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From Submission to Respect - Tanguy's Evolution Tutorial

Discover the transformative journey of Tanguy in 'From Submission to Respect - Tanguy's Evolution.' This engaging video explores his struggle with respect for age and hierarchy, leading to coaching that reveals the true meaning of reciprocal respect. Witness how Tanguy learns to foster healthier relationships with colleagues through assertiveness and courage. Don't miss this essential exploration of personal growth!

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who places great importance on respect,

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specifically respect for age and respect for hierarchy.

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Tension with some colleagues led his manager Amelia to suggest coaching.

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Initially reluctant,

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seeing coaching as proof of incompetence he didn't recognize,

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he eventually accepted,

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understanding it as a real investment offered by his company.

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His coach helped him articulate the imbalanced relationships he established

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by hiding behind these two values of respect for age

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and respect for hierarchy.

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He discovered that his fatigue was partly due to this imbalanced respect.

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He bowed and bent before any one older and every hierarchical superior.

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He always agreed with them,

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suppressed his opinions when he thought differently,

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put them on a pedestal,

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and considered them wiser and more intelligent than him in every respect.

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He sometimes let them belittle and educate

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him like a child without saying anything.

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His coach then helped him establish an equal relationship with these people.

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She assisted him in differentiating respect from submission.

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He eventually realized that respect must always be reciprocal

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and that no one was superior to him.

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Having passed this first stage of coaching,

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Tongy understood on his own where the tensions

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were with some of his colleagues came from.

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He particularly displayed an attitude of superiority

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towards younger and less competent colleagues.

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He felt they should respect him and bow as he had done to his superiors.

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He was neither their boss nor their father,

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but he often spoke to them as such,

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giving advice and reprimanding here and there when it wasn't his place.

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He admitted that he looked down on them,

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taking offense at any lack of respect for his age and competency superiority.

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Unfortunately,

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his respect was not reciprocal.

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In a final coaching session,

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he decided to broaden his value of respect and reserve it

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not only for elders' superiors but for all his colleagues.

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Tongy will always remember his coach's last words.

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Remember,

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Tongy,

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if you do not consider the other as an equal,

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you create a toxic relationship.

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