The basis of self-esteem Tutorial

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They gauge and judge themselves all the time.
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They like to define themselves to try to answer the question,
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Who am I?
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I am Sergey.
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I am 50 years old and I am a successful and generous man.
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I am.
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What I think and say about myself will set the basis of my self-esteem.
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In this video,
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we'll tackle
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how we define ourselves through mirrors,
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how we value ourselves.
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Then I will give you three tips on how to improve your self-esteem mechanisms.
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In order to define themselves,
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to know who they are,
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humans need mirrors,
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either themselves or other people.
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Humans are above all their own mirrors.
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They project
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an aspect of themselves that observes itself at all times.
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This aspect is sometimes indulgent.
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Oh,
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I'm a really good person.
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I'm good looking,
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intelligent,
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nice,
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creative.
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Sometimes,
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however,
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our internal mirror can be very accusatory.
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It's like some kind of internal police here to tarnish our image.
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Oh,
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I'm terrible,
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not smart enough,
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not as good looking as my neighbor.
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Overall,
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our mind is our judge.
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It rates us according to its own mood and standards,
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very subjective,
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except that we actually believe it.
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Believe in it when it tells us that we're talented
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has a positive effect on our emotions and self-confidence.
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Believe in it when it downgrades us hurts us,
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which contributes to failure.
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Humans sometimes grant to others the power to be their mirrors.
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They let others define who they are,
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define their worth.
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During childhood,
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the very first mirrors of our worth are relatives,
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parents,
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siblings,
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and teachers.
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When my parents say that they love me,
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when they take me in their arms,
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when they support me and tell me that I'm set for success,
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it feels a positive image of myself.
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When my teacher gives me a bad grade in class or punishes me,
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I'm going to start believing that I'm not that great.
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The child would absorb words,
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gestures,
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and perspectives,
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and then build a more or less positive image of themselves.
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But
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who decides my worth?
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Which mirror do I believe in?
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Myself?
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Others?
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Who decides if I am mediocre,
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OK,
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or great?
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Others myself.
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But which self?
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My heart,
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my mind,
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my soul,
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this is the main question.
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Who gives the grades?
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Who do I allow to rate me?
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No,
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this is not the real question.
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The real question is why do I even allow anyone to rate me?
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Be it myself or somebody else.
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Self-esteem is the value I give to myself.
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If I believe that I have value,
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then I will dare to speak and act in the world
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without being scared of failing.
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I will have self-confidence.
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We saw that essentially no one has the right to rate us,
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neither others nor our very limited self,
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which yearns for perfection and can sometimes be a harsher judge than our peers.
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So another alternative,
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can we measure our worth according to our achievements,
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according to our successful actions,
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or according to our IQ or lineage?
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No,
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in my opinion,
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our worth is inherent.
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No quality,
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no birthplace,
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no action is necessary to grant us infinite worth.
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The mere fact of being a human
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is enough to establish our worth.
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I am who I am.
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That is enough.
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No need to achieve anything,
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say anything,
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to feel worthy.
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We are infinitely precious since our very first moment,
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just like any newborn
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who is loved and respected without having to prove anything.
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Nobody says to the baby,
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Listen,
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I don't know what you're going to do with your life yet,
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so I'll wait and see before I tell you if you have any value.
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But sadly,
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the layers and layers of judgments of value that the child will receive
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for years will often get the better of the huge and unconditional worth
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initially granted to them at birth.
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Yet what a wonder a newborn is.
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It is almost as if we are born with a worth gauge filled up to 100%.
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Since I was born with a 100% worth gauge,
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why did it start dropping?
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Why is it that every time it drops,
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I need to find words,
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actions,
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and people
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to restore my self-esteem gauge again?
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Because I want to prevent it at all costs from running out.
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A value at zero,
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it's depression.
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Most of us are subject to the variability of our self-esteem,
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and that is how our self-worth increases and drops each day,
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each hour.
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Every time we get a compliment or congratulate ourselves,
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the cursor of our gauge goes up.
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I'm really honest.
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I'm well educated.
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I'm very funny.
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And every time we are negatively judged by ourselves or others,
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the cursor drops.
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You're so slow you'll never get in there.
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You're so annoying.
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How exhausting is this self-esteem back and forth.
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Depending on our sensitivity and how drawn
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we are to hearing compliments or devaluations,
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our self-esteem gauge will be either high or low.
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Some tend to have a very poor self-image.
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Others are between low and OK,
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others between OK to rather good,
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and others regard themselves as great,
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valuable.
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Let's put our consciousness at the service of self-esteem.
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If you still believe that self-esteem will always
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be something that you need to supply,
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then I will at least give you a few tips so you can supply it in all awareness.
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Tip one,
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filter what you receive.
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Welcome what feeds your self-esteem and reject virtually all devaluations.
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Your friend told you that you were creative internally,
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consciously.
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Tell yourself,
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OK,
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I'll take that.
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Your boss tells you that you lack perseverance.
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Internally,
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consciously tell yourself,
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no,
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I reject that,
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return to source.
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It is not about knowing if your boss was right or wrong.
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It is about knowing if this feeds my self-esteem.
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No,
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then I do not take it.
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Return to source.
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Besides,
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how do you want to be more perseverant if you internally regard the statement?
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You lack perseverance as true.
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Every time you add criticism to your self-esteem gauge,
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you trap yourself,
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filter what others tell you as soon as the criticism comes.
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No criticism should influence your self-worth gauge,
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no touching,
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protected zone.
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Criticism belongs to a different world.
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It can later be analyzed and made fruitful,
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but it has no business entering your self-esteem temple.
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Tip number 2.
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When you're looking to analyze other people's criticism,
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if it's worth it,
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be well aware of the fact that other people's criticism says more about them
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than about you.
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You really lack perseverance means
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I'd like you to show more perseverance in this specific situation.
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A criticism is a request in disguise.
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It has nothing to do with your worth.
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Tip number 3.
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Do not give anyone the keys to your self-esteem temple.
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You alone hold the keys to your self-esteem temple.
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If you let others in.
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Giving and taking back bonus points,
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you give them the power to define your worth.
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It's hell.
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You are trapped,
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dependent.
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No one,
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not even your parents or your best friend or your partner,
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has the right to decide your worth.
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Do you allow it?
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Why?
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Until when?
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When we were children,
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we didn't have enough perspective to understand this.
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Little by little we let others tell us if we were worthy or not.
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We allowed them to rate us,
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to tell us we're nice or mean or smart or fit or,
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but now
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what do we decide?
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Do not give up the commands of your gauge to others.
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It's not up to them to tell you what your worth is.
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It's up to you and to you alone to do that.
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Can you make the choice of giving yourself worth,
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full worth?
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Regardless of what others think,
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regardless of what your mind thinks,
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regardless of what you've lived or achieved since you were born,
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consciously choose to tell yourself,
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I am a person of infinite worth,
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period.

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