Motivating through signs of recognition Tutorial

Unlock the secret to motivation with 'Motivating Through Signs of Recognition.' Discover five transformative signs of recognition—words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, acts of service, and nonverbal cues—championed by Gary Chapman. Learn how these powerful signals can enhance workplace dynamics and foster a motivated team. Don't miss the chance to elevate your communication and relationships!

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that generate motivation,

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words of affirmation,

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receiving gifts,

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quality time,

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acts of service,

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and the nonverbal.

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These five attitudes are introduced by Gary Chapman in his book,

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The Five Love Languages.

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What does the human being need first and foremost?

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Signs that show them that they are loved,

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appreciated and considered.

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It is in this healthy environment that they will be motivated to give their best.

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Here are the five attitudes adapted to the company

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one,

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words of affirmation

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to be able to give appreciation,

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to say hello,

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thank you,

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good job,

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to be able to thank and congratulate for what has been well done,

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personally valuing the colleague in front of the senior management.

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Valuing the work of the team in front of peers

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and superiors or in an article in the internal newsletter,

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a study shows that more than 1/3 of employees feel

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that it is the manager's duty to value their work.

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The culture of positive feedback is more present in the Anglo-Saxon culture

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than in many other industrialized cultures such as in France,

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Germany,

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or Japan.

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Where they instinctively tend to emphasize the negative

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rather than congratulating and valuing

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2 receiving gifts

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in our personal life,

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we know how to give attention with small and big gifts,

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a bouquet of flowers,

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a bottle of wine,

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a small candle.

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Some people are extremely receptive to these small presents

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in a company,

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what are the gifts that you can offer?

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A bonus or a salary increase,

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certainly.

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A non-financial benefit such as an arrangement of working hours,

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flexibility,

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teleworking for those for whom a balanced life is essential.

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Training for some,

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a new challenging file for others,

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a cross disciplinary mission that gives visibility,

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the opportunity to represent you in a meeting.

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An intern helping for 4 months to prepare your team member to become a manager.

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To relieve the team member of an unpleasant file,

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giving them the opportunity to present their work to the boss,

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to bring pastries one morning,

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to contribute to a small gift when someone gives birth,

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to set up a rotation system

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where employees take turns bringing a cake every Monday.

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That's what a team of engineers successfully

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implemented during one of my coaching sessions.

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quality time.

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Quality times are privileged moments when you get together either face to

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face with someone or in a team to share quality time.

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The individual meeting is one of them.

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For some of your team members,

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having a meeting with you every week would be a lever of motivation.

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For others,

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it will be coming with you to a client meeting.

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Moments by the coffee machine are a privileged moment.

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It's an opportunity to take a friendly break,

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to share about daily life over a coffee,

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to exchange information.

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While some employees will consider it a waste of time,

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for others it is part of the friendliness that feeds motivation.

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To promote team cohesion and the pleasure of being together,

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you can organize green team building,

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celebrate events like holidays,

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the arrival of a new employee,

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the team Christmas lunch,

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birthdays,

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quality time.

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Moments that will remain in the collective memory of the team

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and will nourish the pleasure of working together.

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Team meetings are also privileged moments.

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If you know how to make them quality moments,

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those meetings will maintain motivation.

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acts of service.

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A good team shows solidarity,

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generosity,

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and mutual help.

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It's something you will need to develop and maintain.

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Doing a favor can be helping someone on a file

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showing support in an emergency or in case of overload,

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taking minutes of a meeting if someone could not be present.

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Opening up your address book and network,

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moving your vacation to facilitate planning,

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taking calls or following up with files when someone is absent.

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By being supportive yourself,

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you will encourage mutual help among colleagues.

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A person for whom acts of service are an essential sign will say things like

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John was there for me when I needed him.

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Great support.

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the nonverbal.

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The book,

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the five love languages tackles physical touch.

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I extend this concept in business to the notion of nonverbal.

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A genuine handshake,

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eye contact,

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and a smile are sometimes worth more than words.

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In some companies,

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we say hello by shaking hands,

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hugging or kissing each other in the morning.

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Do you shake hands mechanically we are looking away and thinking about your files?

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Other nonverbal signs,

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a hand on the shoulder as a sign of comfort,

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a collective applause as a sign of congratulations,

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a smile and a look.

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Then you show the other person they exist and that they are important.

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They feel recognized.

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We don't just have a single motivational lever among the five proposed.

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More often 2 or 3 main ones.

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What are your preferred languages of love?

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Words of affirmation,

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receiving gifts,

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quality time,

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acts of service,

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nonverbal signs.

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Certainly you are more likely to give what touches you the most.

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So be clear as well about the signs of recognition that touch you the least.

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The ones that touch you the least

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are often the ones we forget to give.

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Your congratulations do not affect John.

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Maybe he's waiting for something else more autonomy,

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maybe accompanying you to the next appointment with a client.

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Ask him.

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You thought you were helping Cindy by relieving her of

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a file when she was complaining of being overloaded.

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Are you sure that's what motivated her?

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Maybe she needs to work from home or to be listened to more.

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What is the sign of recognition she is expecting?

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