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thinks it is the best decision maker,
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the one who will make the best decisions.
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It believes that it is rational and has more distance than our
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intuition or instinct to tell us what we should and shouldn't do.
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Do you know that victims of manipulation have an above average IQ?
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They are more stuck in their mind.
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They ask a lot of questions.
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They question themselves a lot,
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and overwhelmed by conflicting information,
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overwhelmed by contradictory and divergent points of view,
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they end up bending to the opinions of those who have no doubts,
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those who proclaim their convictions louder or more skilfully.
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How do you go from the mind to common sense?
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To be more intelligent,
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to be more mental,
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is to risk losing oneself in analysis
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instead of trusting one's intuition,
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one's internal common sense.
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Our mind has a primordial function to keep us in a comfortable life,
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So it amplifies all the risks.
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It protects us by amplifying the risks of getting out of our habits.
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It sends us self-doubt.
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The more we are cerebral,
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the more analytical we are,
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the more we will pay attention to the discourses of the mind.
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Most very cerebral people end up in a very cerebral profession
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with a lot of thinking and little action.
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How can we develop self-confidence and confidence in life
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when the vast majority of our activity takes place only in the brain?
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When we are constantly confronted
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with the abstraction of ideas and tuned with
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a virtual world that only addresses the mind,
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when we are stuck in our mind,
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far from reality,
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far from having our feet on the ground,
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our hands in the ground,
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we can obviously trust our intelligence,
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our general culture,
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but it doesn't guarantee us to make good decisions.
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We are more than a brain.
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I know people with high IQ who took bad
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decisions and who lack real confidence in themselves,
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confidence in life,
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anchored in the body,
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anchored in practical life.
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The more we think,
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the more room we give to the mind and the more
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it will self-censor us on every desire to take risks.
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Too much analysis paralyzes action.
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The mind will lose us in multiple options,
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and we will not know how to choose,
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or it will tell us,
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this is not the right time.
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You don't have the skills.
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You'd better shut up.
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Self-doubt is one of its favorite cards to paralyze us,
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to stop us in our tracks.
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If you replace your analysis with your inner common sense,
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we even talk about common sense in action.
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You'll take action much more easily.
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Common sense does not dissect decisions.
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and acts on them quickly.
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The mind may be smart,
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but common sense is much more clever,
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much more astute.
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It is more practical.
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The sense of what brings good or bad feelings,
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the sense of what serves us or loses us.
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If you are one of these people who have doubts which make you hesitate,
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or even paralyze,
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use your common sense.
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If you are already too brainy,
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don't ask yourself the question,
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Is this a good decision?
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If the mind has got the better of you,
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don't ask yourself the question,
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how am I going to do it.
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These are questions addressed to the mind.
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You know how it is likely to answer you with ifs and buts.
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question your common sense.
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Do you feel it or not?
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And if the answer is yes,
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Where do we start and go for it.
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Because common sense doesn't make medium and long
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term action plans like the mind would,
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sometimes it's useful but not always.
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Common sense starts the action.
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It takes the bull by the horns,
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and if the road gets congested at the first turn,
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it goes to fetch its shovel from the van.
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Can you feel it or not is the right question for people who are too much in their minds,
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too intelligent,
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who get lost and paralyzed in too much analysis with ifs and buts.
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Close your eyes,
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unplug the mind,
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take a deep breath.
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Go and look for your second brain,
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the one in the belly.
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there is a neural network in the belly in the guts.
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That's why it's called the second brain.
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And ask yourself the question,
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do you feel it or not?
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Do you feel like it or not?
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Mel Robbins is the author of the Five Second Rule.
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She came out of her depression thanks to this 5 2nd rule.
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That's how she got out of bed.
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This is how she pushes herself to all the action.
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That challenge her
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she doesn't need to work on her self-confidence to take action.
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and I call my client
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54321 and I make an appointment with my bank.
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Because we all have that 5 2nd window of fire
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before the mind can intervene and self-censor us.
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The alarm goes off 54321,
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before my mind has had the time to tell me I'm tired,
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and I pick up the phone before my mind has had time to tell me
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that it's not the right time or that the customer is going to hang up on me.
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Short circuit the mind's analysis by taking it by surprise.
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By the time it comes on to say stop,
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we have already taken action,
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according to Mel Robbins,
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our window of freedom from censorship of the mind is 5 seconds,
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No time to hear the mind's excuses,
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no time to let its resignation and complaints paralyze us.
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No time to ask ourselves a lot of questions that delay the action.
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There are decisions you can never be 100% certain of.
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your mind will never give the green light.
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Will you let it block you with too much analysis?
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You will never be ready to start a business,
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but you can say 54321,
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I make an appointment with a legal advisor.
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You'll never be ready for that important conversation,
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I'll bring it up.
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You'll never be sure it's a good idea to apply for this job,
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I invite you to combine this technique
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with listening to
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When you feel an intuition,
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such as going to talk to your managing director
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that you pass in the hallway,
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Because otherwise,
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the weight of habit and the self censorship of your mind
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will take the lead and say to the managing director,
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