Practicing Self-love : taking care of yourself Tutorial

Unlock the power of self-love with "Practicing Self-Love: Taking Care of Yourself." This enlightening video dives into actionable steps you can take to cherish yourself deeply. Discover affirmations, successes, and the importance of treating yourself like royalty. Learn how prioritizing your needs enriches your self-esteem and reveals your intrinsic value. Are you ready to embark on this transformative journey?

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your desires,

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is to love yourself.

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You tell me you love me.

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Prove it to me,

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say some young lovers.

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Do you choose to love yourself?

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Give yourself proof of this love,

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no matter your level of self-esteem or

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self-confidence that your brain will have evaluated.

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Your self-esteem is 4.7 out of 10.

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It's poor.

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Your mind will tell you,

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no matter.

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To practice self-love is to take action.

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By these acts that prove your self-love,

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you send messages to the brain that you are important,

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that you are valuable.

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There are 3 recognized ways to boost self-esteem.

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One,

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by affirmations.

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I can direct my thoughts positively by repeating,

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for example,

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affirmations such as

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I am a valuable person.

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I love myself and accept myself as I am

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with all my qualities and imperfections.

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It can work in the long run

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if you haven't given up before you see results.

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Second option by the race for success,

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I can steer my action until I hope I end up loving myself.

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Do a makeover,

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follow training courses to feel more competent.

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Do theater to be less shy.

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If and when successes,

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I will esteem myself more and more.

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It can work in the long run if you know how to recognize your successes.

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And above all,

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if you have managed to overcome your lack of self-esteem to create real victories,

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some succeed

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those who know how to grit their teeth.

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Finally,

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by practicing self-love through deeds,

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the third option consists actually in reversing the logic of it all.

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Just love yourself

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as if you are an infinite value,

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as if you are the most precious person you have ever met.

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To love you,

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to take care of yourself,

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to spoil you,

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to serve you as if you were a sovereign.

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In this option,

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we forget the rather sterile questions of type.

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Do I value myself and why don't I like myself?

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Ah,

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that must be because my parents never valued me,

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I will explain to you.

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What?

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You don't want me to tell you my whole story to

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confirm that I have good reasons not to love myself?

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OK,

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I'll go and tell a psychiatrist.

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Ah,

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psychiatrists are not going to like me,

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I think.

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There are some excellent ones.

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So the third option

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is to put aside the questions,

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why don't I like myself and what can I do to value myself.

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The 3rd option is to take care of yourself.

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Pretend you are a highly esteemed,

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wonderful person,

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which is what you are.

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Take care of yourself 1st,

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1st class,

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and others will start to think you are valuable.

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Take care of yourself first class,

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and you will eventually know what it is to be of immense value.

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It is through experience that you will integrate the certainty of your greatness.

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Then you will feel your greatness like the Rose of the Little Prince

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by Saint-Exupery.

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It's because he gives this rose all of his attention and care that

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his rose is extraordinary more than all the others in the public garden.

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It's the time you spent on your rose

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that makes your rose so important.

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How much time are you willing to devote to the rose that you are

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to make you an important,

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a valuable person?

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You will gain in self-esteem and self-confidence.

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It's worth it,

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isn't it?

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We started with a complicated question.

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How can I gain self-esteem?

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To come up with a simple question How do I take care of myself?

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So

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to encourage you to experience self-love,

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experience taking care of yourself,

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I recommend

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to sit on your throne in your royal clothes and the skeer in your hand and to breathe.

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Here are some ideas and advice addressed to the sovereign in you.

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Tip one.

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Stop criticizing yourself right away.

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Send to oblivion any aspect of yourself that blames you.

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A sovereign does not allow himself to be criticized by his subjects.

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You can hit the ground with your scepter and say,

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guards,

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and the critical aspect of you will be removed from the throne room.

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The sovereign does not castigate himself.

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He assumes what certain aspects and subjects call his weaknesses,

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his imperfections,

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his shadows.

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He lives with what he is royally.

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Tip 2.

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Take care of your body

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without condition,

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without asking it to be more like this or less like that.

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The sovereign loves even his plump body.

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He does not punish his body.

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He covers it with jewelry and the finest clothes.

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He has it massaged by the best masseurs in the kingdom.

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He eats subtle and delicious foods.

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He bathes in donkey milk.

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Tip number 3.

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Listen

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to your wants and needs.

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The desires and needs of the sovereign are orders.

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He doesn't wonder if he deserves to buy a new thoroughbred Arabian horse.

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The sovereign knows his needs on the physical,

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emotional,

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relational,

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and spiritual levels and does everything to fulfill them.

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Tip number 4 rest.

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The sovereign,

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if he feels like taking a break,

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snaps his fingers and has his bed prepared.

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He's ready to cancel dates and make loved ones wait

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for rest first.

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Besides,

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if the king falls asleep

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during an interview,

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everyone tiptoes away.

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Hush,

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the king is sleeping.

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Tip 5,

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be satisfied with yourself.

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The sovereign has a high opinion of himself and often congratulates himself.

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What a great idea I had.

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How proud I am of my victory.

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Oh,

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let's have a banquet to honor the completion of construction of my new resort.

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Let's organize a banquet because I'm back after a long journey.

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Let's celebrate and honor my presence.

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There are listeners that my metaphor of the

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sovereign will have delighted and others disturbed.

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Why not see yourself as a sovereign?

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Is loving yourself so hard?

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Yes,

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when you have a moralistic belief system

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that constantly wants to limit

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self-love,

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are you one of those people who limit their love for yourself?

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Certainly like all of us,

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we are imbued with a mass consciousness that tells us.

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That we have to put others before ourselves,

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that we must not be too selfish,

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that you shouldn't be too narcissistic,

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that we should not think of ourselves as the center of the earth.

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Why not take in yourself for a god while you're at it,

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a little restraint,

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humility out of pity?

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We have learnt not to love ourselves,

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not to take care of ourselves,

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not to find ourselves beautiful looking at ourselves in the mirror.

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Who do you take yourself for,

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we are told.

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Or do we say ourselves,

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stay in your place,

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but what is my place?

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Staying small,

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keeping a low profile,

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not to disturb anyone.

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Staying small and refrain so that people continue to love me

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because there is a bit of it.

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We find it hard to love those who think they are the navel of the world,

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those who put themselves first.

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And we are afraid of being rejected ourselves

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if we act with this sovereign arrogance.

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Oh no,

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my dear,

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Mum is not going to cook with you tonight.

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Mum goes to the cinema with a friend.

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Oh no,

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boss,

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I'm not going to return this file tonight.

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I have a course on self-confidence to finish.

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That online training has been offered by the company's training department.

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Can we love each other enough to dare this egoism,

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this narcissism,

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this arrogance?

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So yes,

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here's a final piece of self love advice.

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It is not to feel guilty

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and to assume with laughter our decisions and behavior as sovereigns,

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particularly in front of those who will blame us

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for taking care of us first before serving them.

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Yes,

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of course I am the center of the world,

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the navel of the earth,

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insomuch as I am the most important person entrusted to me until my death.

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What a responsibility.

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So

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when will you serve yourself by looking at yourself as that most important person?

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When will you choose to take care of yourself first

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unconditionally?

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Retired?

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I know some who have said that,

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and upon retirement,

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they returned to the service of their grandchildren.

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Why not

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if you're really happy with it.

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But remember that by loving yourself,

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by taking care of yourself first,

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you are teaching others to do the same for them.

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What a gift.

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Who other than yourself

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can tell you that you are valuable?

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The others?

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No,

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don't expect that from them.

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They have more to do than constantly value you.

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They have to take care of themselves.

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Do not turn them away from themselves with your own thirst to be loved.

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Personally,

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this is what I call egoism.

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Egoism is not loving yourself and therefore forcing others to love you

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to feed your self-esteem.

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Egoism is not taking care of yourself and so waiting for others to do that for you.

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You are the one who spends most time with yourself.

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Show yourself that you are valuable by taking care of yourself,

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the way you talk to yourself,

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the way you take care of your body,

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the way you accept your weaknesses,

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the way you show kindness to yourself.

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Let's start now.

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What first little gesture of love can you do for yourself right now?

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What is the sovereign that you are asking for?

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