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Everything around us is going faster.
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Every lost moment is transformed into an active moment,
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whether it is real or virtual.
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City dwellers are known to be in a hurry,
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always stressed out chasing time,
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but why do we run?
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That's the question of this video.
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The answer seems obvious.
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We run because we have a lot to do.
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But before as well we had a lot to do,
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but we didn't run as much,
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So we don't run because we have a lot to do.
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because we want to do more than before in one day.
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So my real question is
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why do we want to do more?
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And I have 3 answers.
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We want to do more because we want to be more.
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We want to do more because we think we have to,
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We want to do more because we don't want to let go of anything.
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we run because we want to be more.
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there's always a race.
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The more I train,
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the better I'll become.
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The more I get involved in associations,
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the more I'll be recognized.
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The more work I do,
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the richer I'll be.
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The more information I have,
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the more interesting I will be.
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The more I exercise,
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the more muscular and admired I will be.
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We are looking for status,
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and we believe that we will get it by doing and working more.
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I ran into executives who needed to show they were
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in a hurry in the hallways to feel important,
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executives who said yes to all the meetings they
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were asked to attend because it gave them value.
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We want to be happier,
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so we go to see therapists and wellness specialists more often
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running from one appointment to the other.
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We want to be good parents,
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so we run from the soccer club to the birthday party.
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We want to be good children,
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so we run to please everyone.
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It's not that we must do more.
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It's often that we want to do more.
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We want to do more and we run because it feeds our ego.
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it's not bad to do more.
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You just have to own it.
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I run because I choose to do more.
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And then when you start to run,
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instead of complaining,
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You are no longer an overworked woman who has no choice but to run.
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You're the hyperactive woman who loves to run.
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Running is a choice,
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and if it's too much,
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your body or your emotions will let you know,
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and you might choose to do a little less.
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Let's move to my answer too.
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We want to do more because we are afraid.
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the need to run often hides unconscious fears that are good
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to unmask so as not to be manipulated by these fears.
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We are afraid of the consequences if we don't tick all the points off our to do list.
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We put mental pressure on ourselves to do things.
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We want to do more
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because we fear the judgment and the reaction of others,
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What will happen if I don't do that?
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I have to go and see my parents this weekend.
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I have to stay at work until 7.
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I cannot refuse this assignment from my client
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when my coaches tell me,
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but I have no choice.
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I have to go and see my parents this weekend.
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I have no choice.
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I have to stay until 7 at work.
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I have no choice.
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I have to say yes to my client.
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Of course you do.
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You have a choice.
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What do you want instead?
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To take your time,
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take two days off,
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see friends go fishing.
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if you're not following your real desires,
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then there's definitely some fear involved.
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What are you risking by not going to see your parents this weekend?
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What are you risking by leaving work earlier?
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What are the risks of saying no to the customer?
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Look for the fears,
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then choose to overcome them or not.
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I'm afraid of hurting my parents,
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and yet I choose not to go to see them this weekend.
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I am afraid of my boss's reaction if I leave work early,
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and yet I choose to leave today at 6 p.m.
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I'm afraid of losing my client,
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but I'm going to say no to him anyway.
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Are you running all day and it's exhausting you?
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See what you can remove from your to do list.
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what am I afraid of?
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What is the risk that I am avoiding at all costs?
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Often our fears are delusions of our imagination.
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The fear of being fired if we stand up to our boss or if we start working less.
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The fear that our friends will reject us
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if we stop bending over backwards for them.
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The fear that our children will be unlucky because we're less present.
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Our mind wants to avoid risk at all costs.
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It prefers habits rather than changing and choosing novelty.
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It would rather we run to do whatever it wants than say no,
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slow down our pace of life.
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The good news is
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that it's not our mind that decides what we have to do.
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The mind is a wonderful servant.
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We are the ones who decide.
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Do you really want to run?
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Do you really want to run?
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so this is a genuine choice.
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You will be happy and shine in your race,
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If your running doesn't make you happy but disgruntled,
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then your mind has got the better of you.
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It's the mind that took over.
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It's the mind that makes you run like a little mouse in its wheel.
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It makes you run at your expense.
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Answer three goes even further.
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We run because we don't want to let go.
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We want to control time
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just like we want to control our life.
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Fill our time to the brim
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just like we fill our life,
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no longer really leaving room for inaction,
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You have to be busy.
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Don't just sit there and do nothing as we heard often in our childhood.
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Empty time scares us.
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We fill in the gaps by grabbing our smartphone to write a text or play a game.
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It is a need of the mind to be in control.
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Letting go is no longer letting yourself be directed by the mind that says do this,
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and lists our daily tasks,
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repetitive tasks if possible.
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This suits it because it masters it better.
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Our mind controls our schedule.
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It controls our emotions.
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It diminishes our dreams.
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hurry up or you won't get there.
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It makes us believe
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that the more we control our life,
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the more we make it.
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the more our mind controls our life,
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the less free we are.
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Full freedom is not compatible with this
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control and this constant race against time.
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go of your to do lists.
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Give yourself regular minutes of breathing,
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Sit for a few minutes without doing anything.
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Slow down when you're in a rush.
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Release the pressure,
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then take action.
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Release the pressure
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before taking action.
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You can be relaxed when everyone else is under pressure.
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You can breathe when everyone else is holding their breath.
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Time is a perception.
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You will become more efficient
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by running less.
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You will be less clumsy,
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We have therefore seen that we run to be more,
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to avoid confronting our fears and out of a need for control.
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No longer being a slave to your ego,
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facing your fears,
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will help you take advantage of time and enjoy some good times.
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With the magic of letting go,
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it's even possible to run less and do more.
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