Self-fulfilling prophecy Tutorial

Dive into the transformative concept of the self-fulfilling prophecy in this enlightening video! Discover how your beliefs shape your actions and ultimately create your reality. With real-life examples like the Pygmalion effect, learn to replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones. Join us in reimagining your potential and embracing change in your journey toward success!

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a self-fulfilling prophecy is an assertion that changes behavior

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in such a way that the assertion comes true.

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What was only a possibility among others becomes reality.

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This is how the placebo effect makes it possible to heal

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a person as long as they believe in their healing.

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Even if the person has swallowed only sugar tablets,

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they will heal because they believed they were ingesting

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medication that would allow them to be healed.

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Let's talk about self-fulfilling prophecy and conviction.

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Imagine

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the possible impact of self-fulfilling prophecy in

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all those areas where we lack confidence.

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Self-fulfilling prophecy

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in the area of self-confidence is a bit like replacing one belief with another.

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Replace I don't have confidence in my ability to succeed

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by I can succeed or even I will succeed.

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And here we go,

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as the definition of self-fulfilling prophecy states,

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what was only one possibility among many others becomes reality,

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and we begin to succeed.

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Didn't Mark Twain say

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they didn't know it was impossible,

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so they did it.

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In other words,

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I believe it's possible that I can do it,

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and I consciously and unconsciously change my behavior

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so that it becomes reality.

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The challenge

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is that the conviction has to be there.

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A simple statement is not enough.

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The patient who has had a placebo drug does not repeat,

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I will heal.

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I will heal.

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To convince themselves of this,

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they are convinced.

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Saint Thomas said,

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I want to see it to believe it.

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I see,

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and therefore logical consequence,

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I believe,

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such as

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I see the signals of my healing and therefore I believe in my healing.

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Our placebo patient reversed Saint Thomas's belief.

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This is the self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I believe.

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Therefore,

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I see.

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I believe that I will succeed

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and therefore I see my success unfolding beneath my feet.

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My belief in myself creates reality.

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I am the creator of my reality through my beliefs and my behaviors.

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So

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if I don't like my reality,

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all I have to do is imagine it and create it differently with conviction,

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and then reality will align,

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magical or stupid thinking.

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But then why do so many patients recover with placebo drugs?

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Because they are convinced to the point that

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their biochemistry of their body is altered.

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Can we be so convinced

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that we will succeed

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to the point that our biochemistry changes,

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that the hormones of confidence replace those of stress?

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Let's talk now about self-fulfilling prophecy in the field.

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The psychosociologist William Thomas

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stated his self-realization theorem as follows.

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If men consider situations as real,

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then they become real in their consequences.

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Many principles are based on this theorem.

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To cut a long story short,

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MacGregor's X and Y theory states,

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among other things,

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that the way we look at our employees will generate a loop of behaviors

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that will confirm our initial belief.

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If you say they don't like to work,

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you will develop control over your employees so much

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that they will end up disliking their work.

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And your they don't like to work belief will

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be confirmed by real signals of slowness or absenteeism

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if you say they like to work.

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You will create a trust loop

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and you will get real signals of their motivation at work

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in the same way,

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if we consider our leader to be legitimate and credible,

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we will recognize their authority,

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we will be loyal to them,

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give our best,

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and thereby strengthen their leadership.

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But if we believe they are illegitimate and lack credibility,

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we will identify all evidence of their incompetence,

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challenge them,

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deny their authority,

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and strengthen their lack of credibility.

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Robert Rosenthal and Leonor Jacobson

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tested the consequences of self-fulfilling prophecy in the

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field of education as early as the 1960s.

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They organized a false IQ test with students in a school

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and then randomly placed 20% of the students in a so-called elite group.

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Convincing teachers that these children had superior abilities to the others

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at the end of the year

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they discovered that this group,

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which was neither more nor less gifted than the others outperformed.

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They called this the Pygmalion effect.

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Of course,

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the success of the students in the so-called elite group did not happen by magic.

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First of all,

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the teacher's opinion of them changed.

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They had higher expectations.

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These expectations were accompanied by special attention

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from the teachers to these students,

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different homework,

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feedback and encouragement,

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more emotional support.

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And this different treatment changed the behavior of the students

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who gained confidence and motivation and paved the way for their success.

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It is therefore the initial belief that these children have potential

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that will through a series of behavior and cause and effect,

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lead to their success.

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How can we make the most of the concept of self-fulfilling prophecy?

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This concept tells us that our beliefs can

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be self-fulfilling when we really believe in them.

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Here are some key questions that will help you make positive changes in your life.

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Question one.

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What are the negative prophecies that I am self-fulfilling?

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Beliefs tend to be self checking.

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Once a belief is in place,

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the brain strives to verify it by conscious and unconscious means.

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If you have and I don't trust myself type belief,

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you will collect proof of it.

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Or I'm never lucky,

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or the company doesn't reward those who really work anyway.

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All of this is more likely to be true if you believe it and if you repeat it.

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Are you sure this is what you want?

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I'm not telling you to lie to yourself,

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but at least not to consciously repeat beliefs like I

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don't have the talent to become a manager every day.

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Question two.

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What beliefs would you like to nurture

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to grow until the self-fulfilling prophecy makes them happen?

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Here again I do not advise you to lie to yourself with

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positive affirmations filling your head with I'm going to be the best.

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Take a belief that you believe a little or occasionally and nurture it.

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It may not be I'm going to succeed in my new business,

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but

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I have the resources within me to set up a new business.

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See the belief that is good for you

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and that you can adhere to and nourish it and water it.

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And then

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maybe the next belief to water will be

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I have the ability to succeed in my new business.

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I like beliefs such as I have the resources within me too,

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or I have the ability to.

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Normally the mind doesn't destroy them in a second.

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It lets us develop them until our belief is strengthened.

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Question 3.

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How can I get as close as possible to people who are the prophets of my success,

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because sometimes we are more easily convinced by others than by ourselves.

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When we listen to people that devalue us,

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it's a pity,

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but when we listen to people who give us confidence in ourselves,

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it's perfect.

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What are the toxic personalities to avoid

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the prophets of doom,

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who will make you doubt yourself and back away from your projects and dreams.

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There are people,

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even loving relatives,

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to whom you should absolutely not tell that you want to set up a business.

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They will clip your wings with their fears and their advice.

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Who predicts your success?

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Who believes in you,

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even when you don't believe in yourself?

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Maybe it's your former boss.

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Go and have lunch with them.

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Maybe it's your grandmother.

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Even if she doesn't know anything about your business,

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call her to put you under the spotlight of her self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I don't understand what you're doing,

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my dear,

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but I believe in you.

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Whatever you do,

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I'm sure you'll make it.

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Surround yourself with the right people,

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those who make you feel good,

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strong,

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big.

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My question 4 questions everything that exists.

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Since a child who succeeds in school is not necessarily a more gifted child,

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could one go so far as to say that all unsuccessful children are those

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who Did not believe in themselves or in whom we did not believe.

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Are women not at the top of the

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hierarchy because the collective unconscious conveys beliefs such as

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women don't have the character to be at the top of the pyramid,

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which came first,

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the chicken or the egg?

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Does thought precede experience,

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or follow it?

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What if everything that exists is

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only the consequence of self-fulfilling prophecy?

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For example,

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we experience concretely that we are not creative.

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Is it because we cultivated the thought that we were not creative?

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Taking advantage of this existential doubt,

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I invite you to play with reality.

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Dare to recreate it according to other beliefs.

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I am not only what I think I am.

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I am much more than what I see of myself.

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Even the tangible evidence I have of being bad at public

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speaking or no good at web development doesn't mean anything.

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These are only the manifestations in reality of what I thought

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more or less unconsciously to be.

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Could we go as far as to state that

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a fact is not a proof,

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a truth?

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A fact is the manifestation of a belief.

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Play with this doubt by questioning any

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negative certainties you have about yourself,

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and you will diffuse the traps of lack of self-confidence.

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Shake off your beliefs and those of the mass consciousness that do not serve you.

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I have a good example to give you.

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Becoming a manager means working more,

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much more than 40 hours a week.

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You'll tell me that you can do surveys in many companies and we'll see that it's true.

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That the vast majority of managers work well

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beyond the imposed hours and you'll be right,

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it's been proven.

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But isn't this state of affairs the consequence of this self-fulfilling prophecy

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well anchored in collective mentalities

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that to become a manager is to work more,

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much more than 40 hours a week.

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I know some excellent managers who have managed not to be taken in by this prophecy,

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no matter how many surveys prove it to be true.

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They have created another reality for themselves

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based on other assertions.

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I can be an excellent manager by working just 40 hours a week or even less.

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