Fostering and cultivating a good self-image Tutorial

Are you ready to transform your self-image? Dive into "Fostering and Cultivating a Good Self-Image," where we explore the gravity of self-perception and discover how to shed negativity. Learn practical tips to appreciate your uniqueness and stop the constant comparison. It's time to build your confidence and fly high with self-esteem—watch now!

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It's as if we are walking while looking at our own shadow.

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Sometimes it's huge,

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sometimes it's tiny,

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but it's always distorted.

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We look at our shadow and believe it's who we are,

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when it is but an altered perception of ourselves.

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In this video,

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we will tackle the gravity effect of our self-image,

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how to look at ourselves differently.

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And how we can preserve

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our fragile self image.

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What is the gravity effect of self-image?

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The image we have of ourselves has a gravity,

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a weight,

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a density in our life.

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The more negative our self image is,

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the longer we move while carrying a weight on our shoulders.

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There is a gravitational force that keeps us grounded,

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then makes everything heavy,

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slow,

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complicated.

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It's as if we are moving against the flow.

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On one hand we try to move forward.

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And on the other there's this negative self-image

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that pushes us against the flow,

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pulling at our ankles like rubber bands.

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That negative self-image that forces us to impart an enormous amount of energy

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to every expression,

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to every action.

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The more positive we feel about ourselves,

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the lighter we feel.

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It's as if we had wings.

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It's a bit as if a positive self-esteem

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was a warm breeze that pushes us forward.

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A magic carpet that carries us,

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an anti-gravitational force that makes each step we take lighter and simpler.

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We then move forward,

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taking giant steps while spending the smallest amount of energy.

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All we have to do is follow the impulse within.

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How to develop a new way of looking at yourself.

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Improving your self image is not about offering yourself a makeover,

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although that could be fun

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and have positive effects.

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Improving your self-image is not about being perfect,

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being polished,

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or changing yourself in the hope of getting in

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return of your hard work a positive self-image.

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Improving your self image has nothing to do with improving yourself.

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It is by changing the way we look at ourselves that we improve our image.

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All we have to do is change perceptions,

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lenses.

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No need to become more good looking,

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thinner,

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smarter,

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richer.

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On a scale from 0 to 10,

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what grade do you give yourself?

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Evaluate the worth you give yourself.

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You should be a 10 out of 10

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because our worth is inherent.

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We are wonderful.

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Besides,

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even if we weren't,

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you know that just believing it will give you wings and ease your success.

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Think of it like a gamble.

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Either I choose to have self-esteem,

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then my tank is filled with energy and ready to serve me.

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I am confident out in the world,

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which will result in attracting successes and nurturing my self-esteem.

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Or I choose to have very little self-esteem.

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My tank is half empty with very little energy in stock.

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Then I act with a little bit of energy

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I have which results in very underwhelming achievements.

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Self-esteem is an accelerator of success.

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With low self-esteem,

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you can succeed,

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but at what cost?

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You'll be one of those people who say

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to succeed you need to make a lot of effort.

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You have to work hard.

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Well,

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of course,

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when we have low self-esteem,

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when we feel small,

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it's necessary to compensate with lots of work,

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even if it can be much simpler when we think highly of ourselves.

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Then we can succeed

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with more simplicity and more joy.

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Energy serves us according to the worth we give ourselves.

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If we see ourselves as small,

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it will only serve us on a small scale.

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If we recognize our greatness,

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it will serve us greatly.

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Our self-image is the fruit of our own perception of ourselves.

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We are therefore free

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to make it beautiful or ugly,

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positive or negative.

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It's a choice.

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What are we choosing?

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So

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how to cultivate a good self-image?

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As humans we often let this positive image fade day after day.

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It is up to us to preserve it like a treasure

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by not leaving it at the mercy of bitter criticisms

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from others or of criticisms from our own harsh mind.

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So

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here are a few tips to preserve and cultivate a good self-image.

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First tip.

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Do not need to get approval or to please or

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to simply be loved by anyone else other than yourself.

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This is such a complex theme that we will tackle it in another video.

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The second tip,

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do not compare yourself to others.

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Each individual is unique.

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Others can be a source of inspiration if they

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are doing and saying things that inspire you.

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If these acts or words inspire you,

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it's because those acts and words resonate with you.

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They're within you.

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By watching others act or speak,

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you feel it echoing.

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Something similar is calling from within you,

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not exactly the same thing,

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but something similar.

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You are inspired by cellist music.

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What does this inspiration tell you?

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Did the other person awaken a calling for music within you?

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Does this prompt you to play cello or piano,

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to listen to more music,

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or to go to a concert?

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Marveling at something or simply being moved by what someone else does or

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says has no reason to bring you into the realm of comparison.

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It is the sense of beauty that opens up,

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not the sense of competition.

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When you admire something in others,

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you have two options.

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You either start comparing and risk depreciating yourself very

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quickly if you don't have the same talent.

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Jealousy then makes its way.

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Mark is such a good public speaker,

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and me,

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I get stuck every time I have to talk to an audience.

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Julie is so creative,

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and I'm not.

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Avoid comparison,

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or

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you can start contemplating and marveling at other people's talents

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like you admire a beautiful painting in a museum

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without feeling miserable in front of the masterpiece or the artist,

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being happy about the great beautiful things.

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That others do is the best way to cultivate beauty and greatness within us.

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Being happy about good things happening to others

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is preparing ourselves to receive other good things.

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In short,

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if comparison brings up desire and inspiration,

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cultivate it,

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it will be fruitful.

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If comparison,

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however,

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brings jealousy,

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superiority or depreciation,

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avoid it.

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Because it will shake your self-esteem.

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The third tip is to sort through your values.

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We tend to rate ourselves according to our values.

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If I have a strong generosity value,

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I will have a positive self-image every time I show generosity.

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If I have a strong physical attractiveness value.

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I'll have a negative self-image until I get that supermodel figure.

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If I have a strong academic success value,

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I will always be ashamed of having graduated a year too late.

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Define the values that you really want to be important.

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What's really important.

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Imagine that you're 90 years old looking back at your life.

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What will seem most beautiful,

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most important to you,

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having had a slim figure or graduated at the first attempt,

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define your values,

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those that positively serve you,

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and then refocus on them.

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It will free you from a lot of pressure imposed by mass consciousness.

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After you define your values,

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sort through them again.

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Green them through the filter of self-love.

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Some of our values can become prisons,

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especially moral values.

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I have to put my kids first.

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I have to be generous.

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I shouldn't get angry.

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I shouldn't say no to my boss.

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The main question is then,

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what are your moral values and what are your passion values.

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Moral values can be like

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always respecting my commitments,

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but until when?

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Follow the rules

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until when.

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Be generous until when

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we have moral values that can sometimes act

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at our expense that serve others and not ourselves

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with such strong values that become principles,

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we shouldn't be surprised to feel bad every time we didn't follow them.

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I didn't finish my work on time.

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I'm unworthy of trust.

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Oh no,

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I decided to get a massage instead of attending my child's dance recital.

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How shameful.

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God,

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I declined this 6 p.m. meeting to leave early for a weekend.

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How could I?

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These values

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don't bring value.

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They are principles and obligations.

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And every time that you don't fulfill them,

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bam,

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you bring yourself down,

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bam,

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you cut through your self image.

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Sort your values to get rid of the ones that shred your self image into pieces

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instead of having moral values that feed your

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guilt every time you don't follow them.

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I urge you to feed your passion values,

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traveling,

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making music,

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creating,

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starting a business,

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learning,

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searching,

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gardening,

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walking,

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playing,

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innovating.

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What fills you up?

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What gives you wings?

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Want to have a good self-image?

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Change the question.

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Instead of wondering what to do to have good self-image,

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ask yourself this question.

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What would you do for yourself if you had good self-image?

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What would you do for yourself and in your life

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if you believed that you were the most wonderful person,

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the most worthy of love,

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and then do it.

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