,

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who represses its sadness,

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and who will fall into depression.

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You will have a being that is never afraid,

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who suppresses its fear,

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and who will become paranoid.

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If you say that you are perfectly in control

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of your emotions because you are a rational being

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who does not let yourself be overwhelmed by emotional passions,

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you are probably just an emotion censor,

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someone who has controlled them so much

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so that they took another mask to make themselves heard.

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Stress will therefore manifest itself in another way

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through unadjusted behavior or through the body.

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The body

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will unleash the stress alarm bells through tension,

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pain,

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back pain,

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headache,

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etc.

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or illness.

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The problem with expressing stress

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only through body pains is that we are tempted

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to heal the body with chemistry or other therapies.

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We cure the ailments,

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or rather we put bandages on the ailments and nothing is solved.

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The source of stress continues to plague us.

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To understand the source of our physical pains,

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it will be necessary to trace the thread of its tensions.

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Naming the emotions will often be an essential step.

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Being able to say,

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I am angry or sad or anxious will bring clarity and allow you

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to continue the path of resolving the source of the stress.

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