Getting out of your comfort zone– part 2 Tutorial

Ready to break free from your routine? In "Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone – Part 2", we unveil powerful strategies to embrace change and foster self-confidence. Discover the antidotes to fear, step-by-step approaches, and how to connect with mentors to enrich your journey. Don't miss this opportunity to transform challenges into growth and explore the incredible gains awaiting you outside your comfort zone!

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will evidently help you make one discovery

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after another while also better managing periods

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and situations of stress and change.

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You will be accustomed to facing unusual situations

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that require adaptability and self-confidence.

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In this second part of comfort zone,

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we will study

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the antidotes,

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the strategies

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and gains we get from stepping out of the known and routine zone.

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Let's start with the antidotes to come out of the comfort zone.

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What does stimulate us to the point where we go beyond natural mind risk aversion

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to go and explore an unknown world,

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an uncontrolled world,

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to have new experiences?

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Why?

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Do certain people easily make a step towards newness

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where some others stay sclerotic in their routine,

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remain in years for the same job,

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spend their vacation in the same place,

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and never make new friendships,

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always repeating the same things in the same ways.

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The antidote number one is confidence,

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confidence in oneself

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and confidence in life.

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I believe in myself.

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I know I'll know how to face whatever challenges come my way,

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and there will always be challenges when we explore a new road.

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I believe in myself.

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I'll know how to bounce.

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I'll know how to face critiques and failures.

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I'll know how to take a step back when I took a wrong step

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without feeling guilty and ashamed.

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It's not.

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I believe in myself.

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I will make it.

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It's 100% sure.

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It's,

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I would believe in myself,

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and even though I don't succeed,

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it would still have been a good experience.

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Those who say they believe in themselves and think failure out of the question

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are unconscious.

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Those who say they believe in themselves,

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while admitting that failure is a possibility

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and it will be fertile,

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are brave.

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Those ones don't necessarily push towards change.

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They follow their natural flow.

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The natural flow

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that brings life and professional turning points that

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puts intuition and desire in everybody's heart.

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Those

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are above all open to change.

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In a corporate personality test that I often give to managers and executives,

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multiple items concern this capacity to step out of the comfort zone.

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Freedom of action,

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sense of challenge,

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curiosity of mind,

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resistance of stress,

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capacity to step out of conformist ideas.

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Self-confidence and openness are what push people outside of their comfort zone.

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To dare launch a new product,

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to dare delegate a new mission to a young collaborator,

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to change the routine of service meetings,

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propose to the hierarchy a transversal project.

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Dare to change supplier,

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dare to expand telecommuting

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with self-confidence comes also the precious gift of resilience,

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capacity to bounce forward in spite of difficulties,

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critiques,

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and failures.

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Mandela always said I never lose.

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Either I win or I learn.

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The second antidote,

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connect with your intuition.

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When an intuition,

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a desire for change,

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makes its way in you,

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even in the way you report with your hierarchy,

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collaboration among services,

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or the after sales service process,

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our mind or a peer's mind

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makes fast paces to tell us that it's not the right thing,

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that it'll be too complicated.

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In short,

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to muffle our inclination to change,

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our creative flow is killed before the egg is hatched.

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Personal development helps to reconnect with one's intuition,

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desires,

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worth,

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and missions.

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To listen to what we really want

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and establish a concrete strategy to transform

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these intuitions and desires to achievable objectives.

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That's how I accompany my coaches.

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Sometimes I ask them to define

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what their department would ideally look like in 3 years,

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and then we work to develop a strategy around that

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bypassing auto censorship,

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obstacles and fears.

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I love asking this question.

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What would you do if you were no longer afraid?

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How would you transform your work,

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your department,

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lead your job restructuring if you were not afraid,

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not afraid of failure,

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not afraid of rejection,

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not afraid of being fired.

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Move forward with one's fears.

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That's my third antidote.

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Yes,

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some fears are raised themselves easily.

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Others last at least for a while.

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If we wait until we're no longer afraid,

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it is doomed.

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As long as we have not integrated our internal fearful aspects,

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there will always be a small or a big voice in us that says,

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Don't go,

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don't do this.

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Of course we are afraid of stepping out of one's comfort zone.

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It's normal.

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The unknown is scary.

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Many people are afraid of starting a new job,

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speaking in public,

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meeting an important client.

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Human beings are vulnerable when they stand in

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a zone where they don't control everything.

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Moving forward with one's fears is a way to find

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so that fears neither stop us from acting nor make us step backwards.

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Personal development helps in this.

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Stepping out of one's comfort zone is finding a new.

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Grip on one's life,

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making the desire for change jump over the barrier of fears.

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The adventure of life starts where our comfort zone ends.

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Inside the comfort zone we imitate and repeat.

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Outside of the comfort zone,

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we experiment,

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we create,

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we develop ourselves.

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Antidote number 4 reality shock.

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When neither self-confidence nor connection with inner desires have

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helped us step out of our comfort zone,

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what's left?

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The reality shock.

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A reality shock can take many forms sufferance and overflow.

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I feel too bad.

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This must change.

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I need to get out of there.

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It's no longer possible.

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We can no longer function with this mindset.

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We cannot accept to work under these conditions with this client.

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I can no longer go to work with this stress not in the stomach every morning.

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Stop,

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enough.

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Things are becoming so bad

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that that is a wake up call.

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I'm ready to step out of my comfort zone,

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of my control zone,

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in order to save myself.

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These situations arrive when we have resisted the natural flow of change for days.

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years

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we end up realizing

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that it is our refusal of change,

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refusal of exploring life outside our comfort zone

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that is ruining our life.

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We cannot stand it anymore,

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so we jump the bridge a little later,

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but it's never too late.

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Run for your life outside your comfort zone towards something new.

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The reality shock that brings us outside of our comfort zone can take another form,

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an ultimate form,

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I'd say,

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the imposed breakup,

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the wave of change so strong

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that it breaks our fears and resistance.

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We find ourselves undergoing an imposed reorganization by the management.

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Undergoing a relocation,

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dismissal,

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an accident,

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a burnout,

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depression,

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separation,

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a tidal wave comes at us.

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Those are difficult breakups

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that will usually break the barriers that we thought were impenetrable.

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In the second part of this video,

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let's talk about two voluntary strategies to step out of one's comfort zone.

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Strategy 1,

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take small steps.

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What first tiny steps can you make to step out of your daily comfort zone?

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Take a shared ride to work,

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have lunch with a former colleague.

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Express your idea during a meeting.

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Review your work organization or join a professional network,

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or maybe attend some public speaking training.

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Join the digitalization working group.

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Go to the swimming pool during your lunch break.

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Choose little actions that will trigger a desire and nourish a value.

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Make a step outside of your comfort zone,

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step by step,

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and celebrate your victories.

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You spoke in a meeting.

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Have a drink with your spouse.

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Please don't be in a moralizing dictator mood,

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saying it's about time I speak up in a meeting.

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I finally did it,

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but what I said was uninteresting.

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Rather say yes,

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I finally did it.

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Here's a challenge I've finally won.

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Next time I'll be even more comfortable and more impactful.

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Baby steps should be celebrated.

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Yahoo!

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I managed to call an angry client.

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Yahoo!

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I used this collaborative tool.

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Strategy too

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is a leap into the void.

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For some,

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a leap of faith will be the best strategy to come out of their comfort zone.

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Do you want to change your position in a company,

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announce to your hierarchy that in 6 months from

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now you'd like to transfer from your position to another

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and organize your departure.

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You can no longer step back.

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Do you want to find a new house?

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Terminate your lease.

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Do you want to organize a team building with your team?

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Announce the date for the meeting.

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Even if you don't know either the budget nor the content,

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a leap into the void is taking action

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or an announcement that will make it hard to step back.

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It's being smarter than our fears and our procrastination tendencies.

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Strategy 3,

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find mentors.

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You're longing for change,

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but you're scared.

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You don't know if you're capable of it

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or if you'd know how to do it.

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Find yourself some models,

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some mentors,

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people who did it or know how to do what you're planning to do.

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For instance,

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people who know how to reframe

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or how are creative or who delegate with assurance,

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then

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model their behavior.

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Modeling is the process of recreating excellence.

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Find models,

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successful managers who don't work over 40 hours a week.

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How do they do it?

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Ask them.

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Who are your models?

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Mentoring is sometimes organized by HR departments.

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Nothing stopping you from asking a person to become your mentor

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during a limited period

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or on a certain project.

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You will be the manager of two departments that are merging.

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A mentor will help you.

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You admire the sense of strategy and risk taking of a manager,

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get inspired from them

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and develop the same qualities.

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What is out of your comfort zone is within Paul's comfort zone.

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Get inspired from him and ask him for advice.

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In conclusion,

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outside the comfort zone is a magical zone,

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a virgin experience zone where everything can happen.

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Failure certainly,

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which isn't but a learning opportunity

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but also extraordinary and unexpected things

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in this magical zone.

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Synchronicities and self-realization emerge.

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We will find new ways and we will become someone else.

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But for this to happen,

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we must dare to lose control and self-control while being fully conscious.

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In this state of mindfulness,

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we will discover what we can be in a zone of experience,

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of novelty,

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while being confident,

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laid back and relaxed.

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That is my final word.

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We can go out of our comfort zone,

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otherwise known as the zone of the known,

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all while being comfortable,

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happy and relaxed.

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We can explore the unknown in all comfort.

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