Work-life balance Part 2 Tutorial

Are you ready to take control of your work-life balance? In 'Work-Life Balance Part 2', discover 5 transformative tips to prioritize personal satisfaction amidst your professional duties. From setting boundaries to effective delegation, ensure you're not just surviving, but thriving. Join us and learn how to negotiate both at work and home, all while making empowered choices that align with your true priorities. Don't miss out on these essential insights for personal and professional effectiveness!

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Let's go to part two.

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Here are 5 new tips to help you find

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more personal satisfaction in a good work-life balance.

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We will see

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how to make choices,

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how to take care of yourself,

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and finally,

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how to set boundaries and negotiate both at work and at home.

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After having assimilated

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the first part,

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you have taken a step back from your need to reconcile everything perfectly.

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You have chosen to be a free person rather than a man or a woman of duty.

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You accept being criticized and you are no longer manipulated by guilt.

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Perfect.

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The four healthy and stable foundations are laid,

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you will finally be able to choose and prioritize.

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Yes,

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you have to make choices because you can't do everything and

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you can make choices because you are not indispensable.

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Set your priorities by fundamentally listening

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to your intuition on all the decisions to be made.

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Make a realistic list of commitments you will not compromise on your priorities.

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If your utmost priority is to be present with your family,

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plan it as well as possible,

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be aligned and stay in peace while facing the

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pressure or reproaches of your colleagues and bosses.

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Clearly announce your arrival and departure times to the teams.

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Don't bring work home with you and stick to it without

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guilt.

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If you feel that today investing in your work

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by pushing your career forward is your priority,

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do the same.

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Organize it as well as possible,

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be clear with your loved ones and live this choice serenely without

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giving up because of the pressure of reproaches of your entourage.

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Just do your best.

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Choosing and prioritizing also means

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prioritizing professional files and assignments.

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This is the mission I accept.

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This is the one I refuse.

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This is what I can do between now and tomorrow.

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This is what will wait until next week.

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It also means prioritizing the family moments and events

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in which you really want to be present.

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Being there for my daughter's dance recital.

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That doesn't mean being present at all her dance classes.

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It means prioritizing time for you.

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Do you have a painting class every Monday night?

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Let your professional and personal environment know

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that this is a time when you will not

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be available and if you start sacrificing your class,

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everyone,

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including you,

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will deduce that 1,

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it's not that important,

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and 2,

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it's easy to make you switch to other priorities.

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Choosing and prioritizing will push you to delegate.

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That's my second piece of advice.

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Delegate what you can't or don't want to do anymore.

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Delegate to family,

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spouse,

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children.

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We'll see it in detail later,

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but also delegate at work,

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especially if you are a manager.

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To delegate,

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you will have to take risks in trusting employees

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with files which will allow them to develop.

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Delegate even if the novelty of the file may initially generate mistakes.

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Delegating as a leader also sometimes means controlling less or better

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by setting up a dashboard and an efficient reporting system,

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for example.

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It is important to know that delegation represents a short-term overload of work

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since it requires training and monitoring an employee

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until they are autonomous enough for you

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to lay back.

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In the medium and long term,

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you will save a lot of time.

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Tip number 3,

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think of yourself.

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Regrettably,

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time for oneself often comes last.

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So this video is an opportunity to remind you

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of what you already know.

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Take time for yourself,

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take care of yourself.

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Time for social life,

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time to go to the movies,

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to the theater,

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to exhibitions,

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time to play sport.

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To meditate,

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time to travel,

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time to read,

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time to create,

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time to dream,

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to reflect or simply to breathe.

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Plan your break times on your calendar.

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Don't let anyone hold you up for a meeting when you have planned a longer lunch break.

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Mostly,

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allow yourself to breaks that will get your head out of the grindstone,

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even if you're fully absorbed in an exciting job.

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Lift your head up,

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get back into your body and heart and breathe.

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30 seconds is enough.

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Take advantage of these mini moments of mindfulness

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and perspective to ask yourself the question,

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What do I want now?

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What do I want now?

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Put yourself back at the center of the life balance equation.

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Those who say they are satisfied with their private and professional life balance,

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less than 50%,

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listen to their needs and desires more.

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Studies say that we feel balanced in our life whether professional or personal.

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1,

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when we receive love recognition.

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2,

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when we feel that we have influence,

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power over our life.

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3,

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when the work is stimulating,

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and 4,

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when we have good relationships.

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Perhaps it is on these 4 points that more action should be taken.

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Let's move on to the 4th tip.

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Setting your boundaries and negotiating at work,

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too many people don't ask because they are so sure that they will either be told no

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in return or they will be frowned upon.

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Express your requests,

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express your requests in an assertive and serene manner without complaining,

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without being demanding,

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without feeling like a victim.

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You can say,

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for example,

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I can't handle this additional file,

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or at least not until next Friday.

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Say I don't want anyone attached to my team without my input.

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I don't have the time to train someone.

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I need someone who is directly operational.

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Say

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I'm getting too much information from you by email.

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I don't want to be copied on everything.

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Let's go over what information I really need.

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Say I need an extra person now to replace the person on leave.

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I will not be present in the meeting on Tuesday

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at 8 a.m. This schedule does not suit me.

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I am willing to take on this new project on the condition

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that I can relieve myself of such a file.

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Set clear boundaries on your schedule,

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ideally as soon as you start the job.

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Reset the boundaries if you let yourself slip.

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It's never too late.

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Give yourself the right to disconnect.

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Say that you do not take calls after 6

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p.m. and that you won't answer emails on vacation.

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You don't have to be reachable at all hours.

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Turn off your cell phone sometimes.

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Educate your superiors,

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your employees,

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your colleagues,

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and even your clients.

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Don't always be reactive and always present on non-priority requests.

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Let people find their own solutions.

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Even if they will resent you a little,

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they will learn to be more autonomous and you will be less and less bothered.

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When you are called for help while on vacation,

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if you feel that it is not urgent,

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let 1 or 2 days go by and then text back saying that you can now be reached.

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2 times out of 3,

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the problem will have been solved.

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You were not so indispensable.

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Try it.

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Find support among your colleagues,

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someone who wants to leave early like you,

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or who wants to go to the pool at lunchtime.

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Someone who will defend their right to negotiate

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a new telecommuting agreement with the management.

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Don't give up at the first refusal,

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insist and come back if it's really important to you.

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Look for options.

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Negotiate.

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Sheryl Sandberg,

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chief operating officer for Facebook,

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explains that she was able to negotiate to be

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home at 6:30 at night and reopen her computer

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two hours after the kids go to bed.

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Decide beforehand what to do if your requests are not taken into account.

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If all your requests are refused,

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it is either totally legitimate or that you have not been assertive enough,

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or that it is time to call for help or to open up to other positions.

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One last piece of advice when you say no to a file,

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a meeting,

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a deadline,

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don't try to justify yourself right away.

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Affirm your choice without having to explain

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that you are not doing well or that your child

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is sick or that your husband is away on business.

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As the old saying goes,

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he who apologizes blames himself.

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Fifth and final tip

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Make your partner a full-time partner,

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as Sheryl Sandberg says in her book,

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Lean in women,

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work,

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and the will to lead.

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There are successful examples of people who

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combine their professional and personal lives,

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not always perfectly,

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but in any case with self-fulfillment.

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In addition to the fact that they have learnt not to feel guilty,

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they have above all been able to make their partner an ally in this quest for balance.

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I am talking more specifically to women in this last section,

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but I invite men to continue listening

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because more and more of them

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have the same questions about how to

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reconcile their professional and family lives.

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Before I do that,

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I would like to come back to a few studies that will

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perhaps alleviate the pressure you put on yourself regarding your children.

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According to an NICHD study,

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the National Institute for Child Health and Human Development in 2006,

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children placed in their mother's exclusive care did not develop any differently

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than those who were also being taken care of by third parties.

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According to the same observatory,

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the fact that a mother cares exclusively for her child is

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not correlated with a worse or better future for the child.

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Mothers therefore have no reason to convince themselves

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that they harm their child by choosing to work.

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I know I'm not going to teach you anything by telling you that it's better

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to be a confident and fulfilled mother

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than a perfect one,

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that your fulfillment is much better gift to give to others than perfection.

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Aim for fulfillment rather than perfection.

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Negotiating with your partner and family is the cornerstone of your life balance.

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By negotiating,

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you become an active player again rather than having to endure

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internal and societal constraints on your leading role at home.

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The last II study showed that women spent 1.5 hours more on domestic chores,

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including time with children,

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than men.

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To help some women understand this investment gap in an objective way,

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I sometimes had them make an Excel chart of the hours spent on these domestic tasks.

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Often men can be a great help because they know how to say,

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you're doing too much,

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it's not that important.

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The children can handle it.

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Do you listen to them?

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I have coached women who were overworked at

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home criticizing the spouse's way of doing things.

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I have heard I'm the one who makes all the meals because if I let my husband do it,

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it won't be healthy.

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I can't leave him alone with the kids for a weekend

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with my girlfriends because he won't know how to do it.

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Prioritizing,

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delegating to your children and your partner also means accepting that you are not

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indispensable and accepting that everything is not

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done according to your perfect vision.

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With your partner,

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the first step may be to calmly establish a list of household tasks to be completed.

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Their priority and who does what for the moment with a mind map or Excel table,

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for example.

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I insist on your state of mind.

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You will not be able to build

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and negotiate anything constructive with your children

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and partners if you do so in an attitude of complaint or demand.

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Don't try to make your partner feel guilty.

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Do not come to them as a victim,

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but as an assertive and lucid woman aware that she

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is also 100% responsible for the state of affairs.

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After having made this inventory of tasks,

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you will be able to express your needs and look for solutions

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together.

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Here are a few ideas that will help you improve your balance.

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To make the children more responsible for certain tasks,

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setting the table,

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folding laundry,

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doing their homework,

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prohibiting your children from bothering you at certain times,

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accepting that your child has one less hobby,

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no more violin,

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because it's too much for you to handle,

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alternating driving the kids to kindergarten between you and your companion.

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Hiring a babysitter more often or a housekeeper or a

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school tutor to help the children with their homework.

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Of course this has a cost,

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but it can be largely covered by your next promotion.

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Decide that half the time your spouse should take the day off when your child is sick.

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Let your partner do more shopping,

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cooking,

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even if it's not as good.

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Take a weekend with friends every 4 months,

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ordering groceries online or having a pizza delivered once a week.

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Cleaning only once every 2 weeks instead of twice a week,

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leaving the children to family and friends more often,

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even if it means watching their children from time to time,

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reserving Thursday evenings for you,

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either to go out or to stay late at work

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while your partner takes care of everything at home.

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Come with a multitude of solutions,

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brainstorm with your partner.

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Talk about how important your career and life balance is to you.

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Weigh the pros and cons of each idea and make decisions,

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then test the new system with your entourage and your children.

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That's it.

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Thank you for watching this cycle of 2 videos on life balance.

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A reminder of the 5 tips in this video.

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1,

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prioritize,

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make choices and own them.

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2,

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delegate at work.

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3,

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think about yourself.

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4,

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assert yourself and negotiate at work,

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and 5,

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make your partner a full-time partner.

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