Naomi's Limits Tutorial

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Naomi repeated to her coach.

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When I say yes,

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it's because I really want to.

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Indeed,

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Naomi sometimes knew how to say no with conviction.

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Her inability to refuse certain requests and to establish boundaries

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did not stem from an excessive need to be liked,

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a fear of hurting others,

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or a lack of assertiveness.

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In reality,

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her difficulties in setting boundaries mainly came from a lack of communication,

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insufficient organization,

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and an undefined personal space.

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Firstly,

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Naomi tended to accept requests without clarifying the details.

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She agreed quickly without asking preliminary questions.

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When she acquiesced,

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she didn't always fully understand what was being asked of her,

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whether she had the necessary skills or how much time it would take.

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It was crucial for her to learn to ask

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for clarifications about her superiors or colleagues' expectations.

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This would not only help her better understand the request,

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but also assess if she was capable of fulfilling it.

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And if it was part of her responsibilities.

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Next,

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Naomi had not defined her own priorities.

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She often found herself managing others' priorities,

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putting aside her own tasks without mentioning her time constraints.

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Driven by idealism,

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she equated team spirits and commitment with

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being constantly available for others' projects.

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She thought she was acting out of commitment and solidarity

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when in reality she was spreading herself thin

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and losing sight of her personal goals.

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Finally,

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Naomi struggled to maintain her individuality and define her personal space.

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When interacting with others,

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she showed such intense empathy that she forgot her own needs and physical limits.

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Instead of preserving two distinct spaces during communication,

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hers and the others,

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she completely merged with the interlocutor.

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It was not uncommon to hear her say,

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Your problem is my problem.

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When Naomi became aware of these three barriers,

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she quickly experienced a real transformation.

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She learned to set healthy boundaries and say no at the right time.

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