Five strategies for dealing with emotions Tutorial

Struggling with your emotions? Discover "Five Strategies for Dealing with Emotions" which empower you to welcome your feelings and cultivate positivity. Learn to navigate emotional highs and lows, and make sound decisions from a place of calm. With expert insights, transform stress into a stepping stone for resilience and growth. Join us on this journey towards emotional agility!

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welcoming emotions,

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cultivating positive emotional states,

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accepting that positive or negative emotions are unique to humans,

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prioritizing decision making

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and action in a positive internal state.

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And finally developing practical means to stop

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negative states and initiate positive states,

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we will describe these five strategies,

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and then I will suggest the three key steps

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to deal with negative internal states strategy 1,

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welcoming emotions.

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Although we may not be able to choose when our emotions flare up,

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we can welcome them,

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understand them,

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and have control over their duration.

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The ability to quickly return to normal after an outburst

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is a sign of emotional maturity or emotional intelligence.

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We will always have moments of anger or sadness,

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anxiety,

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in short,

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moments of stress.

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Behind these emotions are needs.

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It is difficult to generalize,

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but I can say

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that behind fear often lies a need for security,

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trust,

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a need to develop confidence in oneself and one's environment.

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Behind sadness there often lies a need to say goodbye to something you loved,

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a need to mourn.

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But also the need for a positive connection with

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others as well as motivating and dynamic activities.

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Behind anger is often a need to restore justice,

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to be heard in one's yes and no,

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to be respected and to set limits.

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What can change your life are your reactions after a negative emotion has shown up.

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What do you do with your anxiety,

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your anger,

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or your sadness?

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Do you put them in an opaque bag called stress?

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A bag which will fill up with every difficult event and every

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rehashed thought while waiting for time and the holidays to empty it?

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Or do you decide to take the signal and act on your surroundings if possible,

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and on yourself?

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If when you return from

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The fatigue has not completely subsided,

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and the same stress takes over after a few days.

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Then there is something to change in your life.

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Strategy two

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cultivate positive emotional states.

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Give priority to the joy of living in all circumstances.

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You can cultivate inner positive states even in difficult times.

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Some overwhelming testimonies from people in concentration camps bear

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witness to this incredible capacity for humans to develop joy

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even in extremely oppressive and stressful situations.

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When we cultivate positive internal states,

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we are able to.

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Different solutions to show creativity,

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innovation,

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motivation and success.

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In short,

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we are much more capable of solving a so-called stressful problem

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when we approach it in a positive and constructive state of mind

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than when we are under stress in negative internal states.

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Strategy 3,

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accepting that positive or negative emotions are unique to humans.

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Being in high or low emotional state is part of human nature,

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part of the cycles of life.

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So welcoming emotions before they swell and explode like a volcano is essential.

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Regarding my irritation,

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for example,

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it is important to express it,

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ideally,

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in a good way,

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of course,

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we'll see that later.

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Likewise,

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for the fear in which I can be,

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it is important to express it

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and the sadness as well.

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Welcoming and letting emotions express themselves whatever they

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are is part of the human balance.

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Pascal Bruckner,

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essayist,

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says in his book

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Perpetual euphoria on the duty to be happy.

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We are the first society in history to make people unhappy.

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For not being happy,

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so I repeat,

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being in a high or low emotional state is part of human nature of the cycle of life.

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Let's not feel guilty about it.

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Let's not be depressed for not always being in a good mood

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with a smile on our face and a positive thinking mindset.

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We have the right to be in a bad mood.

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It's natural and even healthy.

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But

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if negative emotions last and set in,

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then yes,

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it's necessary to act.

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Strategy 4

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rather make decisions when you are in a positive emotional state.

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Many decisions are taken in a negative internal state under stress.

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We are in too much of a hurry,

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tense,

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nervous.

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We haven't taken time to think carefully,

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to go around the options and listen to each other,

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and immersed in this stress,

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we speak or act,

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which leads to more problems than successes before

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sending your inflammatory email to your colleague,

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find a positive internal state.

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Don't act or take any decision with panic.

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Negative emotion blurs our understanding.

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Write your email if you need to let off steam.

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Then wait until you are calm.

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Reread your email,

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modify it,

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and eventually send it or don't.

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Strategy 5

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developing practical means to initiate our positive

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states and stop our negative states.

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It's about creating new habits by

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identifying what stimulates so-called pleasant internal states

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so that we can get our brains used to

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connecting more and more often to positive states.

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Sometimes a good night's sleep will bring you back to a positive state of mind,

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sometimes a bit of sport.

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A positive memory that you connect with.

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A phone call to a friend.

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It's up to you to find your own levers.

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Be careful,

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however,

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not to seek to be in a permanent state of grace.

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Happiness is not a matter of intensity,

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but of refinement.

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Refinement is discovering the simple joy of seeing a

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child eating a good meal or smelling a rose.

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To conclude,

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I will say that we will always have moments of shadow and light of yin and yang.

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When I am in a negative internal state.

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How do I move forward?

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Step one,

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welcoming.

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I have the right to be in a negative internal state.

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That's human.

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Put a word on your feeling.

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Is it discouragement,

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shame,

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disappointment?

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This internal state is a signal,

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a message to be accepted

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so that it is heard

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and brings a positive change in my life.

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It is essential

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to love myself unconditionally in this very negative state

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and to take care of myself,

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to appease myself.

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Step 2,

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clarify by 3 questions.

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Question 1.

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What is the trigger for my negative internal state?

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Find the precise facts,

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the stress triggers.

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Question two.

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Why does it make me angry,

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anxious,

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or sad?

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This question helps to take a step back

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and to demerge from the emotion.

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It is wrong to say I am angry.

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I am sad.

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I am anxious.

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Our I,

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our identity,

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is not reduced to an emotional state to a feeling.

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What is true is I feel anger.

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I feel sad.

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I feel anxiety.

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And I am bigger than what I feel.

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That's why I can welcome these feelings and decide consciously how to act.

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Question 3.

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What are my unmet needs that cause this stress?

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What do I want?

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The 3rd stage in the face of a negative internal state

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establishing a strategy and acting.

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Can I satisfy my need?

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The solution may be to set limits,

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to take a day off,

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take care of myself,

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allow me to cry,

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talk to my boss,

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look for another job.

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So

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we've just explored three steps to deal with negative emotions,

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welcoming,

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clarifying,

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and acting.

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