Why do we run ? Tutorial

Why do we run? This thought-provoking video explores our relentless pace, uncovering the root desires that drive us to do more. Learn how our quest for status, fear of judgment, and the need for control influence our lives. Discover the power of letting go and how embracing our choices can lead to greater happiness and effectiveness in both personal and professional spheres.

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Everything around us is going faster.

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Every lost moment is transformed into an active moment,

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whether it is real or virtual.

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City dwellers are known to be in a hurry,

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always stressed out chasing time,

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but why do we run?

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That's the question of this video.

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The answer seems obvious.

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We run because we have a lot to do.

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But before as well we had a lot to do,

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but we didn't run as much,

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right?

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So we don't run because we have a lot to do.

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We run

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because we want to do more than before in one day.

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So my real question is

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why do we want to do more?

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And I have 3 answers.

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We want to do more because we want to be more.

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We want to do more because we think we have to,

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we're afraid.

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We want to do more because we don't want to let go of anything.

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Reason one,

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we run because we want to be more.

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Yes,

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there's always a race.

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The more I train,

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the better I'll become.

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The more I get involved in associations,

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the more I'll be recognized.

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The more work I do,

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the richer I'll be.

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The more information I have,

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the more interesting I will be.

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The more I exercise,

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the more muscular and admired I will be.

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We are looking for status,

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identity,

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wealth,

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and we believe that we will get it by doing and working more.

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I ran into executives who needed to show they were

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in a hurry in the hallways to feel important,

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executives who said yes to all the meetings they

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were asked to attend because it gave them value.

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We want to be happier,

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so we go to see therapists and wellness specialists more often

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running from one appointment to the other.

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We want to be good parents,

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so we run from the soccer club to the birthday party.

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We want to be good children,

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good friends,

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so we run to please everyone.

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It's not that we must do more.

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It's often that we want to do more.

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We want to do more and we run because it feeds our ego.

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Careful,

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it's not bad to do more.

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You just have to own it.

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Say

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I run because I choose to do more.

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Why not?

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And then when you start to run,

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instead of complaining,

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you smile.

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You are no longer an overworked woman who has no choice but to run.

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You're the hyperactive woman who loves to run.

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Running is a choice,

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and if it's too much,

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your body or your emotions will let you know,

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and you might choose to do a little less.

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Let's move to my answer too.

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We want to do more because we are afraid.

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In fact,

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the need to run often hides unconscious fears that are good

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to unmask so as not to be manipulated by these fears.

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We are afraid of the consequences if we don't tick all the points off our to do list.

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We put mental pressure on ourselves to do things.

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We want to do more

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because we fear the judgment and the reaction of others,

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family,

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friends,

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boss,

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clients.

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What will happen if I don't do that?

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I have to go and see my parents this weekend.

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I have to stay at work until 7.

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I cannot refuse this assignment from my client

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when my coaches tell me,

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but I have no choice.

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I have to go and see my parents this weekend.

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I have no choice.

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I have to stay until 7 at work.

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I have no choice.

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I have to say yes to my client.

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I answer them.

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Of course you do.

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You have a choice.

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What do you want instead?

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To take your time,

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to ease off,

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to sleep in,

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take two days off,

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see friends go fishing.

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I add,

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if you're not following your real desires,

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then there's definitely some fear involved.

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What are you risking by not going to see your parents this weekend?

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What are you risking by leaving work earlier?

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What are the risks of saying no to the customer?

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Look for the fears,

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then choose to overcome them or not.

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OK,

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I'm afraid of hurting my parents,

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and yet I choose not to go to see them this weekend.

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I am afraid of my boss's reaction if I leave work early,

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and yet I choose to leave today at 6 p.m.

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I'm afraid of losing my client,

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but I'm going to say no to him anyway.

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Are you running all day and it's exhausting you?

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See what you can remove from your to do list.

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If you can't,

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ask yourself,

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what am I afraid of?

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What is the risk that I am avoiding at all costs?

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Often our fears are delusions of our imagination.

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The fear of being fired if we stand up to our boss or if we start working less.

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The fear that our friends will reject us

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if we stop bending over backwards for them.

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The fear that our children will be unlucky because we're less present.

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Our mind wants to avoid risk at all costs.

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It prefers habits rather than changing and choosing novelty.

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It would rather we run to do whatever it wants than say no,

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stop,

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slow down our pace of life.

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The good news is

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that it's not our mind that decides what we have to do.

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The mind is a wonderful servant.

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We are the ones who decide.

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Me.

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Do you really want to run?

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Do you really want to run?

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Yes,

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so this is a genuine choice.

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You will be happy and shine in your race,

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but

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If your running doesn't make you happy but disgruntled,

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then your mind has got the better of you.

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It's the mind that took over.

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It's the mind that makes you run like a little mouse in its wheel.

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It makes you run at your expense.

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Answer three goes even further.

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We run because we don't want to let go.

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We want to control time

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just like we want to control our life.

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Fill our time to the brim

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just like we fill our life,

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no longer really leaving room for inaction,

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dreams,

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silence,

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emptiness.

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You have to be busy.

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Don't just sit there and do nothing as we heard often in our childhood.

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Empty time scares us.

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We fill in the gaps by grabbing our smartphone to write a text or play a game.

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It is a need of the mind to be in control.

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Letting go is no longer letting yourself be directed by the mind that says do this,

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don't do that,

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and lists our daily tasks,

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repetitive tasks if possible.

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This suits it because it masters it better.

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Our mind controls our schedule.

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It controls our emotions.

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It diminishes our dreams.

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It tells us,

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hurry up or you won't get there.

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It makes us believe

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that the more we control our life,

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the more we make it.

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In fact,

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the more our mind controls our life,

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the less free we are.

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Full freedom is not compatible with this

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control and this constant race against time.

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Let

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go of your to do lists.

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Give yourself regular minutes of breathing,

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silence,

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emptiness.

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Sit for a few minutes without doing anything.

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Slow down when you're in a rush.

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Release the pressure,

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then take action.

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Yes.

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Release the pressure

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before taking action.

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You can be relaxed when everyone else is under pressure.

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You can breathe when everyone else is holding their breath.

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Time is a perception.

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You will become more efficient

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by running less.

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You will be less clumsy,

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more aware,

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more creative,

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more present.

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We have therefore seen that we run to be more,

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to avoid confronting our fears and out of a need for control.

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No longer being a slave to your ego,

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facing your fears,

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and letting go

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will help you take advantage of time and enjoy some good times.

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With the magic of letting go,

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it's even possible to run less and do more.

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